'blush' okay, this is really quite embarassing....

[Andreina]

I have no problems talking about sex. I have no problems cybering when I'm in the mood for it (and I have been told on various occasions that I'm good at it) but I seem to have a serious writer's block when it comes to writing sex scenes in stories.

Believe it or not but I feel embarassed to write about it in stories. I feel like a giggly teen talking to her friend about sex. And then my mind goes blank.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Try telling a story to a tape recorder, and then write down a transcript!

 

[wildsweetone]

hmm a thought...

try changing the point of view.

eg: if your story is in 3rd person, try, 1st.

 

[The_old_man]

Get one of the 'voice input' systems and just dictate. You will need a good spell checker and need to do a lot of editing, but the writers block will be kicked.

 

[Wildfire427]

If you are good at cybering, cyber your sex scenes.

Basically instead of writing about the scene, do as you would in a chat room and actually live it in your mind, but instead of the back and forth with another person, you will need to provide both sides. Of course that presumes that you are writing a scene that interests you or that at least in fantasy you enjoy.

A sex scene that doesn't get you as the writer hot will be difficult to write. If it gets you hot, and you can stay focused long enough (write first, play later), and can find the words to describe how you feel, then you will have a tremendous scene in your story.

My typical story is written with my mind constantly focused as the POV character and I just let the rest flow out from there. Stop thinking and just write how it feels and you will get that empathic connection with your readers too.

 

[its Leslie]

Writing about sex is writing about something we all know society has filled our heads with crap over for centuries.

I have certain "blocks" as well.

Nigger...there I said it, god I hate the way that word is casually used in some parts of the US. I would never use it in my stories, because I refuse to accept in a smidgen of chance I might offend a black person (and they have had enough intolerance, I won't risk any further).

Slut... another word that bothers me, in an almost identical way. The word hurts my ears. I would not use that word even in a heated argument with a target that might have earned it. So, not coming to any of my stories soon.

But some words I find are just a bit tricky, because they cause us to feel out of place.

I have recently and only recently mastered using the word cunt, when chatting with a friend I know. At one time it was too raw for me. I felt it might send the wrong signals too.
But my friend has shown me how to enjoy using that term.

I write easiest, when I picture myself with the person. It's the connection that does it for me.

It doesn't help that my wife insists on me never speaking during sex heheh. Sure makes it tricky writing sexy dialogue when it is so unaccustomed.

 

[JUDO]

Writing sex scenes is all about describing everything that occurs between the people or person involved, beginning to end.
In your mind, as the writer, you must know what kind of people you are dealing with first before you can write the scene. For example, an woman who is naive, but uses sex as an attraction for men to want her, lover her, would have a very different sex scene from a woman who knows what she wants in bed from a man and proceeds to get it.
But once you know them, then let everything happen.

Be aware of all the different things going on. The most common mistake I see in sex scenes at Lit is their lack of exploring all the senses: taste, smell, feel, hearing, sight. Usually the author's get too wrapped up with the visuals and little else. That's an okay place to begin, but then go back during your edit and fill in the stuff that's missing.

There are other things that are very useful to include. Here's a list of things to consider:

1) Are they dressed? Describe the clothes, be specific at first, then edit for pacing later. Then they must get undressed -- at least part way, unless this is a "zipperless" fuck.

2) Where are they at the start of the scene? Location, Time of day, clean or dirty?

3) What's the weather outside? Sunny? Stormy? Hot or cold?

4) Is there a passage of time? Is her husband on his way home? Does she have to pick up her daughter at ballet class? Is she worried about this, or not?

5) What is the characters' emotional state at the beginning? Did they just have an argument? Did they just meet? Are they shy? Outgoing? Introspective?

6) Then what happens sexaully? Are they in a rush and simply unzip and fuck in two minutes? Or is it the first of many encounters and they just talk about what they'd like to do to one another, but no real sex happens?

If you are not sure of what you wish to write in your sex scene, then it is best to commit to overwriting the scene first -- too much description, too long of a scene, covering every little detail.

EX: "As the rain drummed its quiet tattoo on the tin roof, I approached the wood-grained bedroom door and stared at my distorted reflection in the doorknob. My mouth suddenly dry, I opened it and licked my lips. My hand moved from the side of nightie, opening my trembling fingers. The same fingers that had teased my body to the edge of this precipice -- the forbidden border to cross. I touched the cold knob, grasping it and turning it slowly, carefully clockwise. The gears within clicked -- it sounded so loudly, I was sure that it would wake my sister. But two seconds of pause assured me that she was still breathing deeply, soundly in dreamland. I pushed and with a quiet whoosh, the door opened, revealing the darkness of the hallway. The mustiness of the old house drifted to my senses and I crinkled my nose."

See? That was just opening a door. It might end up in the final edit as:

"She opened the door."

And it would accomplish the same thing in the overall scheme of the story. But in a first pass, its good to overwrite, then balance your story in rewrite as to what is important to the tale, and what needs more and less emphasis.

Remember, front to back using all of the senses and surroundings, then edit for balance.


- Judo

 

[Andreina]

thanx guys - you have been a great help!

let's see how my first sex scene will turn out in the end

 

[Svenskaflicka]

You just GOTTA give us a link to it!