kittenartist
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I have decided I would like to have a boyfriend. Why? Why not? It is a fun term, it is a fun relationship, and I find it all around enjoyable.
Now. I already have a husband. I am polyamorous and he is accommodating - knows and understands my desires.. So much as anything I do can be understood *smirks* I also have a couple "pets" in the D/s world. I also have someone very special to me that I can only describe as my lover. You'd think that would be enough, yes? Sometimes it is enough but right now I crave more. Part of that is because I am manic at the moment. Yes, I am manic depressive. No, I am not medicated. Yes, I have mood swings. You must be comfortable with some one who has emotional extremes - if you are not then keep on walking.
So, when I say I want a "boyfriend", what does that mean exactly? I think a boyfriend is someone who starts as a friend. Spending time learning about each other and deciding that a relationship would be grand. A cute/awkward, "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" moment seems desirable. Love letters. Sharing secrets. Thinking about each other too much. Hearing almost every song on the radio, sighing dreamily, and saying, "Aww, it is our song". In short, sappy happy good times. This may be strictly online or lead to real life. I am open to both options. This is a fun game, hopefully sprinkled with a bit of love. I am not your "happily ever after" and you most certainly are not mine.
Why post for this on Lit? Simple. It is easier to find someone who can appreciate a non-traditional relationship. I have had great success with wonderful people here in the past. And, honestly, it is more likely I will find someone far enough away that I do not have to worry about a RL complication too soon. I am definitely interested in moving it to real life but do not want to do so tomorrow. I want light and fun and happy now, I do not want pressure.
A bit about me for those of you new to my weirdness. I am twenty four. Artistic. Kinda funky, kinda punky, curvy (bbw). Extremely loyal. Easily bored. Brutally honest. Sarcastic and cynical. Spiritual. I tend to contradict myself and think it makes perfect sense. I do not work or go to school (hubby spoils me). I own many, many pets. I am sexually very open and that will definitely be a factor in the relationship. That is another reason to like Lit - guys here tend to be more accepting of a sexually confidant woman. I like long, intelligent emails. I like frequent (read: daily or more) contact. I love finding notes that say things like, "I just saw this *insert something clever* and it reminded me of you so I had to write and say I love you." Sappy sappy.
Now, about you. Who are you? I do not know, if I knew who you were then you would already be my boyfriend. Silly. That is not to say I do not already know you... I can think of a couple people I know who I would not mind sharing the boyfriend/girlfriend term with for awhile. I could just approach them but that defeats part of the fun for me - I want to be pursued, wooed, and generally fussed over by a man. So, old friend or a stranger feel free to make contact. What is the worst that can happen? As for specifics... the only big rule is I will not do this with attached men unless their partner agrees. I have befriended married men before, and while I love them dearly, I do not want to deal with that aspect. Age is not a big factor, usually. For this particular partnership I envision someone close to my own age. We will say between 20-30 with a lot of flexibility. Looks really do not matter when online. And if it gets to a point of meeting in person I will be so smitten that I will see beauty regardless. Personality is everything. Intelligence, a sense of humor, an open mind, the ability to hold an actual conversation, someone who understand that debating is not arguing, self confidant but not arrogant, etc. Although, like everyone else, I do have some physical things that make me swoon. Tall guys being a huge attraction (I am 6'1" so when I say tall I mean tall).
And that is that... Maybe a bit silly. Being silly can be wonderful. I just want to find an equal, someone who knows how to enjoy life. Let's be goofy. Let's hold hands and skip down the street. What is there to loose?
Now. I already have a husband. I am polyamorous and he is accommodating - knows and understands my desires.. So much as anything I do can be understood *smirks* I also have a couple "pets" in the D/s world. I also have someone very special to me that I can only describe as my lover. You'd think that would be enough, yes? Sometimes it is enough but right now I crave more. Part of that is because I am manic at the moment. Yes, I am manic depressive. No, I am not medicated. Yes, I have mood swings. You must be comfortable with some one who has emotional extremes - if you are not then keep on walking.
So, when I say I want a "boyfriend", what does that mean exactly? I think a boyfriend is someone who starts as a friend. Spending time learning about each other and deciding that a relationship would be grand. A cute/awkward, "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" moment seems desirable. Love letters. Sharing secrets. Thinking about each other too much. Hearing almost every song on the radio, sighing dreamily, and saying, "Aww, it is our song". In short, sappy happy good times. This may be strictly online or lead to real life. I am open to both options. This is a fun game, hopefully sprinkled with a bit of love. I am not your "happily ever after" and you most certainly are not mine.
Why post for this on Lit? Simple. It is easier to find someone who can appreciate a non-traditional relationship. I have had great success with wonderful people here in the past. And, honestly, it is more likely I will find someone far enough away that I do not have to worry about a RL complication too soon. I am definitely interested in moving it to real life but do not want to do so tomorrow. I want light and fun and happy now, I do not want pressure.
A bit about me for those of you new to my weirdness. I am twenty four. Artistic. Kinda funky, kinda punky, curvy (bbw). Extremely loyal. Easily bored. Brutally honest. Sarcastic and cynical. Spiritual. I tend to contradict myself and think it makes perfect sense. I do not work or go to school (hubby spoils me). I own many, many pets. I am sexually very open and that will definitely be a factor in the relationship. That is another reason to like Lit - guys here tend to be more accepting of a sexually confidant woman. I like long, intelligent emails. I like frequent (read: daily or more) contact. I love finding notes that say things like, "I just saw this *insert something clever* and it reminded me of you so I had to write and say I love you." Sappy sappy.
Now, about you. Who are you? I do not know, if I knew who you were then you would already be my boyfriend. Silly. That is not to say I do not already know you... I can think of a couple people I know who I would not mind sharing the boyfriend/girlfriend term with for awhile. I could just approach them but that defeats part of the fun for me - I want to be pursued, wooed, and generally fussed over by a man. So, old friend or a stranger feel free to make contact. What is the worst that can happen? As for specifics... the only big rule is I will not do this with attached men unless their partner agrees. I have befriended married men before, and while I love them dearly, I do not want to deal with that aspect. Age is not a big factor, usually. For this particular partnership I envision someone close to my own age. We will say between 20-30 with a lot of flexibility. Looks really do not matter when online. And if it gets to a point of meeting in person I will be so smitten that I will see beauty regardless. Personality is everything. Intelligence, a sense of humor, an open mind, the ability to hold an actual conversation, someone who understand that debating is not arguing, self confidant but not arrogant, etc. Although, like everyone else, I do have some physical things that make me swoon. Tall guys being a huge attraction (I am 6'1" so when I say tall I mean tall).
And that is that... Maybe a bit silly. Being silly can be wonderful. I just want to find an equal, someone who knows how to enjoy life. Let's be goofy. Let's hold hands and skip down the street. What is there to loose?
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