boner problems!

[chicostick]

HI! Im chico. I used to cruise around this site when i was in 6th and 7th grade and i think this might b the first time i actually post a thread, a good 7 years later hahaha. But anyways i've always known i was gay, but for some damn reason, when im in bed w/ a really hot guy, i can't seem to get it up.

The first time it happend was what would have been my first time, he wanted me to top but i couldn't get it hard, and it was really emberassing and i told him to drive me home. i pretend that never happened. but i just blamed it on the dude being ugly or some shit.

so the next time im w/ this dude who is GORGEOUS! we go to his bed, and nothing. i blamed it on the E i took that night, which was a bullshit. he ended up topping, and the only time i got hard that night was when his dick was in my mouth.

time after that i couldn't get hard unless my dick was rubbing against his.


idk what to do or what is even going on. do i have a problem or is this just a phase? im 19, so this shouldn't b happening to me.
anybody have any input on this? it would help a lot.

i also don't know if this is in the right section so sorry if it isn't. i just wanted to make clear that im not confused about my sexuality.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You guys are growing up on porn, and real life sex is NOT porn. You think you know what your SUPPOSED to do, but you haven't had a chance to find out what you CAN do. Be kind to yourself, enjoy the extras. Have you ever just messed around, kissing and rubbing and dry humping and biting each other's necks? Sucking dick, rimming-- listening to him pant and moan. You'll get a boner, eventually. And-- damn.

And remember-- Fuck safely. Wrap that boner before it goes anywhere. Don't let him in unless he's wrapped up. Twinks are too precious to lose to AIDS.

 

[Fatemaster]

Erection

Chico,

Don't worry too much about it...the most important thing is too be comfortable and relax. Especially your first few times, even if you're not thinking about it, you're probably nervous. Also, I would avoid the drugs, but also avoid drinking a lot of alcohol.

Usually in cases where I can't maintain an erection, it has usually had something to do with too much alcohol.

Don't worry too much about it...it happens to every guy, straight, bi, or gay. But I also think it's good advice to lay off the porn and masturbating if you think you're going to be sexually active in the immediate future. Unless you're doing it with a partner!

Anyway, good luck...you'll be fine.