YukonJack907
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How do you broach the subject of being bi with another guy whose sexual orientation you don’t know. You’re bi (in the closet), married and very straight-acting. He’s married too and also seemingly straight. But you’d like to explore his bi interests (if any) while maintaining your own “closetedness”. That’s where I am with Martin, so over a casual conversation I had an idea to relay the following concocted story:
Background: There is a small, weekly, local auction that we both attend occasionally.
Hey Marty, something kinda strange happened to me at the auction a few weeks ago. I went a little early, like I usually do, to see what was on the docket for the auction and I was looking through some tools. Several other people were there doing the same thing, as usual. I was kinda lost in thought and didn’t notice this guy had come up next to me. Average guy, maybe a bit younger than we are; I’ve seen him there before.
“Good morning. Find anything interesting? Anything you can’t live without?, he asked.
It was a common question. Just being polite in a lighthearted way.
“Ahhh, ummm, there’re a few things I have my eye on. What about you, find anything interesting?, I asked.
He smiled warmly and said, “Yes. I’m looking at it.”
“What’s that?” I asked naively before I realized he was looking straight at me.
He just smiled. “Maybe you’d let me buy you a cup of coffee sometime and we can talk about it,” he offered.
I didn’t say anything; just stood there looking like a deer in the headlights I suppose.
He handed me a card with his phone number on it. “No pressure, just coffee, just talk. Let me know ... whenever you’re ready.”
“Uh, yeah, ok”, I mumbled. And that was it.
I’ve seen him a couple times since then, and he always makes a point of saying hello, particularly when no one else is nearby. And he gives me a wink, but that’s all. He never hangs around or mentions our previous conversation.
That’s it. What do you think of it as an ice breaker with Martin?
Background: There is a small, weekly, local auction that we both attend occasionally.
Hey Marty, something kinda strange happened to me at the auction a few weeks ago. I went a little early, like I usually do, to see what was on the docket for the auction and I was looking through some tools. Several other people were there doing the same thing, as usual. I was kinda lost in thought and didn’t notice this guy had come up next to me. Average guy, maybe a bit younger than we are; I’ve seen him there before.
“Good morning. Find anything interesting? Anything you can’t live without?, he asked.
It was a common question. Just being polite in a lighthearted way.
“Ahhh, ummm, there’re a few things I have my eye on. What about you, find anything interesting?, I asked.
He smiled warmly and said, “Yes. I’m looking at it.”
“What’s that?” I asked naively before I realized he was looking straight at me.
He just smiled. “Maybe you’d let me buy you a cup of coffee sometime and we can talk about it,” he offered.
I didn’t say anything; just stood there looking like a deer in the headlights I suppose.
He handed me a card with his phone number on it. “No pressure, just coffee, just talk. Let me know ... whenever you’re ready.”
“Uh, yeah, ok”, I mumbled. And that was it.
I’ve seen him a couple times since then, and he always makes a point of saying hello, particularly when no one else is nearby. And he gives me a wink, but that’s all. He never hangs around or mentions our previous conversation.
That’s it. What do you think of it as an ice breaker with Martin?
