broken heart

[Tamtam]

I really need to talk and get this all out of my head before I go crazy. So I hope you dont mind my venting. My girl and I had a long talk last night. Lately we have been having problems. Having little fights and what not. Things just havent been like they used to be. After the long talk it came down to that she doesnt know if shes in love with me anymore and she doesnt see us spending our lives together. Im crushed. Shes my first girlfriend and the only person I have ever given my heart to completely. I didnt have life long plans for us but I definitely wasnt ready to rule out the possibility of forever. I just dont know what to do. We agreed not to rush this decision and to give it some time to see if we can work things out but I honestly dont think she wants to. She says she still loves me and wants me to be part of her life but I dont think I can just be friends. Im just so hurt and confused.
Anyway..thanks for listening...

 

[SweetCherry]

Take the time you need to heal. Being friends isn't so bad. You might not be ready for it yet, but someday you will. Your best bet is to tell her that you need some time before you're ready to takl to her. You can always contact her when you're ready.

 

[Tamtam]

Being friends isnt the worst thing but its not what I want/need. I know I cant look at her with out wanting to hold her. At this point out lives are so mingled together, it will be hard to go anywhere with out seeing each other. We have the same friends, play on the same teams, etc. I just dont think I can handle it.

 

[Tamtam]

sorry accidently posted twice...

 

[SweetCherry]

Hugs to you Tamtam. it's a hard place to be right now. Be strong.

 

[Tamtam]

Thanks for listening. I talk to her a little while ago and we decided we want to give it a shot at making it work. I dont know if it will happen but atleast we are going to try. I just know Im not ready to walk away with out putting in all my effort.

 

[MzChrista]

I hope it all works out OK for you.

 

[It'sasecret]

I hope all works out for the best.

 

[deezire1900]

Hang in there babe. You know the saying "time heals all wounds" Well, I will let you know if it works...still waiting.

 

[pollyjean]

Hope it works out for you Tamtam.

 

[Tamtam]

Thank you so much to all of you for listening and for your kind words of support and encouragement. We spent the afternoon together today, the first we have seen each other since we talked. It was a little awkward at first but then we were acting like we used to. Im still hurting and I dont know what the future holds for us but Im dealing a lot better today. So thanks and HUGS to everyone!
Tammy

 

[Etoile]

Best of luck to you, Tamtam. I went through the same thing with my girlfriend in Spring 2000. I was lucky - we got back together in the Fall, and we're still together. She was my first and only love, though, so I was completely distraught - she wanted to be friends, too, and I didn't see how it was possible. Hang in there - I'll be thinking of you.