Black_Bird
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A friend and I wonder if romance can exist without sexual contact in this day and age?
Can There Be Romance without Sex?
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lovetoread
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Actually I think that if you have romance,you lose alot of it when sex comes into the picture.
Its like you no longer have to try anymore.
Its like you no longer have to try anymore.
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of course it can
it's romantic to get flowers(if you're not allergic like i am), and there's the hand kissing i find romantic from about any guy.......no sex involved in those....well, at least for me there's not
it's romantic to get flowers(if you're not allergic like i am), and there's the hand kissing i find romantic from about any guy.......no sex involved in those....well, at least for me there's not
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Yes, but sex is a definite plus.
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I answered "Yes, but sex is a plus."
I would like to amend that to say, "Yes, but great sex is a plus."
Not too long ago, I met a guy who was very romantic... he made me swoon and had lots of cutesy things that he would do to make me smile.
He was very romantic.
And then.. we did the deed.
Holy smokes was that boy boring in bed.
I would like to amend that to say, "Yes, but great sex is a plus."
Not too long ago, I met a guy who was very romantic... he made me swoon and had lots of cutesy things that he would do to make me smile.
He was very romantic.
And then.. we did the deed.
Holy smokes was that boy boring in bed.
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Georgia Girl
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Sex is a plus but I would like to be loved first for who I am rather than for the thrills from the bedroom.
Sex is easy, loving is the hard part.
Sex is easy, loving is the hard part.
sufisaint
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I would love to meet someone, be completely attracted to them in every way and not have sex for a year.....really get to know someone, go through good times and some bad, have love and romance without the sexual addiction that always seem to numb my better judgement...
Black_Bird
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Okay - Guys? Are the guys going to say anything?
Saint Peter
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Black_Bird said:
No. Give up the nookie or hit the bricks.
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Black_Bird said:
I think it can.
I knew this man in the UK, seemed we started off as friends first and then it progressed really surprising us both.
After about a month of knowing each other, he was to be away for 2 weeks. Speaking to each other every day and then nothing for 2 weeks was horrible especially when you've got that "new love" rush. The day he left I received roses. Another time it was me that would be away... he wrote me a poem and posted it. And vice versa... I knew he loved sweet things so I'd bake him things and send them overseas. He was always surprised.
Over a 2 yr period there were so many other things we did for each other to show our love.. and yet we hadn't met.
dreamer
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Yes, but a long term relationship with no physical bonding...I don't know how possible that would be.
There's just something achieved through sex that is really difficult to match otherwise. I think a relationship, full of romance or no, would be hard pressed to survive without sex.
There's just something achieved through sex that is really difficult to match otherwise. I think a relationship, full of romance or no, would be hard pressed to survive without sex.
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dreamer0919 said:
I agree. A huge part of "romance" is the sexual tension. The look in the other persons eyes, the sound of their voice, there words that say everything.
Romance by itself is wonderful, but I think at some point you would move past the "moment" when sex with that person would be right.
kotori
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i'm the "one" who said "other"
i was going to vote for number one, "yes" but the "i long for..." part stopped me. because i have had a beautiful romantic relationship with someone i've never had sex with, never kissed, never touched, never even met in the flesh. we have a deep, and (i believe), abiding love. and while i hope we can someday meet, not to do so will not diminish the true and genuine feelings we share, the intimate moments, the sense of connection, our ainim chara. is this romance? yes. romantic? yes. delusional? maybe that too. but in our dream, we are not flesh, we have not age, nor dimensionality--we do not occupy any space but what is in each other's heart. it is, to date, a metaphysical (in the most precise definition) love. i have no need to change it, because it is as real as any love i've ever given or received. i hear the voice in my mind's ear, see the face in my mind's eye, feel the joy and heartache and thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to in spite of a gap of 750 miles and more than twenty-five years. don't tell me it's not real.
i was going to vote for number one, "yes" but the "i long for..." part stopped me. because i have had a beautiful romantic relationship with someone i've never had sex with, never kissed, never touched, never even met in the flesh. we have a deep, and (i believe), abiding love. and while i hope we can someday meet, not to do so will not diminish the true and genuine feelings we share, the intimate moments, the sense of connection, our ainim chara. is this romance? yes. romantic? yes. delusional? maybe that too. but in our dream, we are not flesh, we have not age, nor dimensionality--we do not occupy any space but what is in each other's heart. it is, to date, a metaphysical (in the most precise definition) love. i have no need to change it, because it is as real as any love i've ever given or received. i hear the voice in my mind's ear, see the face in my mind's eye, feel the joy and heartache and thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to in spite of a gap of 750 miles and more than twenty-five years. don't tell me it's not real.
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Trust me...
When we finally did get together it was literally like fireworks. At one point he looked me straight in the eyes and said it was like an extended foreplay.
dreamer0919 said:
When we finally did get together it was literally like fireworks. At one point he looked me straight in the eyes and said it was like an extended foreplay.
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Re: i'm the "one" who said "other"
That is beautiful.
kotori said:
That is beautiful.
Silverluna
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isn't that what some online relationships are about? Romance. Words of love that mean nothing in the real world. So.....I guess when it comes to real life...its not as romantic and warm-fuzzy feeling.
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Not true...
I think the best thing about these online romances is that because it's not an immediate physical thing... you REALLY get to learn the other person from the inside out... almost to the point where the outside becomes a bonus... you've already learned to love and romance the inside person.
How can it not be warm and fuzzy after that?
Silverluna said:
I think the best thing about these online romances is that because it's not an immediate physical thing... you REALLY get to learn the other person from the inside out... almost to the point where the outside becomes a bonus... you've already learned to love and romance the inside person.
How can it not be warm and fuzzy after that?
Silverluna
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Re: Not true...
oh i hope that's true....I'm in a relationship via Net currently. but i know that people are fickle sometimes.
oceanbaby28 said:
oh i hope that's true....I'm in a relationship via Net currently. but i know that people are fickle sometimes.
MechaBlade
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I voted for No, but now I wish I did "Other." I can't have romance without some form of Sexual Contact. Flirting is cute for a while, but if there is no action, then you might as well be friends.
