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Bringing in new talent
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magicalmoments
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You ask a very interesting question.
We decided to go with strangers. Our reasoning was that we didn't want to risk ruining a perfectly good friendship if it all went sour. While I say we went with strangers, we made sure that we got to know them reasonably well before committing to any sexual activity, like several meetings before there was any action. If they didn't have that level of patience then they weren't for us.
As for avoiding crazies, well we were lucky and never struck any, but we certainly heard stories from others who weren't so lucky.
My advice, lay down the ground rules clearly and stick to them. Good luck with your adventures.
We decided to go with strangers. Our reasoning was that we didn't want to risk ruining a perfectly good friendship if it all went sour. While I say we went with strangers, we made sure that we got to know them reasonably well before committing to any sexual activity, like several meetings before there was any action. If they didn't have that level of patience then they weren't for us.
As for avoiding crazies, well we were lucky and never struck any, but we certainly heard stories from others who weren't so lucky.
My advice, lay down the ground rules clearly and stick to them. Good luck with your adventures.
littlecordelera
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I'm not sure what you mean by "more familiar" exactly, but for first-timers, that could be a problem. If you bring a stranger into your bedroom and afterwards there are regrets, then you never see the stranger again and forgetting the whole affair is much, much easier. If there are regrets and it was with someone you know, then the uneasiness is revisited every time you see that person.
Whoever it is, do meet with this person for drinks and/or dinner at least once. The difference between an online ad and your expectations can be gigantic. And do not rely strictly on physical attributes. A hot body is certainly nice, but if he has annoying habits, it won't matter. Trust me.
If you have any reservations after the first meeting, either keep looking or arrange another meeting. If after two meetings you are still not sure, keep looking. As first-timers, I would suggest that you meet with several candidates before you make a choice. After you get some experience, the selection process becomes easier and much more accurate.
You are welcome to send me a PM if you have specific questions.
Whoever it is, do meet with this person for drinks and/or dinner at least once. The difference between an online ad and your expectations can be gigantic. And do not rely strictly on physical attributes. A hot body is certainly nice, but if he has annoying habits, it won't matter. Trust me.
If you have any reservations after the first meeting, either keep looking or arrange another meeting. If after two meetings you are still not sure, keep looking. As first-timers, I would suggest that you meet with several candidates before you make a choice. After you get some experience, the selection process becomes easier and much more accurate.
You are welcome to send me a PM if you have specific questions.
My husband and I have invited other people into our bed quite a lot over the past eight years and (mostly) it's been a lot of fun.
There are risks whatever you do, but I would recommend someone you know quite well to begin with. No matter how "liberated" you are, the first time there are going to be some nervousness. Better if you can all be friendly and giggle about the whole thing.
But make no mistake, when you start to do it you -- and if you enjoy it -- you are going to have some very changed attitudes towards sex.
There are risks whatever you do, but I would recommend someone you know quite well to begin with. No matter how "liberated" you are, the first time there are going to be some nervousness. Better if you can all be friendly and giggle about the whole thing.
But make no mistake, when you start to do it you -- and if you enjoy it -- you are going to have some very changed attitudes towards sex.
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I happened to be lucky enough to be "The new Talent" (sounds a bit like, studding a horse, each to there own) with a Married cpl. The gent I had the pleasure of working with for a few months...the whole time they were feeling me out...seducing me.
This before Al Gore invented the internet, and all we have now. I really don't suggest, advertising for 'IT' tonight...because there a a LOT of seriously creepy, people living in the murky waters of solicited fuck and suck tonight.
This all sounds good until the time it happens. The cpl I had the pleasure of being involved with...had tried it a few times before. some were no shows, others were NOT what they said they were...the one that finally made it to the bed with them, only at the naked moment said...."i'm not into any gay stuff"...After telling them how he liked sucking cock...
It took them a few years and trial and error...Now they were not hot and heavy...on the prowl daily. Each time they met the gent in a very public place. Avoided to many adult beverages. The guess if the "new Talent" wanted to liqueur up. he was pushing them.
You've a lot of life to live....don't bucket list it in one night
This before Al Gore invented the internet, and all we have now. I really don't suggest, advertising for 'IT' tonight...because there a a LOT of seriously creepy, people living in the murky waters of solicited fuck and suck tonight.
This all sounds good until the time it happens. The cpl I had the pleasure of being involved with...had tried it a few times before. some were no shows, others were NOT what they said they were...the one that finally made it to the bed with them, only at the naked moment said...."i'm not into any gay stuff"...After telling them how he liked sucking cock...
It took them a few years and trial and error...Now they were not hot and heavy...on the prowl daily. Each time they met the gent in a very public place. Avoided to many adult beverages. The guess if the "new Talent" wanted to liqueur up. he was pushing them.
You've a lot of life to live....don't bucket list it in one night
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Getting started
Hello and welcome!
The first thing I would say is you both have to be comfortable with either scenario. This is a big step and all situations should be discussed.
As for us, the first time was with a friend. The subject was brought up as foreplay for close to two years so it wasn't as if he just dropped by and we all jumped in bed. And I should add that the fantasy wasn't about one particular fellow but a number of guys we knew.
Our first time ended with just a blow job from her to him but after he left we talked for hours and were both very pleased and wanted more. She was hooked after that.
Feel free to PM me if you care to chat in more detail.
Ted
Hello and welcome!
The first thing I would say is you both have to be comfortable with either scenario. This is a big step and all situations should be discussed.
As for us, the first time was with a friend. The subject was brought up as foreplay for close to two years so it wasn't as if he just dropped by and we all jumped in bed. And I should add that the fantasy wasn't about one particular fellow but a number of guys we knew.
Our first time ended with just a blow job from her to him but after he left we talked for hours and were both very pleased and wanted more. She was hooked after that.
Feel free to PM me if you care to chat in more detail.
Ted
You may want to take a step back and think about what you're husband is suggesting. This may sound like a hot fantasy right now, but it appears that your husband keeps finding excuses to back out, or delay making this fantasy become a reality. You need to ask yourself if your husband can really handle the reality of you being with another man in front of him. Often a man thinks it would be so hot to have a third man in the bedroom, but when it happens, he finds he can't handle it. Before you move forward, you need to be very sure how your husband is going to react to the experience after the fact. No point in ruining your marriage just because your husband may have bitten off more than he can chew. I did notice that you refer to him as your partner, but if you have a child together, he is going to react more like a husband.
TJ is right, you must be sure! Have her meet with the man first and have a few drinks together and even get a little close with maybe him touching her to see how you react. Also it was mentioned about humor, yes, this is also good, it breaks the tension in the situation. Take it step by step as one person posted, his wife gave the man a blow job and he left. This is a great test for your first step.
Yachtsman69
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I have been the extra guy a bunch of times, and for some of them I was their 1st. I really enjoy meeting before hand so that all can get comfortable with each other, or not, before proceeding.
I have heard from couples that I have met that many men misrepresent themselves so a meet up clarifies this both from an appearance and a personality standpoint. I have experienced this pre-meet manifest in 3 ways:
1. I meet just the husband for a beer and he scopes me out to see if I am a fit. For me this has always been on a day prior to the day they want to play. It gives the couple time for another option if I turn out to be a dud.
2. I meet with the couple for dinner or drinks in advance of the planned meeting date. I enjoy this because it takes the pressure off everyone. If either side is not comfortable we just never see each other again.
3. I meet with the couple for dinner or drinks on the planned meeting date. We proceed to play time if everyone is comfortable. This works fine as well but does not give the couple another possible option if they do not like me.
I have been fortunate not to be turned down after the initial meeting because I am 100% transparent. There are no surprises at the meeting.
In addition to screening out people you don't want in your bed, making a connection in advance makes the sex way better when it does happen. The level of comfort is that much higher and you have had a chance to talk about what you want, and don't want, to do in advance. I sometimes wonder if people around us in a bar or restaurant are overhearing our explicitly sexual conversations
Getting another woman is possible but is a lot harder than getting another guy. They don't call them unicorns for nothing.
I wish you good luck in your adventure. The couples I have met with have a lot of fun with it. In addition to the awesome crazy sex, I enjoy seeing how aroused hubby gets when watching us play. At the end I always say "Thank you for sharing your wife with me", and I mean it...
I have heard from couples that I have met that many men misrepresent themselves so a meet up clarifies this both from an appearance and a personality standpoint. I have experienced this pre-meet manifest in 3 ways:
1. I meet just the husband for a beer and he scopes me out to see if I am a fit. For me this has always been on a day prior to the day they want to play. It gives the couple time for another option if I turn out to be a dud.
2. I meet with the couple for dinner or drinks in advance of the planned meeting date. I enjoy this because it takes the pressure off everyone. If either side is not comfortable we just never see each other again.
3. I meet with the couple for dinner or drinks on the planned meeting date. We proceed to play time if everyone is comfortable. This works fine as well but does not give the couple another possible option if they do not like me.
I have been fortunate not to be turned down after the initial meeting because I am 100% transparent. There are no surprises at the meeting.
In addition to screening out people you don't want in your bed, making a connection in advance makes the sex way better when it does happen. The level of comfort is that much higher and you have had a chance to talk about what you want, and don't want, to do in advance. I sometimes wonder if people around us in a bar or restaurant are overhearing our explicitly sexual conversations
Getting another woman is possible but is a lot harder than getting another guy. They don't call them unicorns for nothing.
I wish you good luck in your adventure. The couples I have met with have a lot of fun with it. In addition to the awesome crazy sex, I enjoy seeing how aroused hubby gets when watching us play. At the end I always say "Thank you for sharing your wife with me", and I mean it...
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