Bondage.com vs alt.com?
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morninggirl5
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I don't think anyone can tell you if one is better than the other. The best way for you to form an opinion would be to visit both and decide for yourself.
I've only had 5 responses to my profile at bondage and one was a message of disbelief from someone here.
Only one of those was of a "on your knees, worthless sub" nature.
There has certainly been more response from my profile at alt and in a shorter time period, but only two of them were from people i would speak with again.
From my limited experience, it seems that more contacts happen in the chat room at both sites (and i'm not a chat room type person).
I've only had 5 responses to my profile at bondage and one was a message of disbelief from someone here.
Only one of those was of a "on your knees, worthless sub" nature.There has certainly been more response from my profile at alt and in a shorter time period, but only two of them were from people i would speak with again.
From my limited experience, it seems that more contacts happen in the chat room at both sites (and i'm not a chat room type person).
WriterDom
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morninggirl5 said:
I've only had 5 responses to my profile at bondage and one was a message of disbelief from someone here.
well who could that be?
alt makes you pay to see ads. Bondage only makes you pay to see naked pics. I'm not a big fan of either. But, I guess the more lines you have in the pond, the better the chances. The bdsm world isn't unique to males chasing the female. Buyer beware. Or Caveat emptor as they say in the Old World.
morninggirl5
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WriterDom said:
Gosh, i really wonder.
alt is slightly sexist. Females can see 10 ads each day for free, males only one. (Devious thought here, make up a female id to use to browse the ads.)
From what most were saying here, I went ahead and put up an ad at bondage.com last night. As I said previously somewhere I already have an ad at alt.com, but only received two responses - one was flat out strange, the other might have worked out if he hadn't moved out of state.
So far, for me, I like the "feel" of bondage.com. You have the opportunity to go more into depth about your experience and what you might be interested in. Granted, I don't consider myself anywhere near "experienced", so this at least gives me a beginning guideline. And so far, I've received 7 responses, 4 of which are worth at least getting to know a little better. It seems at bondage.com there is more respect as to what I'm looking for and less of the "let's meet and get kinky" stuff that alt.com seems to have at times.
I would have to agree with MG. You won't know until you visit both, put up an ad and see how it goes. I do have to agree that the viewing limitations suck.
Also, just a bit of a warning, perhaps? alt.com appears to be run by the same folks as adultfriendfinder.com - at least their formats are the same. AFF is notorious for people just looking to get sex - and usually nothing more. I've noticed some of these folks have trickled into the alt.com world looking to put a little kink into thier lives.
As WD says - just beware, and stay cautious.
So far, for me, I like the "feel" of bondage.com. You have the opportunity to go more into depth about your experience and what you might be interested in. Granted, I don't consider myself anywhere near "experienced", so this at least gives me a beginning guideline. And so far, I've received 7 responses, 4 of which are worth at least getting to know a little better. It seems at bondage.com there is more respect as to what I'm looking for and less of the "let's meet and get kinky" stuff that alt.com seems to have at times.
I would have to agree with MG. You won't know until you visit both, put up an ad and see how it goes. I do have to agree that the viewing limitations suck.
Also, just a bit of a warning, perhaps? alt.com appears to be run by the same folks as adultfriendfinder.com - at least their formats are the same. AFF is notorious for people just looking to get sex - and usually nothing more. I've noticed some of these folks have trickled into the alt.com world looking to put a little kink into thier lives.
As WD says - just beware, and stay cautious.
Titania1616
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im a member at alt.com, and averaging about a message a day. but sexychele is right, they are mostly all just wanting to get some, not trying to communicate with you. and alt.com has a tendency to upgrade female members to silver membership for free. its happened to me 3 times (got tired of a name, decided i didnt like the place but then came back).
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I've been doing online, BDSM-oriented ads for years.
I've had an ad at alt for at least five years, on and off, and found that if one words her ad well, one can make some very good contacts via the site. I've had an ad at bondage for, oh, five months or so and, with few exceptions, have been disappointed with those i've met through the place.
I think it's me, actually. I think i wasn't focused enough in my bondage ad, wasn't clear enough about who i did and did not want to meet.
I think it's often the fault of the ad writer, if fingers need to be pointed, when ads don't result in the kind of contacts one wants. Reword your ad. Rethink your priorities. Shorten it. Lengthen it. Include a pic. Change something, if you're not getting any hits.
They can work out well.
edit: BTW, i am "cymbidia" in both places (like everywhere on the net) if you want to go see mine.)
I've had an ad at alt for at least five years, on and off, and found that if one words her ad well, one can make some very good contacts via the site. I've had an ad at bondage for, oh, five months or so and, with few exceptions, have been disappointed with those i've met through the place.
I think it's me, actually. I think i wasn't focused enough in my bondage ad, wasn't clear enough about who i did and did not want to meet.
I think it's often the fault of the ad writer, if fingers need to be pointed, when ads don't result in the kind of contacts one wants. Reword your ad. Rethink your priorities. Shorten it. Lengthen it. Include a pic. Change something, if you're not getting any hits.
They can work out well.
edit: BTW, i am "cymbidia" in both places (like everywhere on the net) if you want to go see mine.)
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I have ads at both sites and basically, like the "feel" of bondage in terms of how quickly one can e mail back and forth.
I recently updated profiles on both sites and have been getting several good responses per day.
As cym suggests, I will state, when you compose your ad, be very specific about what you want and don't want. I know that in the beginning, I hesitated to do so. For whatever reason, I wanted to appear attractive and felt that by stating things so clearly, it could be an unattractive quality in a submissive.
Pishaw!
Be specific. Those who would be interested in you real time will appreciate what you state in your ad.
If you wish to view my ads, I am lacey36 at bondage and lilacmist at alt.
Good Luck and don't give up hope!
I recently updated profiles on both sites and have been getting several good responses per day.
As cym suggests, I will state, when you compose your ad, be very specific about what you want and don't want. I know that in the beginning, I hesitated to do so. For whatever reason, I wanted to appear attractive and felt that by stating things so clearly, it could be an unattractive quality in a submissive.
Pishaw!
Be specific. Those who would be interested in you real time will appreciate what you state in your ad.
If you wish to view my ads, I am lacey36 at bondage and lilacmist at alt.
Good Luck and don't give up hope!
cellis
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We have ads on both bondage.com and alt.com. I met Himself on alt.com. We have been looking for a third and seem to have more luck at alt.com than bondage.com.
There seems to be a lacl of people in the area we live in on bondage.com.
I am with Miss T., I like the email system much better at bondage.com. I like the fact that you see when the email is read and if it is deleted or not.
Alt.com this past week updated their site and made improvements to their email system. It does seem to work better now.
I have to agree with cym, it is the writer's fault if you are not getting the results you want. I have rewritten our couples ad at least 4 times. It is only since the last time that I rewrote the ad that we got any results.
By the way, I was a member on alt.com for months before I even met anyone I was remotely interested in.
There seems to be a lacl of people in the area we live in on bondage.com.
I am with Miss T., I like the email system much better at bondage.com. I like the fact that you see when the email is read and if it is deleted or not.
Alt.com this past week updated their site and made improvements to their email system. It does seem to work better now.
I have to agree with cym, it is the writer's fault if you are not getting the results you want. I have rewritten our couples ad at least 4 times. It is only since the last time that I rewrote the ad that we got any results.
By the way, I was a member on alt.com for months before I even met anyone I was remotely interested in.
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Re: I've been doing online, BDSM-oriented ads for years.
We went along last evening and looked you up cym ... you couldn't have put it much clearer.
Possibly it is the reader seeing what he wants to see, rather than what is actually written.
cymbidia said:
We went along last evening and looked you up cym ... you couldn't have put it much clearer.
Possibly it is the reader seeing what he wants to see, rather than what is actually written.
Feeling stupid, but thanks cym and cellis
Okay, I will admit that my post to this thread was harsh. But after reading what both cym and cellis wrote, I went back for a double look at both places. Okay, yes, I admit it, I can be a stupid jerk sometimes. *slaps hand on head*
cym, thanks for the advice on staying focused and making certain one truly writes out their ad asking exactly for they want, and letting folks know who you are. I have since gone back to both ads and completely reworded them - and results are showing. Getting responses from men who are much more closely matched to what I feel I need and want. Though the few who neglected to read the part about being geographically close when live out of state will be forgiven.
cellis, thanks for the comment about email. I know you probably have no clue what I'm talking about here, but it had been a long time since I'd visited alt.com and wasn't even aware that they had an email system set up! Your comment (along with cym's) sent back over there and I was shocked to find out I had 20 messages! (Okay, that's over a period of 3 months, but better than thinking I had none at all)
So, in all humbleness I would like to state that I do think it is possible to make connections using either of these sites. And, as stated, it simply depends on how an ad is worded describing you, and making certain you hold no punches when describing the kind of person you wish to meet.
Okay, I will admit that my post to this thread was harsh. But after reading what both cym and cellis wrote, I went back for a double look at both places. Okay, yes, I admit it, I can be a stupid jerk sometimes. *slaps hand on head*
cym, thanks for the advice on staying focused and making certain one truly writes out their ad asking exactly for they want, and letting folks know who you are. I have since gone back to both ads and completely reworded them - and results are showing. Getting responses from men who are much more closely matched to what I feel I need and want. Though the few who neglected to read the part about being geographically close when live out of state will be forgiven.
cellis, thanks for the comment about email. I know you probably have no clue what I'm talking about here, but it had been a long time since I'd visited alt.com and wasn't even aware that they had an email system set up! Your comment (along with cym's) sent back over there and I was shocked to find out I had 20 messages! (Okay, that's over a period of 3 months, but better than thinking I had none at all)
So, in all humbleness I would like to state that I do think it is possible to make connections using either of these sites. And, as stated, it simply depends on how an ad is worded describing you, and making certain you hold no punches when describing the kind of person you wish to meet.
