Caught Daughter Giving Oral Sex

[Explorer2204]

Last thursday night at about 230 in morning i had gotten up to use the bathroom, as i was walking passed our front bay window i saw a car parked in front of the house. I didnt give it much thought because i was in a daze, after going to the bathroom i saw car was still parked out there and it seemed out of place for that time of night. I went upstairs to get a better look out window to see who was in there. To my shock it was my daughter in the middle of messing around with a man. Im not the snooping type but this is a dilemma for me because my daughter is engaged to be married october 9th, the man she was with was not her fiance'. I havent confronted her or told my ex wife (her mother) yet and not sure what to do. Anyone have a situation like this before?

 

[Islander55]

Why should you do anything. I assume your daughter is of legal age if she is to be married. I am sure she is not the first girl to sow a few oats before saying I do

 

[dave's thing]

I agree with Islander. Do not get snoopy unless you are going to enjoy it.
Maybe it was the best man? Maybe it was a good bye thing

 

[ParkerSteve66]

Maybe...

I agree with Islander. Do not get snoopy unless you are going to enjoy it.
Maybe it was the best man? Maybe it was a good bye thing

Maybe she just likes sucking cock. There is no reason to believe it is other than that.

 

[CarlyAnn]

Maybe it was the cockring bearer.

 

[hpycpl]

Maybe it was the cockring bearer.

Hahahaha!

Too funny!

 

[Muwarr90]

Did it look like she was doing a good job?

 

[pplwatching]

I would not hesitate to offer guidance and advice to either of my adult kids if I felt that it were appropriate. While I think that adult children need to make their own decisions and live with the consequences and repercussions, they don't always make fully informed decisions. In your shoes, I would consider telling my daughter that in my opinion engagement is a time when she should be completely focused on her relationship with her future husband and trying to build and strengthen it. I would say that she might be wise to consider whether her infidelity is a sign that perhaps she's not ready for that kind of commitment.

 

[Explorer2204]

Maybe it was the cockring bearer.

I have to give it to you that is actually very funny haha

 

[Explorer2204]

I agree with Islander. Do not get snoopy unless you are going to enjoy it.
Maybe it was the best man? Maybe it was a good bye thing

Im not sure who it was ive never seen the man before.. Only know he drives a white range rover & seemed to be in his early - mid 40s.

 

[OldFred65]

Tell her you won't tell her fiancee if she give you a blow job, or more!

 

[JerseyJade]

Last thursday night at about 230 in morning i had gotten up to use the bathroom, as i was walking passed our front bay window i saw a car parked in front of the house. I didnt give it much thought because i was in a daze, after going to the bathroom i saw car was still parked out there and it seemed out of place for that time of night. I went upstairs to get a better look out window to see who was in there. To my shock it was my daughter in the middle of messing around with a man. Im not the snooping type but this is a dilemma for me because my daughter is engaged to be married october 9th, the man she was with was not her fiance'. I havent confronted her or told my ex wife (her mother) yet and not sure what to do. Anyone have a situation like this before?

Geez, Dad! Can't a girl just have some fun?! You always have to make a big thing out of nothing! And to make things worst, you have to blab it all over Lit! I so can't wait to get married so I can get out of this house! Good Lord!

 

[richdon03]

I would not hesitate to offer guidance and advice to either of my adult kids if I felt that it were appropriate. While I think that adult children need to make their own decisions and live with the consequences and repercussions, they don't always make fully informed decisions. In your shoes, I would consider telling my daughter that in my opinion engagement is a time when she should be completely focused on her relationship with her future husband and trying to build and strengthen it. I would say that she might be wise to consider whether her infidelity is a sign that perhaps she's not ready for that kind of commitment.

I agree with you. I would say something to her, especially if I liked and respected my prospective son-in-law.

 

[DarkWhispers2U]

I would not hesitate to offer guidance and advice to either of my adult kids if I felt that it were appropriate. While I think that adult children need to make their own decisions and live with the consequences and repercussions, they don't always make fully informed decisions. In your shoes, I would consider telling my daughter that in my opinion engagement is a time when she should be completely focused on her relationship with her future husband and trying to build and strengthen it. I would say that she might be wise to consider whether her infidelity is a sign that perhaps she's not ready for that kind of commitment.

This. Totally this.

 

[betamale30]

Did your cheating slut daughter swallow?

 

[yukonnights]

Personally, I would say nothing to her. It'll just be awkward for all involved, she's an adult and should be afforded adult privacy. I would also assume that I have no idea of what sexual kinks she and her fiance' are into — they may be in an open relationship, etc.

I also think that if it is cheating, the opportunity to instill your ideas of right and wrong has already passed. Which could lead to an argument and a rift in your relationship with your daughter. I can see no good outcome in confronting her.

 

[FL30]

Geez, Dad! Can't a girl just have some fun?! You always have to make a big thing out of nothing! And to make things worst, you have to blab it all over Lit! I so can't wait to get married so I can get out of this house! Good Lord!

LOL, that's funny and probably what she would say!

 

[JerseyJade]

LOL, that's funny and probably what she would say!

I know, right? That's what I would have said.

 

[Clk5002006]

Maybe it was her fiancé in a borrowed car?

 

[FL30]

Last thursday night at about 230 in morning i had gotten up to use the bathroom, as i was walking passed our front bay window i saw a car parked in front of the house. I didnt give it much thought because i was in a daze, after going to the bathroom i saw car was still parked out there and it seemed out of place for that time of night. I went upstairs to get a better look out window to see who was in there. To my shock it was my daughter in the middle of messing around with a man. Im not the snooping type but this is a dilemma for me because my daughter is engaged to be married october 9th, the man she was with was not her fiance'. I havent confronted her or told my ex wife (her mother) yet and not sure what to do. Anyone have a situation like this before?

If she's over 18, you have NO right to say anything to her or to tell her anything at all. The time for that was before she turned 18 which was probably a while ago.

If you say anything to her you will jeopardize your relationship with her and it could possibly even end it.

It is NOT your place to judge her for what she was doing. SHE made the decision to do whatever it was that she was doing - regardless of the consequences (if there are any).

You don't know the circumstances, the reason or even the context of why she was doing what she was doing.

You need to stay out of it and just keep it a secret that only you will ever know.

If her relationship with her fiance suffers then that is on her and NOT you. Let her live her life and deal with her issues/mistakes based on her decisions.

If she comes to you or your ex later for some advice, then you can give her some based on what she tells you and only on what she tells you - not on what you know. If this ever comes up in the first place.

 

[JerseyJade]

You need to stay out of it and just keep it a secret that only you will ever know.

Um... it's too late for that now. EVERYONE on Lit knows now.

 

[FL30]

Um... it's too late for that now. EVERYONE on Lit knows now.

yes, it is and we all want pictures and are curious as to why he didn't take any!!

But, I was referring as to within the family

 

[JerseyJade]

well, I was referring as to within the family

I know. Just being silly.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I think you have every right to have an adult conversation with your daughter. Don't enter into it judgmental about her actions, but out of concern if she is having second thoughts about marriage. Many often feel once the ball gets rolling it is hard to walk back that commitment. Maybe her hooking up with another man was that. Maybe it was just her enjoying sucking another guy's cock. Maybe he is an old lover. Maybe she was forced into it. Maybe her finance actually knew. Who knows what her intentions were, but approaching it as concern for her as she moves forward in life is very legitimate and in fact, the situation demands you raise the issue with her. Why are people so afraid of talking about sex and sexual behaviors with their children? Just don't judge her for her actions, they are her choice, but helping her make good choices is your role as father, regardless of her age...

 

[cheetah2]

just tell her the next time she has an urge to make sure that the courtesy lights are off