"Call out" someone on quitting meds?

[AGirlCalledKill]

I am very frustrated and hurt right now. Someone who I have been having troubles with for quite some time had sworn to make active showing of commitment to help fix these troubles. I feel like I have done all I can- and recently found out they have given up on more of the promises they made... The biggest of which was a prescription intended to keep their temper and outbursts in check.

From what I can tell, they just stopped abruptly around Memorial Day. What makes me really mad is that I had made a comment at that time, unrelated to the meds, on how other promises were seemingly ignored. They called in their refill within the hour and swore they were trying.

They never picked it up. As a controlled substance, they need to get a new prescription. They are not aware I know they never got it.

I'm trying to figure out the best way to say anything. I had warned before that if they couldn't keep their word, I would leave. But because these are so related to the anger I'm afraid on how to say anything..

 

[livin1971]

If the person is angry and abusive I would strongly suggest you to leave immediately. I don't know all the story. I can tell you that from personal and my own medical background that if these meds are stopped without proper detox of them they can be a lot more explosive. It sounds like you are fearful of this person all ready. If you want to talk privately I am willing to talk with you. As a health professional I am bound to keep what we talk about confidential.

 

[desertslave]

If the person is angry and abusive I would strongly suggest you to leave immediately. I don't know all the story. I can tell you that from personal and my own medical background that if these meds are stopped without proper detox of them they can be a lot more explosive. It sounds like you are fearful of this person all ready. If you want to talk privately I am willing to talk with you. As a health professional I am bound to keep what we talk about confidential.

I agree! It sounds like a very volatile situation. If there is any way you can remove yourself from the situation and even this person's daily life, it would probably be in your very best interest to do so. Think of saving yourself, first, before worrying about them. I know it sounds selfish, but it's just foolish to put yourself in danger for someone who clearly doesn't want to make changes that would help them and help your relationship.

 

[SweetErika]

You don't. You DO need to follow through with your exit strategy, honey. No more chances when so much is at stake. If he really wants to work on himself and take his medication, he can do so while you and your kids are in a safe place, then you can reevaluate a year or two down the line.

Has your help come through yet?

 

[AGirlCalledKill]

Unfortunately no.
I had to use the funds I had saved for a vehicle failure, and still am working to get that fixed.
Funny how my cars go insane when we have issues like this.

My mother is too wrapped up in her own problems at the moment with dad and her new guy (that stress isn't helping me at all), and my counselling has stalled til I get a vehicle of my own. All in all I feel on the verge of a complete mental breakdown. I keep crying on the way to work over this and other things weighing on me.




I just mentioned the pills to him, asking if he'd missed any- that too many missed pills, according to internet, can feel like the flu. (He's been complaining on feeling ill for 2 weeks.)
He says it's been a few days.
I know he's lieing...

 

[livin1971]

Unfortunately no.
I had to use the funds I had saved for a vehicle failure, and still am working to get that fixed.
Funny how my cars go insane when we have issues like this.

My mother is too wrapped up in her own problems at the moment with dad and her new guy (that stress isn't helping me at all), and my counselling has stalled til I get a vehicle of my own. All in all I feel on the verge of a complete mental breakdown. I keep crying on the way to work over this and other things weighing on me.




I just mentioned the pills to him, asking if he'd missed any- that too many missed pills, according to internet, can feel like the flu. (He's been complaining on feeling ill for 2 weeks.)
He says it's been a few days.
I know he's lieing...

There are charities to help you out there. Look them up on the internet. Do you have a close friend you can talk with close to You?

 

[Vixandra]

I'm trying to figure out the best way to say anything. I had warned before that if they couldn't keep their word, I would leave. But because these are so related to the anger I'm afraid on how to say anything..

There are some people that just can't be helped because for whatever reason they won't help themselves. You can either beat your head against the brick wall of their inability to succeed or you can do as you said you would and leave.

Not every venture is success and if this one is just causing you more stress and pain, then its time to go. The person in question is an adult and you can't fix them if they won't help. Stop tearing yourself apart over it and move on to getting your life where you want it.

Down the line, if they've fixed themselves, then friendship can be a possibility but they broke their word. Tis time for you to keep yours.

 

[chipcarver]

I can comment from your friends side a little bit. Taking medications can be a real pain and if I had my way I wouldn't take them at all. Even though I know not taking them will cause worse problems both to my health and to my relationships. Many times I feel as though my medications change who I really am and they also cloud my thinking.

I also know that if I don't take them you really don't want to be around me. My meds are for physical problems and not psychological ones. So I can only imagine what problems could arise out of not taking meds used for psychological help.
Also I have been told by many doctors that stopping any medication abruptly will cause harm to the body, mind, and possibly the people around you.

Please take the advice of some of the previous posts here and get as far away from the situation as possible. Consider the cost of staying and losing your life or the life someone dear to you.

 

[warrior queen]

Get out now.
Stopping meds can lead to you being curled up in a ball in a corner of the kitchen, while the psychotic person threatens you with a baseball bat.
GET OUT!
NOW!