Can you help me?

[cagander]

I live in Southern California and am married to a really beauiful woman whom I love dearly.

Unfortunately, early menopause has totally taken away her interest in sex. You can imagine how unhappy and frustrated this makes me.

I am a faithful type, but have so many fantasies in my head and needs to fulfil. I am tall, quite good looking, well educated and moderately succesful in my profession. I am originally from England and think I'm fairly mannerly and urbane.

I'm not sure what I am looking for here, but would enjoy some exchanges of emails, maybe some chat, and see where that goes. I think physical encounters are a long way off, but chat and stories would be so good.

I need a lady to have a discreet, anonymous but imaginative erotic relationship with.

Please help me.

 

[Tracee]

hi

not to make fun of your situation, but are you sure she is not seeing the pool-boy or something.. I ask only because in my experience, men think women are disinterested in sex, when really they are only disinterested in the man in question..

Im sure you are a lovely caring man..

but thought you might want to do a double check

T

 

[Ukin]

hi

not to make fun of your situation, but are you sure she is not seeing the pool-boy or something.. I ask only because in my experience, men think women are disinterested in sex, when really they are only disinterested in the man in question..

Im sure you are a lovely caring man..

but thought you might want to do a double check

T

I agree. Most men forget that women want and deserve far more than just a FFF (fast furious fuck)..however, if that is all they do get..they go elsewhere and naturally...the partner thinks it's the menopaus..and this does work both ways too.

 

[Tracee]

Ukin

glad to see that mine was not an isolated observation

T

 

[cagander]

You're wrong - and possibly somewhat smug

Have to disagree with you - she is not going elesewhere and was never the recipient of a fast and furious fuck. She is as unhappy with he passing of her libido as I. We still have a close and loving relationship and will continue to maintain it. It's just that sex no longer plays a role in our relationship and he only one who misses it is me.

 

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[Tracee]

its a pitty she is not more understanding of your needs

I believe you can find some form of happiness here... although from your posts, it sounds like you need r/l attention more than cyber play

T

 

[Tracee]

Emerald-Eyed

I was simply pointing out that many men misunderstand the reasons behind a changing sexlife..

wouldnt you agree?



T

 

[Ukin]

Re: You're wrong - and possibly somewhat smug

Have to disagree with you - she is not going elesewhere and was never the recipient of a fast and furious fuck. She is as unhappy with he passing of her libido as I. We still have a close and loving relationship and will continue to maintain it. It's just that sex no longer plays a role in our relationship and he only one who misses it is me.

No offence was ever meant..it's just that I have been there with you..in fact that is why I said...It works both ways.

 

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[Tracee]

fun fun, one day here and the cattyness has begun already

I seriously wonder why you are jumping on this.. but, to each her own

I guess im just one to not take things at face value...

 

[cagander]

Thnks Emerald_Eyed

..... for your support and encouragement in this. Truth to tell we have discussed hormone treatment, but she is in fear of side effects and in any case she does not, as I have said, have a problem with the lack of a physical side to the relationsship. It is easy to dismiss this as selfishness on her part and, on a bad day, I see it as that. Howeveer her reluctance to pursue a medical solution is real and firm. From time to time she will give me some relief by mastubation or even allowing me to make love to her, but her lack of enjoyment and response actualyy puts the experience in the cateogry of the "FFF" and is emotionally unrewarding, since her pleasure is important to me. I need a willing partner.

 

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[cagander]

I have considered all aspects of this very seriously. I have no intentions of leaving my wife, and - you're right - I do love her very much. But I have to dispell this tension and frustration in my life, or I become unhappy and shor-tempered and - guess who the closes person to me is who might win the consequences of my bad mood. Neither do I want to build resentments that can only be damaging to both of us. Currrently I'm between jobs, so hookers are out of the question. It would not be fair to use her income to pay for them!

 

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[Tracee]

not to mention the fact that you could pass along any of a large number of yucky physical problems if and when she ever wanted to have sexual relations with you

eeuuu...

 

[Tracee]

E-E

it seems silly for us to shower this troll with so much attention..

btw, was rolling eyes at him, not you.. but yours are cute when they spin like that...

no hard feelings, I hope..

T

 

[cagander]

Tracee

I have forborne to say so but ... Youre the Troll and I find you tone and attitude execrable. Your vanity and self importance seem to know no bounds. Hope you get your hundred postings and disappear

 

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[cagander]

Just posted this to move my thread back ito view - I seriosuly am looking for an online companion - are you there?