Blowjob advice?

[bad_hobbit]

Hi

I've had an idea for a story involving a 'mass gloryhole'. However, I'm stuck, having never given a blowjob in my life. My partner of many years is happy to give me BJs, but isn't a fan of the practice (her mouth is quite small and I'm a little bigger than average) so she can't really give me a lot of guidance on the subject.

So what I'd like is some advice and ideas from ladies who actually like giving head, please. What do you enjoy about it? Have you deepthroated? What's good, what's not so good? What if he's really big? Do you like it - or hate it - if he cums in your mouth? If you deepthroat, what does it feel like if he cums in your throat? What would you consider good & bad technique?

Take a look at my profile and stories and you'll see that I'm a genuine writer (approaching 90 stories on Lit so far) trying to do some research, and not just a perv. (Of course, I might be a perv as well... )

Any lady who contributes will receive an advance copy of this and any future stories if they would like it, and of course acknowledgements for their help (again, if they would like that).

All contributions (from ladies) gratefully received.

Many thanks in anticipation

Jack (Bad Hobbit)

 

[AlinaX]

Why don't you ask her to wear a strap-on and find out first-hand?

ETA: Serious suggestion.

 

[bad_hobbit]

I did actually try it with a vibrator to see what it was like. The problem is that a hard piece of plastic isn't like a flexible piece of flesh. Studies have shown how much a cock bends during various forms of sex. A plastic vibrator doesn't.

But seriously, this isn't helpful. I'm hoping to hear from ladies who actually ENJOY giving head to understand WHY. Me, I can see no reason why women would do this, except to please their man, and I'm really glad that they do.

C'mon ladies - tell me your story and I'll immortalise you in print.

Thanks

Bad Hobbit

 

[Euphony]

Why don't you ask her to wear a strap-on and find out first-hand?

ETA: Serious suggestion.

Suffer for your art they say.

 

[NoTalentHack]

Cr

Why don't you ask her to wear a strap-on and find out first-hand?

ETA: Serious suggestion.

Creative problem solving, thy name is AlinaX.

 

[SeraphNocturne]

I’d bite, but frankly, I’m right in the same place as your girlfriend. Little mouth, big dick… bad combination. I’ve never really enjoyed it aside from the opportunity to act like a slut. He never comes as quick as when I do it, so I guess I’m decent at it.

You might have better luck running this question through personals, or ask the ladies in fetish if you’d really like to hear from women who enjoy the act…

 

[AlinaX]

I’d bite, but frankly, I’m right in the same place as your girlfriend. Little mouth, big dick… bad combination. I’ve never really enjoyed it aside from the opportunity to act like a slut. He never comes as quick as when I do it, so I guess I’m decent at it.

You might have better luck running this question through personals, or ask the ladies in fetish if you’d really like to hear from women who enjoy the act…

You'd ... bite?

 

[AlinaX]

I did actually try it with a vibrator to see what it was like. The problem is that a hard piece of plastic isn't like a flexible piece of flesh. Studies have shown how much a cock bends during various forms of sex. A plastic vibrator doesn't.

I've deep-throated a silicone dildo, so it certainly can be done. It's fun too.

 

[SeraphNocturne]

You'd ... bite?

Unintentionally but definitely. Little mouth, you know?

 

[Euphony]

I did actually try it with a vibrator to see what it was like. The problem is that a hard piece of plastic isn't like a flexible piece of flesh. Studies have shown how much a cock bends during various forms of sex. A plastic vibrator doesn't.

Technically true but there's a million other things going on with the acceptance of and during a blowjob. Power dynamics. Trust. Bonding. With the right partner, sometimes a feeling of femininity/embracing the feeling of the power to "care" for your man.

Physical sensations are both the most overused, least interesting part of the experience.

But seriously, this isn't helpful.

You could have let the semi- jokey (if only seemingly) part of the suggestion land flat w/o chastising as unhelpful.

There is authentic value in what was proposed. Having a partner place a foreign object in your mouth (a protective area) and experiencing the sensations that come from that (they make plenty bendy strap ons ya know) and all the trust and psychological issues you have to deal with is far more similar to the experience than you seem to be giving it credit.

Also, you reclassified the exercise into something different from what was suggested. Sucking on a vibe v. placing yourself (and your feelings of personal safety) in the hands of another are two totally different experiences.

If somebody gives you a recipe and you alter it significantly, you lose the validity to weigh in on how good/bad the core recipe is because yours is not the same recipe.

I'm hoping to hear from ladies who actually ENJOY giving head to understand WHY. Me, I can see no reason why women would do this, except to please their man, and I'm really glad that they do.

Why only ladies? (the assumption around these parts is gratification) There are some slight dynamics changes that occur when switching sexes but we are all more alike that we are different and dicksuckers of all stripes would have plenty of value input to offer, some even beyond hetero-normative standardness that is well tread ground here.

Outliers exist but, on average, the best holistic descriptions of cunnilingus come from a lesbian perspective. They likely benefit from a familiarity of anatomy (low end but it's a thing) and the complexity of navigating the individuality of the female psychological experience.

On the whole, men are orgasm oriented whereas lesbians are pleasure in the experience (which should trip into orgasms) oriented. Thus, women are far better at navigating and so describing the ebbs and flows that occur when working together for mutual pleasure. Rare is the male author who doesn't write the woman coming (often comically) from a few deft tongue lashes. In practice, there are so many other factors than one's tongue's physical ability.

Why can't gay gentleman offer similar interesting considerations and descriptions of said act? Power dynamics are not limited to opposite gendered pairings. Two topping bears coming together might actually be MORE interesting b/c they aren't operating off their normal scripts and, instead, have to navigate complexities that normally work themselves out with others.

C'mon ladies - tell me your story and I'll immortalise you in print.

This with the early sketchiness reads as male creepy.

Let an honest pitch do the wooing and those interested will certainly share their thoughts.

Odds are not much of anything at Lit ever reached the level of "immortalised" any more than my post here will so what is really being offered?

Start an actual discussion on your own understandings of blow jobs, built from research if you don't have personal experience, and you will get far more legitimate interaction.

If that's what you actually want...

 

[gunhilltrain]

Why don't you ask her to wear a strap-on and find out first-hand?

ETA: Serious suggestion.

I was under the impression that strap-ons usually went in somewhere other than the mouth. In any case, it would only be an approximation at best.

 

[plesmoreagain]

peel a banana, slip on a condom and go to

 

[gunhilltrain]

I've deep-throated a silicone dildo, so it certainly can be done. It's fun too.

As I mentioned above, any inanimate object would only approximate the experience. I suppose he could get the same effect from a cucumber or a zucchini or some such thing. I don't think he mentioned what an ejaculation into his mouth would be like. And no, merely filling a bag or something with semen (his own, for sure) is also not quite the same.

He wants to know, I think, what a penis would feel like as the other person reaches orgasm and what the fluid would be like when spurting into his mouth. There is only one way to truly discover that info. I doubt that second-hand knowledge is going to fully describe it to him.

In the couple of times when I had to describe it (in a gay story and a transgender story), I had to wing it and make some guesses. I think I have at least one story where a woman describes it, but that was also a guess.

 

[Euphony]

I was under the impression that strap-ons usually went in somewhere other than the mouth. In any case, it would only be an approximation at best.

Of course but it's arguable trying to second-hand a aggressively small, curated sample size of women's experiences is similarly cloudy.

I see merit in experiencing first hand the psychological sensations that come with trusting in someone to keep care and concern for you in mind while engaging in a vulnerable act.

Much of the psychology crosses over. Most lost would be physical sensations only a real lover can provide (temperature, erection status/change states) but these are also the most described/easily researched (and information abounds in other forums here) so that mitigates and one's own acceptance of the reality of the situation (placebo peen can take you only so far)

Still though, I'd bet it takes an author far further down the understanding path than a sketchy seeming request thrown up on the AH.

But this all assumes understanding is the true goal.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Hi

I've had an idea for a story involving a 'mass gloryhole'. However, I'm stuck, having never given a blowjob in my life. My partner of many years is happy to give me BJs, but isn't a fan of the practice (her mouth is quite small and I'm a little bigger than average) so she can't really give me a lot of guidance on the subject.

So what I'd like is some advice and ideas from ladies who actually like giving head, please. What do you enjoy about it? Have you deepthroated? What's good, what's not so good? What if he's really big? Do you like it - or hate it - if he cums in your mouth? If you deepthroat, what does it feel like if he cums in your throat? What would you consider good & bad technique?

Take a look at my profile and stories and you'll see that I'm a genuine writer (approaching 90 stories on Lit so far) trying to do some research, and not just a perv. (Of course, I might be a perv as well... )

Any lady who contributes will receive an advance copy of this and any future stories if they would like it, and of course acknowledgements for their help (again, if they would like that).

All contributions (from ladies) gratefully received.

Many thanks in anticipation

Jack (Bad Hobbit)

Some research material.

1. Waking Up
2. Mouth To Ass
3. The Pornstar Experience
4. Fragile
5. Perhaps most pertinently: Hood & Hole
6. Also with gang bang throating: You Spin Me Round

Plus basically everything else I write that isn’t lesbian sex.

Em

 

[Euphony]

As I mentioned above, any inanimate object would only approximate the experience. I suppose he could get the same effect from a cucumber or a zucchini or some such thing. I don't think he mentioned what an ejaculation into his mouth would be like. And no, merely filling a bag or something with semen (his own, for sure) is also not quite the same.

How deep into the jungle do we want to go with this is the question.

Physical sensations alone:

• Temperature
• Pressure
• Acceptance/violation
• Erection
• Change states
• Ejaculation
• Taste (pre-cum, semen, even skin (for god's sake POWER WASH BOYS)
• Smells
• Pubic hair
• Pliability
• Size, shape, congruence considerations
• Etc.,etc,etc.

Yeah, self administering a courgette kindly into one's mouth is so little an approximation as to not be relevant.

He wants to know, I think, what a penis would feel like as the other person reaches orgasm and what the fluid would be like when spurting into his mouth. There is only one way to truly discover that info. I doubt that second-hand knowledge is going to fully describe it to him.

Second-hand is problematic. How does one describe a strawberry uniquely that 10 out of 10 women could easily identify what was alluded to without any hints. Or describing the color blue to the unsighted. We all experience even commonalities very differently. And with the stigma surrounding sex, we are even more conformist in our descriptions or self-delusions b/c we greatly fear the ego hit of being abnormal in that area.

But this also makes for more forgiving readers if you are content to stick to usual conventions and expectations.

In the couple of times when I had to describe it (in a gay story and a transgender story), I had to wing it and make some guesses. I think I have at least one story where a woman describes it, but that was also a guess.

If by "wing it" you mean you second-handed, we all do all the time as writers (over a variety of subjects)

So long as you do earnest research (on blowjobs there is a drowning amount since our culture is OBSSESSED (marketed) that the key to a man's heart is most easily accessed through how gooder you make his pee-pee pop.) you are in the clear.

There's a metric ton of research easily accessed (even on this very site) which is why I am usually suspect of this low effort "ask" threads.

 

[AlinaX]

As I mentioned above, any inanimate object would only approximate the experience.

Indeed, but a realistic silicone dildo has something of the shape and flexibility of a real cock - and, in the absence of a real cock within sucking distance, a silicone dildo has some advantage over a hard, plastic vibrator.

I suppose he could get the same effect from a cucumber or a zucchini or some such thing.

Hmm, maybe he should buy a nice big cucumber at the supermarket and wink suggestively at the cashier.

I don't think he mentioned what an ejaculation into his mouth would be like. And no, merely filling a bag or something with semen (his own, for sure) is also not quite the same.

One of those ejaculating dildos, perhaps... filled with champagne for a royal finish. Bonus marks if it makes him choke and cough while his girlfriend sniggers.

 

[AlinaX]

There's a metric ton of research easily accessed (even on this very site) which is why I am usually suspect of this low effort "ask" threads.

Tonne, technically.

 

[KassiopeiaX]

The most fun thing about a BJ is hygiene. Lol. Seriously.

I'm definitely into the domination aspect of it. I have a small mouth too I think, so the feeling of it being 'filled' is amazing, especially when he starts to use my throat - ESPECIALLY if he pushes the back of my head to make me take it (I guess you could not do that with a glory hole). I think my teeth were dragging a bit so he pulled out lol (he was huge ) and finished in the other end. Was that too graphic?

 

[gunhilltrain]

Some research material.

1. Waking Up
2. Mouth To Ass
3. The Pornstar Experience
4. Fragile
5. Perhaps most pertinently: Hood & Hole

Plus basically everything else I write.

Em

It's still not enough. A bad analogy, perhaps, but it would be like someone who had spent their entire lives in a small Great Plains town (I've seen them in North Dakota) trying to understand what the New York subway is like. They could read books, watch documentaries, watch Hollywood movies (The Taking of Pelham One-Two-Three) and still not fully grasp it. The noise level alone would be incomprehensible.

 

[Euphony]

Tonne, technically.

Well spotted but I'm posting from a Mac.

And ultra technically, megagram (Mg)

 

[EmilyMiller]

It's still not enough. A bad analogy, perhaps, but it would be like someone who had spent their entire lives in a small Great Plains town (I've seen them in North Dakota) trying to understand what the New York subway is like. They could read books, watch documentaries, watch Hollywood movies (The Taking of Pelham One-Two-Three) and still not fully grasp it. The noise level alone would be incomprehensible.

Ask a gay friend for help?

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

I've deep-throated a silicone dildo, so it certainly can be done. It's fun too.

What AlinaX said…

Em

 

[gunhilltrain]

Indeed, but a realistic silicone dildo has something of the shape and flexibility of a real cock - and, in the absence of a real cock within sucking distance, a silicone dildo has some advantage over a hard, plastic vibrator.

Hmm, maybe he should buy a nice big cucumber at the supermarket and wink suggestively at the cashier.

One of those ejaculating dildos, perhaps... filled with champagne for a royal finish. Bonus marks if it makes him choke and cough while his girlfriend sniggers.

Yeah, that's like the semen-filled bag I mentioned. It's still a dildo, even if is made of silicone. I doubt it's quite the same as a real cock going off in one's mouth.

If he winks at a male cashier, then maybe he's making some progress.

 

[gunhilltrain]

As a gay friend for help?

Em

That's also making some real progress.