Casrated by cancer divorced by my wife. Is it time to die?
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lonely_niceboy
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In sickness and in health---unfortunately it wasnt honored. I cant even begin to understand how painful that must be--just when you needed her most.
Something similar happened to my close friend--but he survived cancer and he found out he didn't need her anyway. Eventually life went back to normal for him and he found someone that was worthy of trust and affection.
Regarding losing your potency due to invasive cancer treatment---your ability to perform may be affected but there are many other ways to express yourself sexually with your future partner and bring her pleasure. The largest sexual organ you have as a man is your mind. Chemistry with a future partner is key. But if there is to be a future you can't let go of hope.
There is life after cancer, although right now you may not feel that way. The mental game is important though--you need to want to see it through in order to make that future happen.
Something similar happened to my close friend--but he survived cancer and he found out he didn't need her anyway. Eventually life went back to normal for him and he found someone that was worthy of trust and affection.
Regarding losing your potency due to invasive cancer treatment---your ability to perform may be affected but there are many other ways to express yourself sexually with your future partner and bring her pleasure. The largest sexual organ you have as a man is your mind. Chemistry with a future partner is key. But if there is to be a future you can't let go of hope.
There is life after cancer, although right now you may not feel that way. The mental game is important though--you need to want to see it through in order to make that future happen.
You’re not done living
As a fellow cancer survivor I can tell you that you’re not done living. You’re life has changed, yes. You just have to adapt to it. I consider it the “new normal”. As far as losing your sexual function, there are treatments out there that can correct that. Get with your drs, they can refer you to specialists that can help.
As far as the wife leaving, she showed her true colors. If she’s not going to stick with you through the bad, she doesn’t deserve to be with you for the good. And you have plenty of good times ahead. Things happen for a reason, her leaving is a good thing, it opens up the door for a much better women to come into your life. And she’s out there.
Have faith in good things and if you want to chat more drop me a pm or respond here and I’ll give you my email address.
As a fellow cancer survivor I can tell you that you’re not done living. You’re life has changed, yes. You just have to adapt to it. I consider it the “new normal”. As far as losing your sexual function, there are treatments out there that can correct that. Get with your drs, they can refer you to specialists that can help.
As far as the wife leaving, she showed her true colors. If she’s not going to stick with you through the bad, she doesn’t deserve to be with you for the good. And you have plenty of good times ahead. Things happen for a reason, her leaving is a good thing, it opens up the door for a much better women to come into your life. And she’s out there.
Have faith in good things and if you want to chat more drop me a pm or respond here and I’ll give you my email address.
KrazieKat69
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No!! You keep your chin up high and hope for a brighter tomorrow!! Keep fighting even when you have no more fight left in ya!!!
ArthurW
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Strange instead of fighting your giving up. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT. God gave you life but it's up to you to live it. You have forgotten the younger kids killed or lost life at a young age. Your not dead you have just change. Real love does not center around sex but your other half. Pick your sorry ass up dust it off and get back into life,
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AlliaPotestas
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No, no, fucking no...
I am sorry you have been through so much, but life is so precious and however bad you are feeling - I promise, if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, a day will come where your current state of mind is just a memory. It will grow more distant and weaker, I promise, x
In the meantime, do you have someone to talk to? if not a friend, please call a counselling service or talk to your GP.
I am sorry you have been through so much, but life is so precious and however bad you are feeling - I promise, if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other, a day will come where your current state of mind is just a memory. It will grow more distant and weaker, I promise, x
In the meantime, do you have someone to talk to? if not a friend, please call a counselling service or talk to your GP.
Spenser41
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Do not give up. Even tho she did... there is more to life then sex. There is a woman out there... that will have walked the same cancer walk you have... who will get what you are going through and who will be a companion and friend and affection that you so need. There is HOPE... do NOT give up and let cancer win.... or her... She was not worth it.... there is another who will love you to the end...
Scentofawoman
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Hey probably. I mean your thinking with your dick like every man. In your case it’s figuratively.
Yeah I went there.
If you don’t have friends, kids, grandkids, done anything in your life to show your aspirations, be a role model, teacher, mentor, or a shoulderto someone other person in your present life the go on. I’m Hindu, you’ll be reborn!
It’s not cancer that castrated you it’s your ex and the life you led before. You should talk to my friend 23 year old woman who lost both breasts to cancer and can’t have kids. I don’t see her a any less a woman. I see her as a mega woman.
Reincarnation and Karma!
