Can one grow out of or loose intrest in a kink?

[rikaaim]

First of all, I don't make many new threads because of my infrequent ability to reply to them, but I have a couple that I'm gonna start and just see what happens.

Recently I've noticed that some kinks that have always gotten me off without fail have no appeal to me now what so ever. I tried to find the root why they were so appealing, and in doing so have seemd to reationalize them away. I honestly can't get back into some of the things that were so arousing before. Some of them were negative influences that I'm glad are gone, but some others seemed to be mostly harmless and now I can't enjoy them. It's not really a big loss I guess. I just feel more vanilla now. Has this happened to anyone else? Can a kink loose its appeal?

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Certainly it can. Over time, your interst in sex/arousal period may decline or change. Often one kink gets displaced by a newer one that the novelty hasn't worn off of yet. It totally depends on the person. You have to remember a kink is part of your mental/emotional makeup and like anything else, it can change over time.

 

[entitled]

Yep.

People change as they grow up, grow older, etc. Life experiences change their tastes. Goes for kinks, too.

 

[rikaaim]

Very interesting. I kinda miss the kinks, but at the same time I'm enjoying what pleases me or appeals to me now. I'm much more softer than I used to be. I think I always was, but I'm really getting into something else that has always excited me, and I have a friend who is supporting me in these endeavors and not juding. It's been very carthartic.

 

[BlackSnake]

Yep, but I picked up a new one.

 

[rikaaim]

Details people! I'll share mine later. I gotta go for now.

 

[Recidiva]

I think it has to do with brain chemistry.

Sometimes old routes get boring or too well traveled.

Especially if the kink is an issue you used to be fascinated with or curious about, and then you figured it out, it's flat, so to speak.

Tic tac toe is fun until you figure out exactly how to win every time, then there's no mystery or strategy any more. You need a new game to challenge you.

 

[oggbashan]

Yes.

It can be by familiarity or overload, or just personal development.

I have had a vague interest in certain fetishes, some of which I never shared, and some that had a mild interest. The more I saw or read about a particular fetish, the more bored I became with it.

I use the fetishes I don't share as a challenge for story writing. Can I write a story that doesn't turn me on at all but works for others? Feedback/PCs suggest that I can even if some readers are totally disgusted by that fetish.

Og


PS. I still haven't finished the story of Kerala women's hairy and sweaty armpits.

 

[Honey123]

well I guess it depends...is your partner is into the same kink, then it can still be interesting if you mix it up a bit.

On the other hand, dropping a kink for a while might make it more fun when you go back to it at another time, perhaps with someone knew.

I don't think I have a kink myself....I guess because if I did, I know for a fact my partner would not participate.

 

[Belegon]

well I guess it depends...is your partner is into the same kink, then it can still be interesting if you mix it up a bit.

On the other hand, dropping a kink for a while might make it more fun when you go back to it at another time, perhaps with someone knew.

I don't think I have a kink myself....I guess because if I did, I know for a fact my partner would not participate.

If you decide to hold auditions for a participant, I'll be first in line...


Just Sayin'...

 

[Honey123]

If you decide to hold auditions for a participant, I'll be first in line...


Just Sayin'...

I don't know what type of Kink I'd be good for....

 

[Recidiva]

I don't know what type of Kink I'd be good for....

Sloppy hamburger sex with no anchovies. *nods*

 

[Honey123]

Sloppy hamburger sex with no anchovies. *nods*

LMAO!

no anchovies...but done on a bed of lettuce...ok...One Kink found...NEXT!!!!!!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

well I guess it depends...is your partner is into the same kink, then it can still be interesting if you mix it up a bit.

On the other hand, dropping a kink for a while might make it more fun when you go back to it at another time, perhaps with someone knew.

I don't think I have a kink myself....I guess because if I did, I know for a fact my partner would not participate.

Sorry to hear. That must be difficult.

 

[Honey123]

Sorry to hear. That must be difficult.

Not really...I make sex exciting..so *shrugs shoulders* it's all good.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Well, that's good to hear.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

I don't see why not. After all, one could argue that they are just glorified and more complex versions of interests and those can shift over the years. In my youth I was obsessed with dinosaurs and taxonomy (think really getting to know the animal kingdom like phylum, genus, species wise). Now they don't really hold my interest as well, but writing and cellular biology do.

These interests certainly hold a powerful intellectual fascination and "wakening" for me as sexual turn-ons are supposed to in a more physical and hormonal sense. Thus, it wouldn't seem out of place that they could be as subject to the turns of time.

Besides, it's like the old cliche of the man who wakes up in a bed filled with 20 exhausted men and women, bondage equipment, and farm animals bored out of his mind. Sometimes what holds a kink is the novelty or taboo of it and when you do it enough it can lose those qualities. Even not, repetition can wear it out and make it seem routine.



Of course, I'm probably the last person who should be posting on this thread.