Catch 22

[Simper426]

I am a very strong-willed, intelligent, masculine seeming, even authoritarian man. This is especially true in public settings (for me that has almost always been school and now college) where I come off as rather intimidating. However, I am also this intensely sensitive, kind, nurturing submissive boy who is never so comfortable or happy as I would be giving myself to the right woman. The problem is that the women I attract see this alpha-male and wish for me to dominate them within the relationship. I am happy with myself in public and professional setting being strong and outspoken, but how do I attract a strong woman who is not put off by someone who might be a challenge to dominate? Are there women who find it more fulfilling to dominate a strong man rather than a simpering mess who NEEDS them?
To compound this already convoluted problem, I am not looking for a woman who just wants to hurt or humiliate me. My ideal is something like complete role reversal circa 1950, where I am the wife and she the husband. Where I cook and clean and watch over the children if she decides to have any, where I might be bought flowers and am definitely seduced, but also where I'm put in my place if I misbehave (with force if need be) and she's allowed to take lovers, hopefully men for us to share.
Does this type of relationship exist? Does anyone have any advice how I might attract the kind of women who would dominate a strong-willed man?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I am a very strong-willed, intelligent, masculine seeming, even authoritarian man. This is especially true in public settings (for me that has almost always been school and now college) where I come off as rather intimidating. However, I am also this intensely sensitive, kind, nurturing submissive boy who is never so comfortable or happy as I would be giving myself to the right woman. The problem is that the women I attract see this alpha-male and wish for me to dominate them within the relationship. I am happy with myself in public and professional setting being strong and outspoken, but how do I attract a strong woman who is not put off by someone who might be a challenge to dominate? Are there women who find it more fulfilling to dominate a strong man rather than a simpering mess who NEEDS them?
To compound this already convoluted problem, I am not looking for a woman who just wants to hurt or humiliate me. My ideal is something like complete role reversal circa 1950, where I am the wife and she the husband. Where I cook and clean and watch over the children if she decides to have any, where I might be bought flowers and am definitely seduced, but also where I'm put in my place if I misbehave (with force if need be) and she's allowed to take lovers, hopefully men for us to share.
Does this type of relationship exist? Does anyone have any advice how I might attract the kind of women who would dominate a strong-willed man?

Well if I was a Domme (which I am not ) I would think You have some very attractive attributes in how you describe yourself. Though to be fair I also think that while on occasion some male submissives may be as you say 'simpering mess ' thats a largely media driven inaccurate stereotype cliche type thing. Possible I am wrong , wouldn't be the first time won't be the last.POINT OF EDIT "Actually I am going with I am fairly accurate on this in regards to the stereotyping of male submissives.'END OF EDIT

If anything the male submissives I actually know get huge credos from me because they seem in some way to get handed 'extra baggage'.
Anyone male , female , vanilla , kink or indifferent can certainly pose a range of characteristics negative or postitive. (takes a bow for stating the freaking obvious).

As far as the rest of your question is concerned I am at a loss to give an comment from direct experience. With one exception . I have a friend in the City I live in. He and I were exploring if there was any chemistry etc between us in a potential relationship. Which there isn't and it was more lack of commonality in day to day pursuits than anything Lifestyle orientated .Though fortunately I made a cool 'pervy friend' (his words) thats local . He doesn't really consider himself a 'switch' , he is built alot like you and can do the machismo thang rather well but professed he was totally open to being 'submissive' to a woman as a 'ladies man' almost equally to as much as he enjoys taking a Dominant position in his relationships. He enjoys being a gentleman, would be happy to take a side step and let her initiate more in a relationship. Sooooooooooooo where from there I don't know. He said the same would apply had we escalated our friendship , the possibilty of moving to 24/7 live in was a real option to him but with consideration to the 'right one'. That sort of mirrors most relationships anywhere really I think. I wish you luck with your journey .

 

[Lilith]

I certainly like the idea of powerful, strong, dare I say aggressive, men submitting to me. I like the idea of them barking orders and making decisions all day only to come home and be stripped of any and all choices. I find my strongest urge to dominate comes when in the presence of men who don't obviously look like they would submit. I have this wicked vision of a power broker in a 3 piece suit by day, scrubbing the kitchen floor with a toothbrush butt naked except for a plug by night.

 

[Chicklet]

Does this type of relationship exist? Does anyone have any advice how I might attract the kind of women who would dominate a strong-willed man?

I think you sound just fine, like you would attract a dominant person as you are. Maybe the problem is just that the "norm" *isn't* a dominant female. I've met dominant, masculine men, who have absolutely no interest in bdsm.

I say, just keep positive, stay true to your nature, and you'll find someone. Maybe you should try to get involved in some community events and see if you can't find a partner you know swings that way from the start.