Bummer!

[Guest]

Well, I'm in need of some serious advice. Before any of you ask, I am 18 (have been since june), and male.
Here's the deal:
My best friend (female, 21) and myself have been spending a lot of time together lately. Now she told me last week that she found me very attractive, and gradually we started to play around a little, teasing each other and so on. This week things progressed, we kissed, and went a little bit further. The real problem is that she's seeing one of my friends. Now why is it that I know I should feel like a complete bastard, but I don't? Has anyone else gotten into this kind of situation? What did you do?
She's also made it extremely clear she would like to sleep with me. My problem with that is it could destroy our friendship completely. On the other hand, we could just see it as sex, and nothing more.

Help!

 

[lovetoread]

~My opinion only~

Take it or leave it....


You must think about this without your dick. You say she is dating a friend,but she is willing to sleep with you? Unless you are going for one night stand,I wouldnt do it. Any relationship that starts by a person cheating on another will never work. Keep her friendship if you want,but dont mess it up by sleeping with her.

 

[erosman]

~My opinion only~

You must think about this without your dick.

I agree with lovetoread. The ability of the dick to decide complex relationship issues is severely limited by its egocentricity. If you want to navigate in the relational world of people's feelings, you best make those choices with the heart and mind. 18 is just starting. There are plenty of opportunities for sexual adventure in your future, and maybe even this one...but not at the expense of friendship.

 

[Armygirl]

think long and hard

 

[cyndiesweet]

Careful. Careful.

How much are you willing to lose here. You might lose both friends in the process. She seems to be experimenting with you for some reason. Maybe your innocence? Once she has her way with you you might find she'll lose interest real fast.Then you will have one disinterested friend and one really pissed off friend.

Sounds lonely to me.JMHO

 

[juicylips]

Well, I'm in need of some serious advice. Before any of you ask, I am 18
She's also made it extremely clear she would like to sleep with me. My problem with that is it could destroy our friendship completely. On the other hand, we could just see it as sex, and nothing more.

Help!

Oh! To be 18 again and have these kinds of "problems"

If you two are best friends, you should be able to talk about this with her. The way things are progressing, sex is going to happen.

Talk about it BEFORE it does. That way when it happens you know where you stand and where your friendship stands.

I think this is like one of those "can we still be friends after sex" threads.

Cassidy,
good luck!!!!!

Let us know what happens

 

[petrel]

very careful
basically don't fuck her until she is seperated from your other firend and be aware that even then you may lose that friend

if oyu do fuck her make sure you are dammed good - actually don't even think about getting yourself off this time (jerk off before hand if oyu need to) pay alot of attention to her and then she might come back for a replay

 

[juicylips]

if oyu do fuck her make sure you are dammed good - actually don't even think about getting yourself off this time (jerk off before hand if oyu need to) pay alot of attention to her and then she might come back for a replay

I take it you have done this before??

Jerking off before fucking?? Does it help??

Cassidy

 

[Guest]

This is not meant to be too sexist but -

Women will come and go throughout your life (particularly at 18). Mates are hard to come by, real mates, not the "associates" you may have but a true friend.

If you are willing to sacrifice your freindship for this lady, by all means, do, but make sure you are prepared for the consequences of your actions.

"On the other hand, we could just see it as sex, and nothing more".

Is that how you would see it if the situation was reversed?

Just my 2c worth

Bonesy

 

[cellis]

OH I have so been there and done that many years ago at about the same age.... just from an older female prospective.... don't do it... it will totally ruin your friendship.... however, that is just my opinion.... it could be different for you....

 

[felixdakat]

i hear ya

THERE'S AN OLD CHINESE PROVERB THAT MY GRAND FATHER HANDED DOWN TO HIS SON, MY FATHER, AND MY FATHER HANDED DOWN TO ME.

"BROS BEFORE HOS"





....sorry if the terminology "hos" offends any of you....

 

[InSaNe]

Yeah diffenetly friendship before sex unless you don't get any then I think you should go for it.

 

[TigerClaw]

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