... But I Won't Do That: Your first squick

[CuriousThroat2]

We all love talking about our favorite kink(s), but what about the other side of the fucking coin? What was the first thing you came across that you just knew without a doubt wasn't for you?

Of course, in keeping with the forum rules, this isn't to mock or deride anyone's fetish. To each their own and be happy with it. But I'm curious.

For me it was during a cybersex session a long time ago. The guy just out of the blue goes "and then I whip it out and pee on you". I was deep in "imagine what's going on" mode, so it hit me kind of hard. And I knew I didn't like it. For me, I just can't get into any of the bathroom stuff. I guess it's just that I can't find waste products sexy. (Not to mention my knowledge of biology and food safety will always trump any interest I might have in that).

That was my first, but the one that really made me go "oh. Really? oh."... I was at a convention, and there was a late night panel about sexuality. Specifically, discuss your kink and get some advice. That sounded like fun. I was just getting my wife into enjoyed getting cummed on, and I didn't mind asking for some tips on facials.

So the panel starts. The panelists introduce themselves and throw it open to questions. I'm sitting in the back and figure I'll wait a bit until the room gets warmed up. A guy up from puts up his hand to ask his question. And the next half hour is an indepth discussion about urethra play. Specifically, how to introduce conductive rods and do electroshock play at the same time. Down there.

So yeah, that was way more than I was anticipating. I just sat quietly, took notes out of train-wreck curiosity, and figured I was way out of my league on that one. lol.

 

[Jaime_H]

When I was once asked to lick someone's toes I realised I didn't have a foot fetish.
Ok, I did it, as sex is all about compromise. But it didn't rock my boat.

 

[itsstillme]

I'd have to say that the bathroom play is definitely off limits for me. I'll try pretty much anything once, but I just can't go there.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I was picking up an out of town newspaper at my favorite news stand when this guy tells me he would share some blow with me if I gave him a ride home. I was 18 and naive at the time, so I said yes. I drive him to this empty house, and he tells me to wait while he goes across the street to get the coke. He comes back five minutes later, we consume the product, and then he starts taking off his pants. I said, "wooo, what are you doing?" He says, well, you did my coke, now you're going to suck my dick. I tell him, no, that ain't ever going to happen. He begs and pleads for a while, and I tell him I'm leaving. So then he says, well, OK, but you owe me $50 for the coke. I told him you're really out of luck, because I don't have any cash. I left, and never went to that news stand again.

 

[Earl]

I'd have to say scat would be a no no for me.

 

[NoMoreNoMore]

No bathroom/BDSM

Maybe a little play tie up or spank, but no hard care. Not into the whole DOM leather scene. No bathroom scene either. Oh, and no toes. Just not my thing. Pretty much open to just about anything else. Doesn't matter though. These days I am left to my own devices.

 

[citcatlass]

I'm echoing the thoughts about scat on this thread - not for me.
Also incest rp; my imagination keeps throwing up images of real family members and *poof*, wave goodbye to any eroticism.

 

[CuriousThroat2]

I forgot about feet. It kinda falls into the "health and safety" thing for me. Feet are walking around the floor all day, and I know what's been on that floor. Or don't know. =)

Once I was taking a bath with my wife. I washed her feet and gave her a foot rub after a long hard day. We were taking about some sexy things, and I said I had an idea. Since her feet were perfectly clean (and cute as hell), I tried kissing them. Okay. I tried sucking on her toes.

Unfortunately, my wife is very ticklish. I didn't get kicked in the face, but we learned neither of us were really into it. =)

 

[sunandshadow]

Neutering/castration is probably the one that squicks me hardest. Maybe because it's directly opposite my own favorite kink, impregnation and pregnancy. For the record, the story that squicked me wasn't violent, the neutering wasn't forceful or bloody, it was a futuristic setting where a person was going in for sexual reassignment surgery because they were uncomfortable feeling arousal or desire (some variety of asexuality I guess) and they wanted to be in a body with no genitals, that couldn't feel arousal or be used for sex. Probably I should respect that; I have no problem being friends with an asexual person, though I would definitely not want to attempt a romantic relationship with an ace. But something about voluntarity giving up one's sexuality just freaks me the hell out. Celibacy vows do too; I could never belong to a religion that thought celibacy was somehow admirable.

Oh, lol, I guess I answered the wrong question. First squick? Verbal humiliation, especially in the context of one adult treating another adult as if they were a misbehaving child. Barely even sexual but the topic immediately gets my stomach churning acid. Can't tell you how many times I've been reading something that's supposedly a romance novel, but the 'hero' does some shit like give the heroine an order when she hasn't granted him the right to order her around, and when she disobeys the order he forcibly holds her down and spanks her; to me that makes me want to see the heroine poison him, not end up married to him. Ugh.

 

[tjernst]

Limits

No scat or pain. And neither of us do bi. Most everything else we will consider/ try.

 

[SquidProQuo]

Bodily wastes for sure. And as mentioned already, toe-sucking.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I have a motto: I'll do anything once, twice if I like it. I have yet to find something I haven't done twice

That being said, the ONLY exception to the motto is no non-sexual bodily fluids (scat I consider a non-sexual bodily fluid). Some things, you don't have to try to know you won't like it.

Toe sucking/foot fetish, like rimjobs, are fair game IF you practice good personal hygene.

 

[Lonely_gi]

My type of woman.lol

 

[aaron2878]

I was once asked to be dominant and just couldn't do it. I don't mind being dominated but just don't have a dom personality in me.

 

[HussarVanburen]

-First- squick? Probably homosexuality. I was like: Nope. Not interested in doing that with dudes. This was probably around the time the word "sex" began to have meaning.

Now do you mean the first thing I witnessed (not in person!)? In that case, accidentally coming upon scat. I felt physically sickened for hours.