Bored Husband of a Younger Woman

[trainnv]

I have a wife 15 years younger then my 56 year old body. The youth of her physical being is still very attractive. But sex is a word she needs to look up in the dictionary. She also needs a manual to know how to have sex.
She has no sexual insticnt but is will to have sex to please me. Guess what, its not pleasing, its very dull. No fantasy, no wetness, no stimulation.

Beside finding a woman with a husdband that does the same thing, is there any other solution

 

[Guest]

I have a wife 15 years younger then my 56 year old body. The youth of her physical being is still very attractive. But sex is a word she needs to look up in the dictionary. She also needs a manual to know how to have sex.
She has no sexual insticnt but is will to have sex to please me. Guess what, its not pleasing, its very dull. No fantasy, no wetness, no stimulation.

Beside finding a woman with a husdband that does the same thing, is there any other solution

You married for looks? What did you expect?

 

[trainnv]

Looks?

Why is there nothing else a person has but Sex or Looks.

To imply that you marry for looks and get a bad sex partner means there is nothing else?

I have everything I want except the sexpert

 

[Eilan]

But sex is a word she needs to look up in the dictionary. She also needs a manual to know how to have sex.
She has no sexual insticnt but is will to have sex to please me. Guess what, its not pleasing, its very dull. No fantasy, no wetness, no stimulation.

If you haven't talked to her about what BOTH of you can do to make your sex life better, then you're partially to blame for allowing things to continue the way they have. If you married her knowing that she was like this, then you have only yourself to blame.

 

[bcplaygirl]

I just have to wonder..15 years younger sounds like a lot but with my simple calculations, that still makes her 41. That is by no means old however women's bodies do slow down and change as they get older. Has she always had an aversion to sex and did you in fact marry her because you liked other qualities she possessed? And if not, then why has she changed? Is there an underlying medical problem? Is she not getting enough attention elsewhere than in the bedroom? Is she not happy in the relationship?
I hear people bitch all the time about how their mate won't whatever anymore. Nobody really tells both sides though and that always makes me wonder.

 

[trainnv]

not an aversion

No she doesnt have an aversion, she just has no sex drive or imagination.
yes to the other poster, I do have myself to "blame" I knew it, married her inspite of it. It isnt important enough for me to say I m unhappily married. Its just that somethign is missing from my life that i could enjoy.

 

[GldnAngl]

No she doesnt have an aversion, she just has no sex drive or imagination.
yes to the other poster, I do have myself to "blame" I knew it, married her inspite of it. It isnt important enough for me to say I m unhappily married. Its just that somethign is missing from my life that i could enjoy.

I don't understand why people choose to make such huge compromises when they marry. For me, a significantly uneven sex drive would be a deal-breaker.

For the record, I am 15 years younger than my husband, and his sex life was never better.