Bored Out Of My Mind

[Ambrosious]

Has anyone else reached this point in life? I was talking to a high school buddy last night, we've known each other for 17-18 years and he is my best friend, next to the Fantasy Goddess. We got to talking about life in general and somehow the topic turned to "What's next" and "Is this all?" Let me explain...

We are both pretty successful in our chosen professions, and neither of us finds them challenging or stimulating anymore. We have the same routine everyday. Wake up at the same time, drive the same route, do more of the same work, drive to the same house, watch the same tv shows, go to bed at the same time. Hell, it's gotten so bad, I have a hard time picking out evening meals. Everything is so done to death.

Now don't get me wrong, I ain't talking suicide here, never crossed our minds. What I am talking about is two 34 year old successful businessmen wanting to start over in the IT industry, just because we haven't done that yet.

Here is a theory that we came up with...see what you think. He and I moved out of our hometown right after graduating high school. I went onto DJing in night clubs in and around FL and the Carribean. He went into banking and has been transferred to hell and back. We both used to party. I mean party! We would drink 200 dollars worth of liquor at the hottest night clubs in town every weekend night. Got rip roaring drunk. Both of us have been with way more women than is average for men our age (5 by the way). We did more drugs and and had more fun in one weekend than the average Joe does in a lifetime. Hell, I was PAID to party with hundreds of naked women weekly! Drinking on the job was expected! My bosses used to buy my first two or three every night!

Anyway, we came up with the theory that maybe we are jaded. Maybe it would have been easier for us to stay in that same hick town, get a job at the fire house, marry the second girl we ever stuck, and pray for the yearly bachelor parties or New Years Eve. Neither one of us are in that same destructive lifestyle anymore. I really believe that our past lifestyle led us to the "What's next?" stage that we are both in.

If it wasn't for the Fantasy Goddess, I would go starkers, man. Maybe making a baby will put a whole new spin on things. I certainly hope so.

What do you think?

 

[Cheyenne]

Maybe making a baby will put a whole new spin on things. I certainly hope so.

Yup!

 

[jcgirl]

Sure will Ambros!

 

[Andra_Jenny]

I have similar experiences, but am not bored. I am jaded to many things, but found that a searching for simplicity founded in the practices of moving zen have enhanced the pleasures of simple, everyday living.

I traveled to Beijing the week Slick blew up their embassy. A month later, when I returned home, I had a beautiful daughter and life has not been boring since. I am now replacing the paneling where she patiently and determidly when through and stripped off all the moulding she could reach. And that was before she was one. NOw she is forcing me to learn Chinese, one language tape after another. At two, she is an expert at using the VCR and now she wants a computer because moomy and daddy both have them. SHe has also figured out out to turn the on, use the escape key, and is working on my mouse (her third!).

[Edited by Andra_Jenny on 02-02-2001 at 05:19 AM]

 

[alexander tzara]

It's maybe not your job you need to change but what you do in your spare time. Why don't you start DJing again just for the fun of it?

 

[Shylady]

Ambrosious I did stay in the little hick town and never lived a party life and I am now also feeling like I am in a rut... I love my family and my life but I am looking for a change too.
Maybe getting a job outside my house and not in daycare?

any way good luck the baby will change alot and in the best way too.

 

[Ambrosious]

It's maybe not your job you need to change but what you do in your spare time. Why don't you start DJing again just for the fun of it?

If I did, I would be looking in the bars inside a week. I did one party for a friend. It is like alcoholism. I can't come near a Denon.

 

[alexander tzara]

Or radio dj-ing, or start up a little record label, or make up compilation tapes for friends - just something that's kind of frivolous or fun or creative that's not about work but it's a buzz to do.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[codeseeker]

Hey ambro cheer up.
I think everyone feels like that. Maybe not all the time but a good chunk of it.
I think it has a lot to do the condition we're in right now. Everythings been done, cataloged and databased for our convience. It's not that this is a bad thing but it takes the challenge and surprise out of life and this is what we need most.
I know I get bored very easily too (damn I am part of the MTV generation). Life would be alot more interesting if the occasional lion would jump out of the bushes. Now if you could just get rid of the traffic

 

[Countess DeWinter]

Ambro, when I'm not engaging my mind in something, I get bored, FAST. That's why I come here. Juggling 14 hours of school, a husband and four kids, two plays a year, volunteering at church, my house....I still need something to stimulate my mind. Keeping 5 or 6 srp threads going is the icing on the cake.
Take a class.
If you can't work that into your schedule, get a text book on something you're interested in and teach it to yourself!
Keep working out...that'll help too.
love ya! *kiss*

 

[FantasyGoddess]

Ambro_ A Life Lesson

I like this one.
> A Life Lesson: To all the rocks in your life...
A philosophy professor stood before his
class and had some items in front of him.
When class began, wordlessly
he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar
and proceeded to fill it with rocks, rocks about 2"
in diameter.

He then asked the students if the
jar was full? They agreed that it was. So the professor
then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into
the open areas between the rocks. He
then asked the students again if the jar was
full. They agreed it was.The students laughed.

The professor picked up a box of sand and
poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand
filled everything else.

"Now," said the professor, "I want you to
recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things - your
family, your partner, your health, and your children - anything that
is so important to you that if it were lost, you would be nearly
destroyed. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your
house, and your car. The sand is everything else. The small stuff. If
you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or
the rocks.

The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and
time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that
are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to
your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to
get medical checkups. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be
time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the
disposal."

"Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

 

[Ambrosious]

God, I love her.

 

[Gavin the juggling monkey]

Jaded??
Bored??
Eyes sore from staring google eyed at to much internet porn??
Then i might just have a way out for you.
Yes thats right you dont catch me telling people i have a sad and unforfilled life.
Do you know why?
Yes thats it! its because im a secret agent, and you can be too.
Just send $19.95 to Sexstarvedmonkeys, 116-118 ichobold street, isladad, terahn, to recieve my self help book.
And before you know it you too will be murdering socialist dissadents and shagging top quality tarts.

 

[codeseeker]

Wow that was great advise Goddess. Very zen like.
Can you council me too

 

[Siren]

I got your solution Ambrosious......

 

[KillerMuffin]

Knock Knock Knock

That's the sound of your mind trying to get back in.

No, kids aren't going to de-bore you. For a while, sure, but you'll still have those unfullfilled what am I going to do with my life feelings. It can be bad if you don't have control of those and you try to live your life vicariously through your children.

Go back to school.
Volunteer someplace.
Get a job, Walmart can use peoplegreeters.
Write full-time, try to make a living at it.
Get a hobby.
Take karate classes.

 

[Ambrosious]

Welcome to Walmart!

I'm not feeling it.

 

[FantasyGoddess]

Re: Welcome to Walmart!

I'm not feeling it.

lol...and you would be so cute at it too.

 

[Ksss]

Ambrosious culd rll back the prices???

 

[Juliangel]

Ambrosious culd rll back the prices???

Better watch when he puts your sticker too LOL

 

[Thumper]

Kids ain't the answer...

If your having kids to spice up your life..then I say don't. That is the wrong reason...have kids because ya want company when you get older and a reason to sound like your parents did. Have them because they teach us love and acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness. Nothing will make you smile like listening to a toddler giggle hysterically..and nothing will make ya madder than a teenage daughter.

Your life won't be boring ever again...see ya at the asylum.

Maybe I oughta try the Zen thing....

On the whole, I wish I would have had the guts to run off to L.A. after high school.

I make a better Rock n Roll burnout than a parent.

 

[FantasyGoddess]

Ambrosious culd rll back the prices???

everthing would be free then because he knows I shopped there and he would end up paying for it eventually.

 

[Ambrosious]

Kids

No, boredom isn't the reason I want kids, I've been wanting them for awhile now, and for all the right reasons. Trust me. Now back to the question-boredom, is there a cure?

Don't say K-Mart.

 

[FantasyGoddess]

Re: Kids

No, boredom isn't the reason I want kids, I've been wanting them for awhile now, and for all the right reasons. Trust me. Now back to the question-boredom, is there a cure?

Don't say K-Mart.

Target, I would love discounts there.