Caught in the act!

[enjuedevi88]

Hey guys!
Okay, I'm in need of some advice.
My fiancee went to the bathroom the other morning about two hours before he had to be at work. He was in there a while, so I peeked through a crack in the door to tease him about how long his craps take when I spotted him whacking it to a magazine right there on the toilet.
Two feelings washed over me: hurt and hornyness. It hurt me and confused me pretty bad, even though I know it's selfish of me to feel that way. I was hurt that he choose to get off in a locked bathroom rather than with me. Believe me, it isn't that I'm unapproachable; I am constantly horny and thinking of sex, and he knows it. I held my tongue until just before we made love later that day and I confronted him about it. He said it was both force of habit and a way he wakes up when he's tired in the morning.
Am I a bitch for feeling hurt? It's not like I want him to stop, I'd just rather he did it in front of me because it really turns me on.
Any advice for how to get over this minor incident but major hurt would be grandly appreciated!
Love,
enjuedevi88

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

An old joke. A man is caught masturbating, and his angry girlfriend confronts him. "Honey, you're good," he explains, "But I'm better."

When he says it's just habit, honestly, that's all it is. A man's private little five minute vacation. (We can do it in one minute if we really have to.) We know just what to do, and sometimes we don't want to put a whole lot of effort into it. So it's a private, quick thing that shouldn't distress you in the least.

We're men.
It's a penis.
Welcome to our world.

 

[Patryn]

Masturbating is also a way of feeling good without having to worry about pleasing your partner. Don't take it personally.

 

[Budokan]

I agree with Dixon and Patryn: it's not any kind of a slur on your womanhood. We men can chew gum and masturbate at the same time (no, really, we can)...don't take it personally. It's just the way we're genetically hard-wired.

 

[dancinvixen]

DCL, I do not know if I could agree with you. I was married at the tender age of 20 (before my current husband) and my ex husband had a problem. Let me start from where it began. I was about 5 1/2 months pregnant and he threw a party (drugs included). Well the party got out of hand, and I ended up almost losing the baby. After that my drs. said no sex because it would kill the baby (the baby is now a very precocoius 5 y.o.) Since then and for the remainder of our 11 month marriage, we only had sex about three times. The rest of that time he spent on the couch with a dirty magazine masturbating. Now I don't have a problem with masturbation unless it becomes an obsession. His was an obsession. Then I found out his little secret, he didn't want me because I was not a virgin. Talk about a blow to a woman's self esteem. It took me a long time to get over that. Especially when the (girl he was seeing on the side, 15 to my then 21) her Marine corps brother came to my house and started in on me about keeping my husband in check. I was completely devastated.