Break-Up

Talon

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This 'story' is a bit long, and I know its not very 'appropriate' for Literotica, but its nice to get this crap off my chest.
I need alittle advice. About 4 1/2 weeks ago, I got out of a bad relationship that tore me apart. About 3 days after that, I met up with a woman who seemed sincere in that she took care of me and helped me get over my broken heart. We started out as just friends, but it soon evolved in to a full out relationship. I was spending the night at her house, helping her pay rent, and being a father figure to her three young children. Sounds good so far...no? But theres another factor. The girl, who'll be referred to as Jenny, had a crush on my best friends(get this) father before we ever met. My friends, who I will refer to as Jim, father made Jenny promise she would look after Jim. Jim did not know that his father asked this. Jenny brought me and Jim breakfast every morning(we live in the same apartment complex, and Jim is my roommate.)And took me to work. Jim took this as a sign that Jenny liked him. I wanted Jenny to stay away from Jim, because Jim is...(trying to be nice and honest at the same time) a loser with no life, and so he gets a 'sympthy' vote from most women. I didn't want Jenny to get attatched to him, because the relationship I just got out of involved Jim falling in love with my girlfriend, and then tearing us apart. Little did I know, everyday while I was at work Jim and Jenny were skipping work and spending time together. And when I went to sleep, Jenny would go outside and talk to Jim all night. (I'll explain how I found this out later.) Four days ago, I found out Jenny and Jim went to a movie together behind my back, then they went back to her place. I was worried about Jenny(she was supposed to be out drinking, and at about 2:30 I started thinking something went wrong.) so I went down to her apartment. Something compelled me to check behind the complex, in the extra parking lot, and I found Jims truck and Jennys car parked side by side. I ran home and got my baseball bat, fully intent on beating Jims ass. Luckily my friend showed up and stopped me from taking the bat with me, but we went down to her apartment and looked through the window. Jenny was sitting on Jims lap watching T.V. I freaked out, and started banging on the door. Jenny wouldn't answer, and throughout the night I tried 2 more times to get her to at least talk to me through the door but she wouldn't even acknowledge my prescense. I packed up my essentials and took off to my friends house, where he let me stay the night. The next morning I got a ticket to Colorado and came back home to bunk with my parents. It was important to me that I say goodbye to Jenny one last time, and so we made for her house before going to the bus station. My friend tagged along to make sure I didn't do anything stupid. When we pulled up to the apartment complex, My friend (who I'll call Bob), got out to go and find Jenny for me. Jenny came over to the car, and told me she wouldn't open the door cause she was afraid of what I would think,(like staying inside sitting on his lap and ignoring me is a considerate thing to do) and that her and Jim didn't do anything. She told me that the only way she could leave me was to just walk away, gave me a hug and kiss and left. Bob came back to the car, and we headed for the bus station. Bob told me that when he went to go get Jenny, that he saw Jenny and Jim sitting together holding hands, and that when he said I needed to talk to her she asked if the conversation would be "Long and Drawn Out." Bob also told me that on several other occasions he's seen Jim makeing plans with Jenny behind my back. Jim had also been talking 'crap' about me for the past few weeks. The day after I left I called Jenny, and we talked about weither or not there was anything to salvage. She said we couldn't be together because of our age difference (shes 9 years older than me.), and that all she could offer me was friendship. I also called and talked to Bob(who has become my "informant" throughout this situation, because he's friends with Jim and Jenny as well) who told me that after Jenny got off the phone with me, she went right back to Jim and started holding his hand and acting all 'lovey-dubbey' on him. Jenny was supposed to call me yesterday so we could finish talking, and Bob informed me that when he saw Jenny and Jim, they were headed to the pool hall to shoot some pool, and then going out to eat. I really love this woman, and I thought she cared about me, so I let myself get attatched to her and her kids. Should I try and get back together with her? I know I prolly sound like a glutton for punishment...but I think we were good together, and this is the only time she screwed up.
 
*hugs*

Honey..... I don't want you to take this the wrong way.... but I see no other way to tell you this. She has made her choice... let her live with it and leave her alone. If you want to keep your friendship, then I suggest you try to bury your feelings and find someone else.

And I ask you this question......why would you want someone who was sneaking around with one of your friends? If she had any feelings for you, she would've just came out and told you about wanting the other guy...

and your friend 'Jim' is an ass. He reminds me of a best friend I used to have. Some people are only out to get what other people have.... you would be better off just leaving both of them alone and going on about your life.
 
Personally, it sounds like you have no trust for her and that is very very dangerous to a relationship. It may be that she is not deserving of the trust either. She is keeping secrets early in the relationship whether she did anything or not. I would think a break for a period without seeing each other might help you to get your emotions in check before making any decisions.
 
I have absolutly no qualms about never seeing 'Jim' again...he stabbed me in the back twice and doesn't seem to give a damn that he did. As for Jenny...I have this whole 'can't live without you' thing going on, and she won't give me a straight answer as to wiether or not we could be together again. I was willing to give up my dreams to settle down with this girl...who shoved it right back in my face. And I have absolutly no clue why I still want to be with her...I feel like somehow it was my fault and she deserves another chance. And I'm in Colorado and she's in Texas...thats another big problem...I couldn't see her right now even if I wanted too.
 
*sigh*

I was once where you are..... and it is so very hard to let go. But sometimes, you just have to leave things where they stand.

By reading your point of view... I just can't see where any of this would be your fault. You didn't make her go off with 'Jim' You didn't make her lie to you about where she was going and such. The blame rests with her. And the reason she is not giving you an answer is because she is trying to still link you to her in case this whole Jim thing doesn't work out..


women can be so evil.
 
Yeah, they can...but you can't live without them.
It's the way she turns everything around on me that makes me think that its my fault. I feel like maybe I could have acted differently or some such. She says that I also need to get over my last relationship, but I'm already over it...all the pain from this one has pushed the other out of my mind. I can't eat...(thank god I can still sleep...don't know what I would do without sleep) without throwing the food right back up and I have an unbreakable knot in my stomach...I just want to know why she did it. I mean hell, she talked to my mother on the phone(my mom called her the night she cheated on me to tell her I was coming to the apartment and to get Jim out, but Jenny obviously didn't listen.) And she admits she screwed up...but if she thinks she screwed up...why does she still go out with him on 'dates'...so many questions and not enough answers.
 
Re: Pretty much.

Sparky Kronkite said:
I like to think of it as calloused.

I like to think of it as being an asshole.
*smiles ever so sweetly*
 
Hell, if I thought that Jenny might actually talk to me on the phone I might try it Sparky.
 
Talon said:
Yeah, they can...but you can't live without them.
It's the way she turns everything around on me that makes me think that its my fault. I feel like maybe I could have acted differently or some such. She says that I also need to get over my last relationship, but I'm already over it...all the pain from this one has pushed the other out of my mind. I can't eat...(thank god I can still sleep...don't know what I would do without sleep) without throwing the food right back up and I have an unbreakable knot in my stomach...I just want to know why she did it. I mean hell, she talked to my mother on the phone(my mom called her the night she cheated on me to tell her I was coming to the apartment and to get Jim out, but Jenny obviously didn't listen.) And she admits she screwed up...but if she thinks she screwed up...why does she still go out with him on 'dates'...so many questions and not enough answers.

You need to pull yourself together and not worry about what she says or anything. Concentrate on you. And she turns it around so she doesn't feel the guilt. She knows she fucked up and so she wants to make someone else feel that way too...

Move on hon......
 
Oh ho - yer one of those sweet smile ones......

Those ones.

Bet you cross your legs and put your hands on yer knees too.

And roll your eyes up toward the ceiling.

And chew gum.

And.......

Aren't you a blonde?
 
I might be able to move on...but at the end of this month shes coming to visit me in Colorado(or supposedly) and then it will just dredge all those feelings up...then I'm going back to the town where we lived and I don't know what I would do if I saw Jim and Jenny together, because Jim hangs out at all the places I do. I feel like I have nothing to live for and that I'm not worth anything right now...I know the feelings will eventually go away...but they haven't yet, and it sucks.
 
Re: Oh ho - yer one of those sweet smile ones......

Sparky Kronkite said:
Those ones.

Bet you cross your legs and put your hands on yer knees too.

Nope... sure don't.

And roll your eyes up toward the ceiling.

Nope don't do that either

And chew gum.
and yeah I can chew it and walk at the same time. Lucky fuckin me
And.......

Aren't you a blonde?
*famous blonde expression* Duh... like can't you see the pic?
 
Re: Oh now I see.....

Sparky Kronkite said:
Yer the "serious" blonde type.

now I wouldn't go that far.

I like to think of myself as a smart blonde with a great sense of humor :)
 
Talon said:
I might be able to move on...but at the end of this month shes coming to visit me in Colorado(or supposedly) and then it will just dredge all those feelings up...then I'm going back to the town where we lived and I don't know what I would do if I saw Jim and Jenny together, because Jim hangs out at all the places I do. I feel like I have nothing to live for and that I'm not worth anything right now...I know the feelings will eventually go away...but they haven't yet, and it sucks.

You will find someone new..

hell hang around here long enough and you'll end up hooking up :)
 
Oh. The smart blonde with the good sence of humor type huh?

You wanna.........

Sniff my ass?
 
Re: Oh. The smart blonde with the good sence of humor type huh?

Sparky Kronkite said:
You wanna.........

Sniff my ass?

no thanks. Though I am sure you wash your ass at least once a month...........I just don't wanna do it.

Ask around... maybe someone else will tho.
 
Talon said:
Heh, I've been here since last August.

Ok so it takes a while.

Post more...


*plugs her thread* Try introducing yourself in the Introduction thread. :)
 
Sorry hon...

but I can't be satisfied by a mere sniff like most women ;)
 
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