Can You Surrender ?

[PredatorSmile]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

 

[Wolfman1982]

As long it does not hurt me, then I can surrender.

 

[amBIguous]

All depends...

I would have to say that, YES, I can definitely surrender. Although it makes a big different who your partner is. With my wife, I can surrender completely. Granted, we've only played around with this sort of role-play, but we've found that it is a lot of fun.

It's kind of funny though. I'm considered a big strong guy and she is a petite little lady. In everyday activities, we assume the "typical" roles for a husband/wife. (Although I like to think that I do more household stuff than most males - I'm certain that I do more cleaning!). However, in bed we seem to switch roles as often as not. We both prefer her to be on top, she really enjoys teasing and seeing how far she can take me before I orgasm and she likes to tie me up every once in a while. Never mind the fact that she likes to fuck me as much as I like to fuck her.

The few times that we've played with bondage, she absolutely loved being the Dom and I was comfortable being the Sub. I figure it's a matter of how much you trust your SO. I really dont see it as giving up control. She's such a part of my life that she already has the control anyway. And vice versa. IMHO

 

[Auxar]

I would say I've done that actually. It wasn't anything spoken but various things I did with my last girlfriend I just laid there and let her do whatever she wanted (some of it I requested). Other times I'm sure it was the opposite, I did whatever I wanted with her.

Once I was on the phone with her before I went to her house. I was picking with her that I would come over, take her to the bedroom and fuck her in the ass as soon as I got there. She said no I wouldn't but when I got there I did exactly as I said. I took her in the bedroom and pushed her on the bed face down. I reached for the lube in the drawer after I pulled her pants down while holding her hands and then I freed my cock before I lubed it up. I held her down and positioned my cock there at her ass and began to press inside her while she continued to mildly protest. The whole time it was sort of a laughing and joking adventure. I actually expected her to change her tone to a serious one and tell me no but she never did. I slid my cock on in and fucked her ass until I came. She never was upset so I suppose she didn't mind.

 

[amBIguous]

I'm picturing the look on my wife's face if I tried that.

Hard to tell if she'd let me, or kill me. Might be fun to find out.

 

[Tymeless]

i'm definately a submissive so yes!

 

[trask9]

I have always been the Dom in all of my relationships and marriage.
Very difficult for me to surrender.
I can only remember one time that I did and it was Ok for awhile but I had to
take control.
Ohhhhh, I love your posting, your attitude about sex and your a beautiful
sexy young woman. Your boyfriend/ hubby, don't remember which is
damn lucky. Your honesty and openess is rare in this world. I am happy that you can share both sides of your sexuality. Thanks for all of the great posts
and photos.
TJ

 

[PredatorSmile]

I have always been the Dom in all of my relationships and marriage.
Very difficult for me to surrender.
I can only remember one time that I did and it was Ok for awhile but I had to
take control.
Ohhhhh, I love your posting, your attitude about sex and your a beautiful
sexy young woman. Your boyfriend/ hubby, don't remember which is
damn lucky. Your honesty and openess is rare in this world. I am happy that you can share both sides of your sexuality. Thanks for all of the great posts
and photos.
TJ

Thank you very much, Mr. Trask !

 

[rjp44]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

I've always enjoyed having my partner on top, controling the tempo and direction of strokes (plus, I get to play with her fun parts). I could go for even more if my partner wanted.

 

[hokieclimber]

I haven't been able to do that yet, a combination of not being with anyone that wanted to do that and not being able to trust anyone enough to give them total control.

I'd like to try it though, if for no other reason than I've never done it and I love trying new things

 

[mtt_rdd]

have tried, but it drives me nuts in an over the top way that I lose enjoyment...I have to have my mouth, or hands on something...esp the hands...Im too much of tactile personality that not being allowed to touch disturbs me...like Im getting a brain short circuit

 

[kalalau]

I LOVE surrendering. Giving up control sexually is an enormous turn-on for me. Sometimes just the thought of it will get me hard. When my girlfriend takes on the dominant role it usually leads to something wonderful, particularly when she awakens me in the middle of the night and totally takes over.

I wish she was bi and poly, but she is so kind and wonderful that I almost always consider myself lucky anyway.

By the way, Predator, I have been following your threads and posts, and, like someone else on this thread, think you're quite thoughtful and wonderful.

 

[Wolfman1982]

PredatorSmile is really thoughtful, and wonderful. And I ever got the oppurtinity(and the money), then I would go on a USA tour, where I said hello to the people and not just PredatorSmile, but alot of people of those who wanted to meet me

 

[Mazinger]

I am bipolar

Not really.

Before our wife came into our lives, I surrendered totally to my husband, and I still do.

But when we three are making love, it's a strange thing, surrendering to him, but also, being top with the wife.

Regardless to say, both of us men are top with our wife.

Interesting question.

Maz.

 

[zekealicious]

As long as it doesnt tickle...cause then I'm freaking out in uncontrolable spasms...like a fish out of water..it aint cute neither!

 

[Harrowborg]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

Just about. If I'm feeling relaxed and she knows it, she'll usually take over.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I'm a submissive at heart. One of my greatests fantasies is to find a partner who would be willing to take control. I have a feeling it'd make for an extremely incredible night.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I'm a submissive at heart. One of my greatests fantasies is to find a partner who would be willing to take control. I have a feeling it'd make for an extremely incredible night.

I don't know what to classify myself. If you were to see me at work, dealing with some girl who's a slacker on the job or an arrogant client,
you'd think I were a drill sergeant in a past life. I'm tough when I have to be. Yet when I come home...it's a whole different story. My man is a total dominant. And I've come to love being "taken by force". Ever since the "shower incident". Yet people who know me would NEVER guess this about me.

I thought about it and it wouldn't surprise me if macho boxers were into being subs at home and high-powered female executives also loved being dominated by the man in their life. Why ? It can be liberating, once you get past the fear.

 

[Wolfman1982]

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give this link to your man .

 

[CelestialNight]

Due to my childhood I have problems giving up control during sex, but if I really loved and trusted the person completely maybe I could do it. It would take some work though.

 

[John Doe]

Nope.

 

[blackieone]

Can You Surrender ? Let your partner have total access/control over your body during a sex act ? Or is that too much ?

............

 

[Fatemaster]

Willing to surrender

I think it's fun sometimes to be submissive...but not always. I like to mix it up...I prefer to be more submissive with women and more dominant with men...I don't know why...it just seems like the role reversal can be really hot.

 

[playwithlezli]

sigh.....not really.....but i watch my gel give herself over and enjoy herself over and over.....wonder if I will ever be able to totally let go...........

then again.........i love watching her come over and over and over. to the point where she can't walk or talk or anything but smile............that feels pretty good too......sort of a mind orgasm for me!

 

[webber1998]

Only to a certain point. For whatever reason, I have retain some control.