Can't Hold Erection. Help Needed.

[Keyser711]

ok, 18 year old guy here. My girlfriend and I are active. (Everything except intercourse) However while she has used her hand of me, or given me a blowjob, i find it hard to keep up an erection. I never feel like i am totally hard during things. Like i'll start to get hard during making out, and then after a while it will just end.
The previous girl i was with, we went way too fast. We had intercourse,(my first time) and during the few times, i actually lost an erection near completely. i wasnt into it at all. and i did not enjoy the experience one bit. could this have something to do with my current problems?
My girlfriend is very upset as she can be very self conscious. She thinks that something is wrong with her. That she is doing things wrong and that i am not attracted to her, which i definitely am.
Is it possible for me to maybe have a physical problem? I mean i'm not even in the 20's yet, but could i maybe have a potency problem? its not something i'd like to admit, but i will if it will help my girlfriend feel better about herself. The people here at Literotica have always been more than helpful, and hopefully i'll get some responses. thanks

 

[crash911]

i seem to have the same problem but not as bad it seems.....not to get too personal, but can you masturbate and keep a full erection during the whole time without a problem? I seem to have no problem masturbating to an orgasm, but while having intercourse it seems that I don't stay fully erect.

 

[Keyser711]

the thing is, i masturbate very very rarely. Just never really got into it. i know that sounds weird. LOL.
when i do though, i suppose i can hold an erection. its just not as hard as i think it should be. Maybe i think an erection should be as hard as a rock and i my expectations are just too hight?

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Whenever you are in doubt about the functions of your body, it is best to seek medical advice.

So go see a doctor. I don't think what you are experiencing is normal, but then, I'm a girl, and don't have a penis. I'm going from what I've learned from my past bf's and lovers.

Get thee to a doctor.

 

[Amfrigger]

Do you wake up with wood? have erections in your sleep? If so, probably not a problem with the plumbing. Try a cock ring. If that doesn't work and you don't have a medical/plumbing problem, Mr. Happy is trying to tell you that he don't want to go there.

 

[HoHoBomb]

Performance Anxiety

Sounds to me like you lose your erection because you are nervous.

relax

do it when you feel comfortable

 

[HoHoBomb]

Think

I went back and reread.

all of you males have one thing in common.

you "think it isn't hard enough"

it's all in the head
when it needs to be in the head down there,

cum visit me and i can certainly fill your heads with other things

 

[I_Edwards]

Kegel exercises for guys are very good at giving you harder wood if that's what you're looking for.

(When you pee, the muscle you use to 'stop the flow' is your PC... so if you squeeze that everyday you should be fine)

(Anyone else able to give a better description?)

 

[Noneyabizness]

the thing is, i masturbate very very rarely. Just never really got into it. i know that sounds weird. LOL.
when i do though, i suppose i can hold an erection. its just not as hard as i think it should be. Maybe i think an erection should be as hard as a rock and i my expectations are just too hight?

You may want to consult your MD about this....just to make sure it is nothing physical causing the problem.

 

[DuckLover]

Don't panic! As stated above, if you can achieve and maintain an erection other times, it's unlikely to be physical. I've had issues achieving/maintaining an erection at times and often it's just nerves. Stressed about work/school, worried about someone walking in, new partner, bad past experience, poor physical condition (health-wise); all of them can impede an erection.

A full erection isn't going to feel like a piece of metal. More like a ripe avocado. It's solid, but gives with firm pressure.

And your erection SHOULDN'T last a long time. If it does, that means the blood in your penis isn't circulating, which can cause SERIOUS physical damage. (For that reason, only use snap/velcro cock rings and take them off every 10-15 minutes.) An erection that won't subside is called a priapism and is a serious medical condition.

Seeing your doctor is a good idea for any physical problem. Don't worry about being judged or shocking the doctor. S/he has seen and heard much more unusual things. Erectile difficulty is actually pretty common.

 

[lovechild27]

Sounds like nervs...if not that a med prob. Go to the doc...they deal with this stuff more than you know. Its ok to ask someone professional!