brain washing her?

[SIC]

Hey, Now me and my ex have been brokin up for awhile now. We talk every couple of days and i think she calls me sometimes just to check up on me.

Lately ppl have been talking shit about me say that i am doing shit again that i used to do in the past and i dont do no more. The other day she called me freakin out saying your doing that again and i was like NO i aint doing nothing no more and she wouldnt believe me so i freaked out on her to tell me who was saying this.

Then i said to her that if she doesnt trust me now she never has and that she has no faith in me. So i told her if you dont trust me and never have then dont call me ever again. Sure enough she called me that night talking to me like nothing had happened.

I want to know why her new b/f and ppl are talking shit about me. It feels to me like they are trying to brainwash her into believe that i am a bad. I never lied to her the hole time we were together and i dont know why ppl are trying to do this to me and her.

Now i know that she doesnt believe everything that they say because there isnt anybody that knows me better then her. But in a way i think she believes them sometimes.

I just feel like they are brain washing her into believing what they are say to maybe keep her away from me?

Why are ppl talking shit about me? I never did anything wrong

Right now i just want to be friends with her if it possible cause i hate the thought of her being mad at me. like the other day i had a bad bad golf game because i couldnt get her off my mind.

If its keeps going should i say something to her b/f and not care if i very talk to her again?

I know she still cares about me and that she miss me at times because she tells me. And when something happens with me she is right there to help with my problems.

l8er

 

[ecstacey]

it would help if you told us the "shit" they were saying.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by ecstacey
it would help if you told us the "shit" they were saying.

Wouldn't help me...I'm not a mind reader

 

[SIC]

Just like stuff that i used to do in the past like D-Bol when i was playing hockey. My ex never wanted me to do that stuff again and i told her i wouldnt and i havent.

Why do you think they are saying shit like that ?

I am sure they might be bring up other things like i am into drugs and crap that i used to do but i stopped all of that to be with her and i so greatful she came along and stopped me because i wouldnt be where i am now if it werent for her. I wouldnt be in Unversity and such things.

 

[jaded_lily]

sounds to me like you ex's new man is a little insecure or something. Or he doesn't want her to be anywhere near you so he'll say anything to keep her away from you.

 

[sheath]

sounds to me like you ex's new man is a little insecure or something. Or he doesn't want her to be anywhere near you so he'll say anything to keep her away from you.

Ninety-nine percent of the time, those who talk badly about you without a basis for their accusations are simply intimidated by something about you. Picture the school bully on the playground, you know? No self-esteem, so he attacked everyone in sight, hoping to make himself feel better.

I agree with jaded_lily...her new man has a serious problem with being intimidated by you.

What can you do? Just trust that your ex is bright enough to know the truth, to remember the way you were and to understand that people do not suddenly change when a relationship ends...the man she knew before is still the same man, and I suppose all you can do is hope that she realizes that.

Do NOT sink to his level. Do not say anything bad about him. It will pay off in the end, when she sees what is real and what is not, and hopefully she will dump his ass accordingly.

S.

 

[jaded_lily]

[BI agree with jaded_lily...her new man has a serious problem with being intimidated by you.

S. [/B]

Wooooooo hoooooooo someone agreed with me lol. sure as hell don't get that often lol

 

[sheath]

Wooooooo hoooooooo someone agreed with me lol. sure as hell don't get that often lol

Glad to oblige.

S.

 

[SIC]

hey, yeah i would never sink to his lvl i know i am a great guy and i know she knows it too because she miss things about me. I just dont like went ppl are telling her all this crap about me thats not true because then other hear and start saying stuff to others. And all along none of it is true.

Maybe she says things to him once inwhile and he doesnt like it so he thinks if he makes something up she will hate me. I know she will never hate me i treated her like a princess and i am still kind to her i dont treat her any different.

I think if they keep going out for a couple of months she is really going to realize after things start to slow down between them and it isnt all brand new.

I also got great news a girl that i have liked since hockeys playoffs(she worked at the sports bar we were going to) Saw me at the bar yesterday and she ran up to me and hugged me and i didnt know who it was at first but then i was like no way its her. I asked what she has been up too and she said i quit my job and i thought i would never see you again. Then she went outside with her friends for a smoke and i was like ok will dance when you get back in and she said sure. But then we lost each other till we were leaving and she hugged me again and said i was looking for you and so was i!!!! Then she was like this is my cell phone number plz give me a call. so i did and tomorrow she asked me if i want to go out and i said sure!!

This girl is beautiful i love her crystal blue eyes and dark hair. now i feel different with this girl she isnt the kinda girl that all i want to do it sleep with i would really like to get to know her and date her. So what would be a good thing to do on a first date to make her realize that i am really interstand in her? I also think she likes me? I have gone out on alot of dates but i want this to be the most amazing thing ever? any help would be great!!!!!

 

[jaded_lily]

well look at it this way, at least you know that you aren't what they say you are. And obviously so does your ex. Good luck on your new venture with this new girl, hope it works out for ya.

 

[SIC]

I hope so too!!!!! Will see how it goes tomorrow!

 

[SIC]

I hope so too!!!!! Will see how it goes tomorrow!

 

[SIC]

I hope so too!!!!! Will see how it goes tomorrow!