Can being jealous be a turn on ?

[sexy-girl]

in the right moment for me being jealous can be a huge turn on


hearing my lover say things she would want to do with another woman can be very wild ... especially when i feel the jealous bug swirling around inside ... im comfortable that i know she truely only wants me ... and the main reason that it turns her on to talk about being with another woman is she knows it excites me


it also works both ways she enjoys me making her jealous as well and i get off on making her jealous also


i think if we were comfortable enough or maybe less possessive of eachother we would actually have a 3some for real ... but i dont think we'd be able to do that ... so far its nice just keeping this as part of our fantasy sex life


anyway i just wondered if this was unusual i hear some couples on here that our in relationships but sleep with other people without there main partner minding ... but i wondered if jealously is ever part of a turn on for any couples on here ?



(this is my obligatory sex thread that i try to post at least one every week ... dont blush please ... and notice i didnt say lisa ... well until now )

 

[lobito]

oh sorry, didn't mean to blush s-g, hell I didn't even get all the way through it, before I posted, gotta read this one later. (again & again)

 

[lavender]

 

[Jersey Citizen]

I don't like feeling jealous, and I would never do something to make my s/o jealous on purpose (like to make her horny). I'm with lavender.

 

[sexy-girl]

i agree when you feel REAL jealously thats sicking and yes i have felt real jealously and i hate it


however when my "lover" makes me feel jealous on purpose in this sort of way its more like a game and doesnt feel real ... i guess thats the best way i can explain it


i know its perhaps weird to be turned on by it ... and its not a big part of our sex lives its just very occasionaly we dip into this area and in the right circumstances it can be hot

 

[Guest]

Seeing my lover watch as another takes notice of myself can be stimulating. I don't mean posessive rage. That is not a turn-on. But, knowing that I am found desirable by another finds me spirited.
Seeing another flirt with my lover inspires me to treat him/her with more attentive love.
A tad bit of jealousy in my relationships are welcomed.

 

[sexy-girl]

oh sorry, didn't mean to blush s-g, hell I didn't even get all the way through it, before I posted, gotta read this one later. (again & again)

lol lobito ... sheesh its not even as though im being that discriptive

 

[Andreina]

one of the sweetest things i have seen a man do for me was when my ex boyfriend and i went out one night with a couple of friends and a guy in a pub and i did some small-talk (he was in one of my history classes). my boyfriend came up behind me, put his arm around me, lifted me up from the barstool, held me up while he sat down on the barstool with me on his lap.

later that night he told me he was so jealous to see me laughing and having fun with the other he didnt know - he thought he was hitting on me.

it is something trivial but i just thought it was so sweet of him because he was this huge tall rugby guy who, until then, never showed any sign of wanting to "possess" me.

*sighs*

 

[lilminx]

I don't like feeling jealous.

When I had a threesome with a couple, the other woman LIKED being jealous. It was very strange, and one of the reasons why they sought me out. She would watch me with him, and then get jealous and join in. I'm not sure if she was jealous of me being with him, or of him being with me though.

 

[tn_8tiv]

Sorry, I must be missing something here. I thought jealousy was caused by a feeling of inadequacy. I don't see how that could be a turn-on.

On the other hand, a feeling of possessiveness would definitely be a turn-off

 

[daughter]

not a damn thing cute about it

I'm with Lavender. I hate to feel jealous. It rarely happens but when it does, I'm not happy.

I don't flirt to tease my mate. I don't let allows to step into my personal space especially if my mate's around. And let a woman disrespect me by flirting.

It's not pretty I tell you. Just thinking about how jealous and irrational I was more than a year ago when I felt a woman was flirtin' with my man. Lawd, can you see that glowin' green. Locks was swingin' I tell yah. lol

Peace,

daughter

 

[sexy-girl]

Seeing my lover watch as another takes notice of myself can be stimulating. I don't mean posessive rage. That is not a turn-on. But, knowing that I am found desirable by another finds me spirited.
Seeing another flirt with my lover inspires me to treat him/her with more attentive love.
A tad bit of jealousy in my relationships are welcomed.

ok well im glad im not totally alone


i love your av by the way raindance its very apt and personalized for you

 

[Azwed]

It depends on who the person is. I mean if it is someone completly unatainable then it is ok and I think it is a slight turn on. The same goes of my gf makes little joking comments about a girl because I know she has no bi tendancies and would never sleep with a girl although I would not mind if she did I don't think. Otherwise I don't find it a turn on.

 

[Guest]

ok well im glad im not totally alone


i love your av by the way raindance its very apt and personalized for you

I was feeling kinda lonely out here, myself.

Thanks for your compliments, sweetie.

 

[paganangel]

jealousy sux. but it's necesarry.
get jealous an your woman will get angry at you...don't get jealous? OH BOY! ad she wont even know she's upset. i don't know if i would use the word "turn on." especially since someone trying to make me jealus will definetly get booted.
like most thigs in lif...it'all about balance. trying to manipuolate that balance throws of nature and is a recipe for diaster.

 

[SexyChele]

I have to put my vote with Lavender on this. I hate the feeling of being jealous - even remotely. And I am uncomfortable with men who get jealous. (comes from a way bad relationship!)

Jealousy is caused by feelings of insecurity within a relationship. It's as simple as that. And if I'm in a relationship, I want to feel secure - so there would be no jealousy.

I would not do anything to make my lover jealous, and if I were to find out that something was bothering him, I would stop. Yes, it can be nice to hear him say that if I do such and such he might have feelings of jealousy. Nice to hear, and "might" is the operative word. It also means I would not do it, nor talk about it.

I don't want him to say/do things to try to make me jealous, and I would return the courtesy.

But, hey, it's my own thing, ya know?

 

[sexy-girl]

ok ok ok ... i appreciate opinions here ... but is it possible to say when you dont agree with what im saying that its from you're personal preference

its not so nice to hear people say that my relationship must be flawed or something wrong because we sometimes enjoy playing with being jealous


maybe we're more secure and able to do this then some other people ... or maybe its just a weird fetish i dont know ... but my relationship with lisa is very very healthy and there is no insecurity or negatives ... we're very much in love

im not having a go at people just clarifying

 

[lobito]

ok s-g, my REAL response to your thread, you just knew I'd be here posting the blusher, didn't you?

TRUE jealousy can destroy something very VERY good. Somehting that the two of you work VERY VERY hard to accomplish, i.e.- a loving relationship. I don't disagree with the others, but I'll say that simply, it is their opinion.

It sounds to me, more like you and (you know who), do it to tease more than anything else. And there is nothing wrong with teasing, in MY opinion.

You shouldn't have to clarify anything, becasue again, it's ALL about opinons here. You two just keep doing whatever keeps you two together, and we'll keep doing what makes us happy.

I've said this in public and private to you, it's VERY obvious that you two are TOTALLY in love, and nothing anyone else can do or say can take that away from you.

Keep on, Keepin' on... Kiddo.

 

[TN_Vixen]

its not so nice to hear people say that my relationship must be flawed or something wrong because we sometimes enjoy playing with being jealous

Sexygirl - I understood your post. There's nothing wrong with playing at being jealous at all. I think what people here are responding to is the stifling uncompromising jealousy that exists in some relationships. I've been in several relationships where the guy was very jealous and possessive.. it makes me very uncomfortable and I usually end those relationships quickly.. (now). As for playing with those little twinges - it can sometimes indicate to yourself and to your partner how much they do mean to you.

 

[lavender]

 

[sexy-girl]

thanks lobito you're very sweet thanks TN_Vixen too


and yes i agree there is bad jealously that can be very very awful and as i said i have felt that type of jealously when we were living in different countrys and it sucked ... i got over it though pretty quickly and it wasnt caused by lisa anyway we'd never "played" at making eachother slightly jealous until we were together for real


like the thread says "can being jealous be a turn on" can being the important word ... i never meant for people to think i was saying all forms of jealously sorry


for me feeling jealous the "fun" type isnt about insecurity ... perhaps thats the difference between the fun kind and the bad kind

 

[SexyChele]

S-G, I never meant to imply that there was something wrong with your relationship. I don't really know you or your lover, so what can I say? But you two seem very happy, and that's all that matters.

Me? I just express opinions. Got a million of 'em, and not all are good, but they are mine!

 

[daughter]

I disagree about jealousy

My mate has never done anything that would cause me any sense of alarm or worry. And he is the most devoted individual I know so what am I feeling insecure about?

When that woman hit on my s/o, I wasn't feeling insecure. Try pissed. I felt disrespected and I am possessive. I don't share. None of that has anything to do with feeling insecure.

Peace,

daughter

 

[SA Storm]

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[FoxRocke]

in the right moment for me being jealous can be a huge turn on


hearing my lover say things she would want to do with another woman can be very wild ... especially when i feel the jealous bug swirling around inside ... im comfortable that i know she truely only wants me ... and the main reason that it turns her on to talk about being with another woman is she knows it excites me


it also works both ways she enjoys me making her jealous as well and i get off on making her jealous also


i think if we were comfortable enough or maybe less possessive of eachother we would actually have a 3some for real ... but i dont think we'd be able to do that ... so far its nice just keeping this as part of our fantasy sex life


anyway i just wondered if this was unusual i hear some couples on here that our in relationships but sleep with other people without there main partner minding ... but i wondered if jealously is ever part of a turn on for any couples on here ?



(this is my obligatory sex thread that i try to post at least one every week ... dont blush please ... and notice i didnt say lisa ... well until now

in the right moment for me being jealous can be a huge turn on


hearing my lover say things she would want to do with another woman can be very wild ... especially when i feel the jealous bug swirling around inside ... im comfortable that i know she truely only wants me ... and the main reason that it turns her on to talk about being with another woman is she knows it excites me


it also works both ways she enjoys me making her jealous as well and i get off on making her jealous also


i think if we were comfortable enough or maybe less possessive of eachother we would actually have a 3some for real ... but i dont think we'd be able to do that ... so far its nice just keeping this as part of our fantasy sex life


anyway i just wondered if this was unusual i hear some couples on here that our in relationships but sleep with other people without there main partner minding ... but i wondered if jealously is ever part of a turn on for any couples on here ?



(this is my obligatory sex thread that i try to post at least one every week ... dont blush please ... and notice i didnt say lisa ... well until now )

...it's called Zelophila. It refers to getting off to jealousy in a sexual / erotic context - whether getting off to inducing feelings of jealousy in for example your partner or getting aroused from your partner inducing it in you. . I wrote a story here about it - called (drum roll...): "Zelophiia"...