boyfriend is a square

[Shane]

there are certain things i would like to try, like a threesome and anal sex, but he is pretty traditional and the only time i ever brought up some of it he freaked out....any suggestions on how to ease him into it?

 

[cityboy]

sugestions

bring him to this site and let him read the stoies and guide him to your favorites then show him how hot they make you ! if necicary read them to him aloud that would turn me on.

 

[Young Knave]

are you m or f???

there are certain things i would like to try, like a threesome and anal sex, but he is pretty traditional and the only time i ever brought up some of it he freaked out....any suggestions on how to ease him into it?

 

[Laci]

Yes knowing if your male or female would make all the difference. If you are a female or male regardless I would definitly take it slow with him unless you want to run him off. I had an ex that enjoyed using a vibrator on me while giving him oral pleasure. Pretty soon I became fanscinated with the idea of a threesome involving the two of us and someone we knew. He was all for it as we discussed it during sex. However he became so insanelly jealous I had even agree'd to have sex (oral or not) with another man we split.

My suggestion would be to bring him into your idea's slowly. Looking into it with him through magazines, movies, sites like lit. When he's hot enough for the idea he'll come around. If he doesn't then maybe you two just aren't compatible enough to enjoy a mutual sex life.

 

[petrel]

there are certain things i would like to try, like a threesome and anal sex, but he is pretty traditional and the only time i ever brought up some of it he freaked out....any suggestions on how to ease him into it?

remeber that askign your boyfriend to try things within the realtionship - anal sex is one thing asking him to do threesomes is quite another. and please never call anyone a square just because they don't want to go as far or as fast as you. Anal sex is pretty taboo for alot of peopel and can be quite painful and a threesome has all kinds of implicaitons for a relationship - why not ask him to write down one of his fantasies and you write down one of yours to swap - no judgements and no pressure to do it its an infroamtion thing then as you and he feel more comfortable with the idea of wilder stuff you can mutually agree to try some of it out

 

[Shane]

i am female, and i understand what you're saying...I worry sometimes that he thinks i'm too bad for him, or an archetype of the "bad girl" and although it may fit, i think it freaks him out. ..i think i'll try the swapping fantasies, even if it is a little sex show cliched...thanks guys!

 

[Snork Maiden]

misreading

Hi Shane,

All the things you mentioned, anal, threesomes and your boyfriend being traditional. It might be that he doesn't want to do these things to you because he thinks it would degrade you in someway. You don't say how long you have been in your relationship again he may still be looking for confidence, especially if you are the aggressive partner in bed. Maybe you should let him take the lead, you know and like encourage him when he does something you like.

Take it from Petrel, anal sex isn't for everyone, personally I wouldn't want to have anal sex although I do like a finger probe. Take it slowly, experiment together be comfortable with what you do. Sexual gratification can be selfish monster.

I know this is being a bit flippant but have you considered asking your boyfriend to use a vibrator on you. That could be your first 'threesome' and maybe break the ice a little.

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