can i get labeled?

[apexpark]

i really dont know what to label myself as, and it would be more helpful when im asked because heres the thing:
i am male. i like men and woman, only, in different ways. i love woman but sexually. like their vaginas and breasts. but with men its not about how they look, i feel like i can relate to them and that attracts me to them. woman are so complex but their so hot! and men are so simple and so easy, their beautiful.
and the feeling is different when i have my sexual experiences. when im with a woman it feels sexy and blissful and erotic. when im with men it feels fun and intelligent and sometimes naughty.
so i am.....bisexual? i think not. than what am i.

 

[Noor]

You sound bi to me, why do you think you are not?

Why do you want/need a label ? I don't have a label, my sexuality is partner dependent.

 

[sheath]

I don't have a label, my sexuality is partner dependent.

Partner dependent...I LIKE that choice of words!

In my opinion, since you asked :

Labels are unnecessary and harmful barriers to finding the person you really are. Labels throw up smoke screens in your mind that say you can't fully enjoy THIS because you should be enjoying THAT. Labels are for the weak of spirit and imagination.

You are who you are. Being comfortable with whatever that is...that is the important thing. Just throw away the labels. I used to do that...I put labels on things and I felt more comfortable when everything was nicely placed in its own little cubbyhole. Labels are an easy way to find a comfort zone. It is a very hard habit to break.

But then I met a man who said, "I don't call myself anything. I just enjoy sex. If that isn't enough, then YOU are the one with the problem, not me. While you are trying to put me into categories, I'm having the time of my life trying to AVOID those categories."

So when someone asks you? Tell them you just enjoy sex. In whatever form, shape, size, style, tone, color...or gender...that sex happens to be.

The liberation is the biggest thrill.

And THAT is my opinion!

S.

 

[Bandit58]

Labels are unnecessary and harmful barriers to finding the person you really are.

I'm a woman. I am sexually attracted to both men and women. I've never acted on my attraction to women. I hid it from everybody, including my husband of 23 years, and my two children. Why? Because I live in a small conservative rural community and I didn't want to be seen as "different" or "freaky".

I "came out" to my lover and my best friend last year, after I left my husband. I call myself bisexual because it's the only word I can think of to describe my sexuality. I like the words "partner dependent" though My lover isn't threatened by my sexuality like my husband would be.......he sees me as sensual and loving and wants to help me be complete......to be comfortable and open with myself after shutting it away for so many years He says it's part of me and he loves all of me I'm getting there......slowly but surely