Bruises....

[SexyChele]

Okay, I have the strangest thing going on and was wondering if anyone else has the same thing. After having sex with my S/O my inner thighs end up with multiple bruises. Sometimes it might just be a couple, like where his fingers might have been. Other times, like this morning, my inner thighs are covered and looks as though I've been beaten.

My man is really not that hard on my at all. Yeah, he does like to place his hands on my inner thighs, but it doesn't seem rough at all, nor does he seem to put any of his weight on his hands. He certainly doesn't beat me, nor does he strike me in any way. I've never been known to bruise easily, in fact, I apply more pressure to my inner thighs during my workouts than what happens during sex.

I'm not necessarily complaining, but with summer here it makes things just a bit more inconvenient. I have to be careful wearing shorts or a bathing suit. And I've heard that if a gyno sees bruising and is suspicious s/he may contact police to report possible domestic abuse.

Has this happened to anyone else? If so, how did you get around the bruising? We have tried different positions and the only one that doesn't seem to cause bruising is "doggie". While that is okay for me, my man is not overly fond of that position and who wants to only stick to one position?

This really has me more puzzled than anything else. Any suggestions or ideas out there?

 

[Boxstar]

You might just have low iron in your blood. I think this causes bruises easily. I think you can take an iron daily supplement. Try this...it might work

 

[Noor]

Oh, I have been there, brings back memories. I had a lover for a long time that use to cover me in bruises, my inner thighs, my knees and ankles. They are pressure point bruises, which is why fingers and hands will do them but workouts won’t. The skin on your inner thighs is thinner so it bruises more easily. If you are on any NSAIDs it is easier to bruise.

Yes, gynos and other doctors are supposed to report suspected abuse but I think as long as your sex organs are not bruised, you should be all right. I actually went to the doctor to get them checked out so my primary care doctor knew first before seeing them; he was amused but not worried. Just tell the Dr about them first and ask for suggestions. Most women who are abused hide their bruises. For someone to beat you there and only there you would have to be pretty willing. A person who is being abused tries to get a away, and if they can’t, they pull their bodies into a fetal position to protect their head and major organs from damage, it seems to be a pretty much automatic reaction, so the bruises of the abuser are not left only in one place, esp. not on the inner thighs, unless you are restrained but then there would be restraint marks too.

Things you can do:
Eat dried apricots, which increases your vitamin K for less bruising.
Put arnica gel on the bruise so they disappear more quickly.
Have your man put his hands somewhere else, your waist, shoulders, ankles, mouth, ass, tied behind his back . You don’t need different positions you just need him not to be putting his fingers on your inner thighs,

In college, I had a friend who had sex on a graveled roof one night when she was drunk, the bruises that left were very impressive and embarassing. She was a red head, with very fair skin, when the bruises went green she looked just lovely!

 

[capricious_chic]

I bruise easily, and more often than not have no idea how I have gotten bruised. Something to consider if you don't normally bruise easily is a vitamin deficiency, and/or the fact that as we get older our skin becomes thinner and blood capillaries more fragile.

Frozen witch hazel is great for treating new bruises. Keep an ice tray full of witch hazel in the freezer, and apply to the bruised area as soon as possible. The next day apply a hot water bottle (not too hot) or warm compress. This will help to encourage reabsorption of the blood and bring faster relief.

Vitamin C is the most common vitamin deficiency that leads to easy bruising, you may consider taking a daily suppliment or upping the dose if you already do. You can also use a topical Vitamin C ointment - it is said to help make the skin less prone to bruising, reducing the number and severity of bruises.

You can also include things high in bioflavonoids (which has been shown to keep blood vessels and capillaries strong and healthy.) Fresh fruit, including citrus fruits, apples, blueberries and cherries are all good examples, as well as drinking green tea.

Hope that helps.

 

[SexyChele]

Thanks for the info! I do take a multi-vitamin regularly and it has the required amount of iron for a woman contained in it. I'd be a little fearful of taking even more iron as I know you can take too much. But thank you, Boxstar!

Capricious Chic, thanks for the heads up on vitamin C. I believe I've seen the lotion at my pharmacy and I'll check it out. Didn't know that about the witch hazel, but while I'm at the pharmacy I'll pick up a bottle and give it a try. Thank you! Also the idea of getting older *sigh* does, unfortunately, make sense.

Noor, as always, you give such sound reasoning. I was only thinking of going to the gyno and him seeing bruises. Didn't think he might connect the dots. And knowing my gyno, he'll probably get a chuckle out of the whole thing! Yeah, he's a little strange, but a good doctor!

Once again, thanks all!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Larson234]

You might want to have the doc check to ensure you are not hypocoagulated -- which is a $5.00 word for "thin blood". It can be done with simple blood work.

 

[SexyChele]

Pink Orchid and Larson, thank you both! I've got an appointment with my doc to have my thyroid tested so I think I will also have a chat with her then about this.

And Larson, wow - never knew such a thing existed! I'm hypothyroid and I'm finding out as I go along that there are so many different things associated with that little gland! I wouldn't be surprised if "thin blood" would be one of them!

 

[Noor]

Pink Orchid and Larson, thank you both! I've got an appointment with my doc to have my thyroid tested so I think I will also have a chat with her then about this.

And Larson, wow - never knew such a thing existed! I'm hypothyroid and I'm finding out as I go along that there are so many different things associated with that little gland! I wouldn't be surprised if "thin blood" would be one of them!

Glad to hear you are checking it out.
Never heard of thin blood, I wonder what it means exactly. I have a clotting problem in that my platelets are slow to come together, I do clot it just takes a while. But that is why I went to the dr regarding the bruises.

 

[sheath]

Glad to hear you are checking it out.
Never heard of thin blood, I wonder what it means exactly. I have a clotting problem in that my platelets are slow to come together, I do clot it just takes a while. But that is why I went to the dr regarding the bruises.

Maybe he means 'anemia'?

My mother is anemic, and it results quite often in bruises. Do you ever get enormous bruises that look horrible, and you can't think of where it might have come from? My mother gets bruises like that, everywhere. She says it's caused by being anemic.



S.

 

[Larson234]

Blood disorders come in all shapes and sizes -- from what I have been told by a hemotologist, approx. 60% of blood disorders are not classifiable. Most commonly the symptoms involve hypercoagulation, in which you blood clots too easily -- Factor Five, Antithrombin three, etc...

As far as I'm aware, anemia is a low iron condition -- not quite the same thing, vut perhaps similar symptoms?

 

[Wantonica]

Hi Chele,

I am a very easy bruiser, and it is always more difficult to deal with in the summer. Shorts, short sleeved tops, etc. Well, you know what I mean. The thin blood theory helped me for some time... I was taking aspirin daily for aches, pains, hangovers, you name it. Aspirin thins the blood. For several months, I stopped taking it, and no more bruising. Then, I began taking it again, but with less frequency. The harsh bruising began immediately. I do believe it has something to do with blood thinning agents.

Smiles,
Wantonica

 

[LadyAura]

Sounds like a discussion to have with your doctor. You may be low in iron or have another medical problem. It is worth checking out.

 

[SexyChele]

I have a number of ongoing medical conditions and am tested regularly for various things. One of those is anemia and that has been ruled out again and again, so I don't think that's the problem.

My man did remind me, however, that he bit the inside of my thighs more this past weekend than he has in the past. (Okay, yes, I'm blushing furiously now!) I shared this info with my doctor over the phone yesterday afternoon, and granted she couldn't see the bruising, but she suspected that it has more to do with the place (inner thighs is a more delicate area and bruising shows up more easily) and the fact that the pressure was pinpointed to a specific area. Unlike the machines I use when I work out that distribute the "trauma" over the entire inner thigh area, my man's fingers and teeth are concentrating on a smaller area.

She did warn me against taking too much asprin or other pain relievers, as they do thin the blood and can cause more frequent bruising and bruising that seems much more severe than normal. She also speculated that I nor my S/O might realize just how much pressure is being applied and to either keep our "attentions" to a more limited area or be more aware of how much pressure is being applied. She did recommend placing a cold pack against my inner thighs after sex if I wished to pursue this type of activity to minimize bruising the next day.

However, I am going in for a blood panel for my thyroid and she will instruct the nurse to ask the lab to do a complete make up just so they can rule out any serious problems.

So, above information given to those who it may help. (Or just those who might be curious! ) I guess we just need to take it easy once in a while!

Oh, and Sheath, my mom bruises really easy! She'll wake up some mornings and have huge bruises on her legs, hips, and arms and not recall hitting anything or bumping into anything. I've asked her to check it out, but she just shrugs her shoulders and says, "Bruises happen, you know." She's 69 so I think it might have to do with age. I can't force her to go to a doctor, so that's my opinion!

Again, thanks all!