Well here is the thing my g/f loves to suck my cock n I love it too but I cant cum for her! She want me too.n sometimes I go soft !!!!It pisses her off!It feels real good to me but I just cant cum unless i am in side her tight pussy !Oh the other thing is I was married for 7 yr to a chick that would suck me but if I came she said she would never do it again.so I trained myself not to cum !how do I untrain myself?also do other guy have this happen to them?I real want to make the one I am with happy.Help!!!!!!
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Brazen Irish
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It sounds to me like you built yourself a mental block. That's not an easy thing to overcome, expecially with so many years of conditioning.
The first thing you should do is talk to your current partner and explain to her the problem. Make sure she understands that you enjoy, even love what she does and your inability to cum has no reflection on her.
The second is to make sure you relax when she's going down on you. Don't think about what you're going to do or what you can't do. Simply focus on her mouth and what she's doing to your cock. Watch her take you between her lips if visual stimulation helps.
Just don't force it. Tell yourself that it's ok. It might not work overnight, but you didn't learn to hold back your orgasim overnight either. If all else fails, try talking to a professional sex therapist.
The first thing you should do is talk to your current partner and explain to her the problem. Make sure she understands that you enjoy, even love what she does and your inability to cum has no reflection on her.
The second is to make sure you relax when she's going down on you. Don't think about what you're going to do or what you can't do. Simply focus on her mouth and what she's doing to your cock. Watch her take you between her lips if visual stimulation helps.
Just don't force it. Tell yourself that it's ok. It might not work overnight, but you didn't learn to hold back your orgasim overnight either. If all else fails, try talking to a professional sex therapist.
rakastuja
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Do you have same problem if she just gives handjob? Or if you masturbate while she is present?
She might first give you oral and finish you with hand. When you get comfortable in cumming that way it would be much lesser thing to over come that mental block...
She might first give you oral and finish you with hand. When you get comfortable in cumming that way it would be much lesser thing to over come that mental block...
scottslaughter
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I've been the recipient of countless BJs over the years and even now still have the same situation (note I did not call it a 'problem').
The main thing to do is relax and enjoy. Also make certain you're in a comfortable location - for example, her house with her parents down the hall probably is not the ideal location.
Sometimes sitting down or laying down is better than standing while receiving a BJ. Tell her what you like, maybe she needs to know what pleases you.
Otherwise, try to enjoy it and don't worry. You've got a gf who wants to pleasure you and that is a big part of the fun.
e-mails and PMs always welcome
scottsxs@hotmail.com
The main thing to do is relax and enjoy. Also make certain you're in a comfortable location - for example, her house with her parents down the hall probably is not the ideal location.
Sometimes sitting down or laying down is better than standing while receiving a BJ. Tell her what you like, maybe she needs to know what pleases you.
Otherwise, try to enjoy it and don't worry. You've got a gf who wants to pleasure you and that is a big part of the fun.
e-mails and PMs always welcome
scottsxs@hotmail.com
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You might want to check out The Blank Manual in the How To Forum. There you will find numerous threads on how to get the most out of oral sex, including more than one on the particular dilemma you're facing.
You'll find that you're hardly alone.
You'll find that you're hardly alone.
