"Casual" Sex

[Strangebuddy]

No direct idea, more a musing. I've always found the term "casual sex" intriguing. I of course know what it means but I guess I've always associated the word "casual" with taking it easy, even being a little lazy.

So when I hear "casual sex" I always get mental pictures of people making love in the most laid-back way possible.

Two images that have been coming to mind:

A man and his wife fucking slowly while his wife is seated in a hammock (They weren't planning any kind of exhibition, they just thought, "hey, why not?" and didn't want to go inside)

A lesbian couple going at it with a strap-on. The one who is ass-up is enjoying herself tremendously but her partner seems kind of bored with it and is still wearing a t-shirt as she gives it to her from behind. When she notices that her girlfriend's eyes are closed, she reaches for beer she was hiding and starts drinking it while still thrusting her hips, occasionally looking down to make sure her lover isn't trying to look back (not a vision I find particularly sexy...though I do find it hilarious).

Of course, then I wonder, if there's such a thing as "formal sex" using formal more in relation to dress and social/business functions.

Which then led to me thinking of an idea (a-ha! I actually do tie this to the Story Ideas forum!)

A man and his wife are starting to drift apart. They still love each other and care a lot about raising their kids but the romance is non-existent. Typical stuff: communication has decreased, they both are too busy to find the time to be alone, etc. Finding a minute alone they both agree that they want to feel the spark they once had and reminisce about their honeymoon phase, where they planned every last detail, dressed in the trendiest clothes and had elaborate romantic acts planned that bordered on the ridiculous and cliche.

They plan out a date and have everything on a strict schedule. They have a limo, flowers are being delivered, tickets for a big-to-do, a deluxe hotel room is reserved, and both of them blow a wad of cash on new outfits.

However, before the date can even start, the husband walks in on his wife while she's getting out of the shower (or maybe shaving her legs). They lock eyes and decide to drop all the formal nonsense and ake the date go no farther than their bedroom.

The question I have about this idea though is whether it would be better to have it be a simple romantic story or have the ending being a result of a day of bad luck (Wife's dress tears, the new make-up and perfume causes an allergic reaction, Husband finds out that the limo driver just got picked up on a DUI and ruins his suit, The hotel gives their room to someone else, etc.)?


Sorry for rambling, just thought either the idea of people lazily fucking, or the idea of highly planned dates giving way for a quick roll in the hay might have some potential.

 

[Hypoxia]

I've always considered "casual sex" as distinct from "institutionalized sex". Exclusivity, going steady, marriage, even 'serious' dating -- these are social institutions, with rules. To be casual, fuck an acquaintance or passerby, not a regular partner.

Examples: I'm at a campover music festival. I get lucky beyond the campfire. It's casual sex. Much later and elsewhere, I'm on a mixer hike. I get lucky. It's casual sex. I get lucky again. And again. A few decades later, we're institutionalized. It's all a matter of context.

 

[Carnevil9]

How about an office that has "casual sex Friday" each week?

 

[Strangebuddy]

Hypoxia: Indeed. Like I said, I know what it means but it's kind of like when you hear a phrase when you're a kid and take an alternative or literal definition. Like when I heard "baseball diamond" for the first time and wondered where the heck the jewel was at my first t-ball game.


Carnevil: That reminds me of an idea I had a few months back. The idea was about a new HR hire at a small corporation who is always looking for ways to create a positive work environment and improve synergy. The guy's ideas seem to have a pretty good track record even though a lot of them seem strange since he likes employing any new thing he hears about.

For example, he hears that a new scent is being used in casinos which is supposed to calm employees/clients and makes them more favorable to negative situations. He uses a contact to get his own supply. His latest acquisition is a powdered substance that is being tested to improve energy, focus, and mood. While it hasn't been FDA-approved, he knows the researchers on the tests and knows that it has been tested under a wide degree of circumstances and it has worked with only positive results occurring.

Since he's gained the trust of upper management and the small company needs every edge, he gets the approval to put it in the water supply (he tells the employees that it's just a vitamin drink, which it also is). Things improve so much that upper management decides to have a big party with the HR guy getting to decide the theme. It's summer time so he decides on a luau.

He writes the e-mail on his phone and includes the phrase "make sure to bring your beach wear and get ready to go wild"

To his shock, he comes to the party, only to find all of the female employees wearing their skimpiest bikinis (and a few nudists) while both sexes openly start hitting on each other.

Turns out that the substance also increases their susceptibility to suggestion and their arousal while also dropping their inhibitions. While the HR guy is able to ensure nothing too bad happens (after failing to get everyone to turn it down a notch, he at least ensures that every male employee at least has a condom), he is still freaked out by what he unintentionally did and tells his co-workers what happened. While some of his co-workers are angry, they're willing to let it slide since ultimately they were acting on impulses they'd had for some time and no one got hurt.

Eventually, this leads to the company having monthly theme parties with the first one being "Lingerie day."

 

[Hypoxia]

Tangent: I first read the thread as Causal Sex and I thought, hmmm, what does sex cause, besides the obvious?