Caged Beast.

[MorfeuV]

I've been outsourcing.

I'm looking for a Domme & so far I've only found a few good ones.

They all have one thing in common, they all want me to behave!

They all seem to be very well centered, busy & what not...

It seems as though they don't have enough time for my bullshit, but I do it for a reason.



I'm asking why? [I'm really looking for a response.]




It's as if they want a horse that's already broken.

If I claimed to train horses, and a wild mustang was offered to me, I would try to tame it.

I wouldn't want a horse that is used to being petted a certain way, combed a different way, or steered by the hands of someone else.


[As a Domme do you enjoy a passive willing doormat?

Or would you like a submissive with a little spine, who has to be bent, who has to actively surrender to your will?

or Does that take to much work?]


Using that same analogy:

A horse that you break will be of good service untill it is no longer needed.

 

[CutieMouse]

I've been outsourcing.

I'm looking for a Domme & so far I've only found a few good ones.

They all have one thing in common, they all want me to behave!

They all seem to be very well centered, busy & what not...

It seems as though they don't have enough time for my bullshit, but I do it for a reason.



I'm asking why? [I'm really looking for a response.]




It's as if they want a horse that's already broken.

If I claimed to train horses, and a wild mustang was offered to me, I would try to tame it.

I wouldn't want a horse that is used to being petted a certain way, combed a different way, or steered by the hands of someone else.


[As a Domme do you enjoy a passive willing doormat?

Or would you like a submissive with a little spine, who has to be bent, who has to actively surrender to your will?

or Does that take to much work?]


Using that same analogy:

A horse that you break will be of good service untill it is no longer needed.

I am a submissive with a spine, who actively surrenders to the will of the One I Love, without bending. I am not a doormat.

I am also an adult, who recognizes that childish acting out has no place in any relationship. There is no reason to cry for attention, or play games, when one simply knowns what one needs and wants, and seeks out the PYL who will be a good "fit". Why act out, when I can get the same results from honestly stating my needs, and behaving with integrity?

Why do you act out? IMO you act out because you aren't mature enough to make this about anyone other than *you*. There are enough male submissives in the world, that there is no reason for a good Domme to waste time with someone who can't (or won't) offer himself at his very best.

 

[Marquis]

This isn't rocket science

See my previous comment

 

[Betticus]

You submit or your don't. It's that simple.

 

[Netzach]

Why would I go through the trouble when there are many people with whom I don't have to go to the trouble, whose service I *know* is pleasing and who aren't spineless dolts just because they know who they are and are ready to face it and have what they want?

I'm sure there is someone who is into the "breaking" thing. I'm really sure there is. Good luck in finding her however.

In my casual conversations with a lot of Dominant women, I've never met one who prefers it to the submission of a person who wants to submit and is ready to submit and has done the introspection to get to that point.

 

[Marquis]

In my casual conversations with a lot of Dominant women, I've never met one who prefers it to the submission of a person who wants to submit and is ready to submit and has done the introspection to get to that point.

Lazy bitches.

 

[A Desert Rose]

... Why do you act out? IMO you act out because you aren't mature enough to make this about anyone other than *you*. There are enough male submissives in the world, that there is no reason for a good Domme to waste time with someone who can't (or won't) offer himself at his very best.

Well, that about covers it, in my opinion.

'Nuff said and well said, too.

 

[Netzach]

Lazy bitches.

Pretty much. Busy bitches too.

 

[Caitlynne]

Why do you act out? IMO you act out because you aren't mature enough to make this about anyone other than *you*.

**applauds**

And thank you for saving me the keystrokes!!

 

[blue kat]

Because I'm not into ageplay. If I really wanted to be a babysitter, I'd open a daycare.

 

[NemoAlia]

It seems as though they don't have enough time for my bullshit, but I do it for a reason.

. . . .

It's as if they want a horse that's already broken.

If I claimed to train horses, and a wild mustang was offered to me, I would try to tame it.

I wouldn't want a horse that is used to being petted a certain way, combed a different way, or steered by the hands of someone else.

. . . .

A horse that you break will be of good service untill it is no longer needed.

I think your analogy is flawed. Wild horses are unbroken because that's the way they were made -- they don't know any other way. You're acting up "for a reason." Your "reason" means you're choosing how to behave -- you have control over your actions.

Now, since you have a choice and you've chosen to act the part of somebody who requires breaking, you should seek Dommes who want that in a sub. But don't be disappointed when lots of the Dommes you find prefer a different set of behavioral decisions in their subs. Just think of it as kissing a lot of frogs on the way to finding your prince.

 

[Marquis]

Actually, wild horses are just domesticated animals gone feral.

 

[MorfeuV]

Why do you act out?

I don't even know! Maybe I want to be bitch slapped?

IMO you act out because you aren't mature enough to make this about anyone other than *you*.

Your absolutely 100% correct.

There are enough male submissives in the world, that there is no reason for a good Domme to waste time with someone who can't (or won't) offer himself at his very best.

I guess.

Why would I go through the trouble when there are many people with whom I don't have to go to the trouble, whose service I *know* is pleasing and who aren't spineless dolts just because they know who they are and are ready to face it and have what they want?

Because you can?

I'm sure there is someone who is into the "breaking" thing. I'm really sure there is. Good luck in finding her however.

There HAS to be because I EXIST.

In my casual conversations with a lot of Dominant women, I've never met one who prefers it to the submission of a person who wants to submit and is ready to submit and has done the introspection to get to that point.

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I don't understand what you mean?

 

[CutieMouse]

I don't even know! Maybe I want to be bitch slapped?

Then learn to ask for it, instead of being manipulative.

Your absolutely 100% correct.

Damn straight I am.

I guess.

No, really, there are. Why on earth would someone waste their time on someone who wasn't worthy of their attention, and showed it by being manipulative and childish?

Because you can?

Ah... the heart of the issue. Were I a Domme, I would expect my submissive to be the one working his ass off; not me.

There HAS to be because I EXIST.

Sigh.

I don't understand what you mean?

I suspect what Netzach was attempting to explain, is that she has yet to meet a Domme who preferes your behaviour, over the behaviour of a submissive who has done the intense work to submit with maturity, and his entire being.

 

[MorfeuV]

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I suspect what Netzach was attempting to explain, is that she has yet to meet a Domme who preferes your behaviour, over the behaviour of a submissive who has done the intense work to submit with maturity, and his entire being.

WHOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!


You people have completely misunderstood me.

I'm not talking about being a spoiled brat.

I'm talking about misbehaving and pushing buttons from time to time.

It's fucking impossible to act up 24/7, but it is possible to be an ass once in a while.

Do you know what I mean now?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

The rest aside, if your sincere in your horse analogy and a Dom/me was orientated towards that then I would imagine on 'breaking you' ( even if you don't behave in that manner 24/7) you would become redundant possibly ?

Your describing a fetish not a relationship.

 

[CutieMouse]

WHOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!


You people have completely misunderstood me.

I'm not talking about being a spoiled brat.

I'm talking about misbehaving and pushing buttons from time to time.

It's fucking impossible to act up 24/7, but it is possible to be an ass once in a while.

Do you know what I mean now?

All I know is that the thread you started in the Personals section, and the original post in this one, utterly contradict the post I quote, above. What you describe you are looking for, reads like a fetish novel, not a mature relationship based on Power Exchange..

Honest question- how much actual work have you put into learning about being a submissive, and studying the Lifestyle?

 

[tanyachrs]

So BDSM is all about conformity now?

 

[Shankara20]

So BDSM is all about conformity now?

I'm sorry, but I don't understand what you are saying. Will you please expant your question?

Thanks Shank

 

[BiBunny]

I'm not a Domme at all (I play around at Topping occasionally with my girlfriend, but that's about it), but I am a horse person. So in keeping with your horse analogy, I'm going to reply the way I think a Domme would reply to it. (Ladies, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!)

A totally untamed horse, ready to be trained and domesticated as you want it, sounds good in books. However, fall off of enough of the idiotic brutes, and you'll soon come to see the good in an intelligent, well-trained horse, even if you are an experienced rider. Just my two cents.

 

[tanyachrs]

Telling him that his interests aren't likely to meet with many matches is one thing. Telling him that his interests are wrong and that he ought to study the right way to do it seems odd coming from this particular community. When I asked a question I was told that it was fine to do it the way I liked, which I appreciated it. I completely understand why he wants what he wants, although my own tastes lean in a different direction.

 

[MorfeuV]

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Telling him that his interests are wrong and that he ought to study the right way to do it seems odd coming from this particular community. When I asked a question I was told that it was fine to do it the way I liked, which I appreciated it. I completely understand why he wants what he wants, although my own tastes lean in a different direction.

I agree with you.

I think the reason this board in particular is like this is becuase it's small.

It's like a small town mindest.

"Yall aint from around here are ya?"

 

[MorfeuV]

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What you describe you are looking for, reads like a fetish novel, not a mature relationship based on Power Exchange..

I'm so proud of you!

You speak like a true Veteran of this shit!

You must know everything about BDSM.

WOW!

You really are something special you know that?

Maybe you can write a book about what I can or can not do, what is possible in real life and what's just my delusion!

Maybe you can even start your own television show over the pond!

You'll be bigger than oprah!

Or how about this?

It'll be an Adventure!

You can come over here to California, and watch my everyday activity to see if I'm living a lie or a fantasy!

You can tell me if wiping my ass six times after I take a shit reminds you of a book you read.

 

[Cheshire D]

First reply, heck first post ever on the lit forums, but I kinda want to add my .02.

I read what CutieMouse was saying as: "Have you done some research into the lifestyle and find out that it isn't all about ball-breaking and taming wild subs?" Implying that of course while those are some aspects of the lifestyle, they aren't the be-all and end all.

At least that's what I've understood from lurking around here for the past year or so. >>

 

[Marquis]

I agree with you.

I do need to make my posts clearly understood. & I don't know how to make it any easier to understand.

Why is it that what I want is "from a novel" & when someone else says something everyone is all "Teeeheee! "

Whatever.... a bunch of communist.

Oh we understand exactly what you want.

Let me tell you what I want.

I want a small harem of slaves. Each of them will be a highly powerful and influential female in a different field. A lawyer, a doctor, an artist, an executive, etc.

They will all submit completely to me and only me, unless I install some hierarchy among them. They will all fuck me and each other in wild orgies every night, and then go to work the next day to bring me much cash and power while I lounge by the pool sipping margaritas.

They will never complain in a way I can't handle with a few nice words or hard spankings.

It's cool to have fantasies, but we're trying to give you advice about what works. You've gotten this advice now, from lots of experienced and mature people, including one professional dominant who has tons of experience with what dommes are looking for.

You might want to save up your lunch money and try paying for some domination in the style you're looking for but even then, if you can find anyone to do it, it won't be cheap.