Blow Job Help.

[StrG81]

My wife is GREAT at giving blow jobs but for some reason I never get to the point where I can cum. From what I've heard of her previous exploits she's had lots of cock in her mouth and never had any problem with the guys cumming. Anyone got some serious advice on how I can get to that point? I can't name anything she's doing wrong but I've never come close (every pun intended).

 

[Reshbod]

My wife is GREAT at giving blow jobs but for some reason I never get to the point where I can cum. From what I've heard of her previous exploits she's had lots of cock in her mouth and never had any problem with the guys cumming. Anyone got some serious advice on how I can get to that point? I can't name anything she's doing wrong but I've never come close (every pun intended).

I am in the same situation. I've tried different positions and pictured fantasies, but am unable to climax unless I am doing her vaginally. I am curious to see what others post. You are definitely not alone.

 

[StrG81]

You are definitely not alone.

Glad to hear it.

 

[Zoots_owner]

Maybe you're too unused to being selfish.

 

[CWatson]

Maybe you're too unused to being selfish.

Never thought I'd find myself in support of male selfishness, but, it's a good point. Eventually, it is in fact okay to let go and cum.

Speaking only for myself, I've found that, depending on what precise technique a woman happens to be using on me, I can be overstimulated, which causes me to sort of--what, I dunno--zone out, or go into overload, or whatever. Long story short: if it's too strong, it doesn't count. Now, to me, this is a blessing in disguise, because my endurance is nothing to brag of; Your Mileage May Vary. (Heck, your mileage already HAS varied. Now we're just trying to figure out how and why.)

Alternately, not-enough-variety-in-masturbation means that I only respond to certain types of stimulus--namely that whole in/out up/down thing. Unfortunately, this is not something I can much experiment with, as I have gotten exactly two blowjobs in my life, the second of which led to my discovery of the above. Ask me again after I'm getting laid regularly.

 

[human_male]

Perhaps the mouth just doesn't grip enough for you to be able to do it. Maybe she could jerk the base of your cock while she sucks the head. Or maybe if you got your hips going and humped a bit, as long as she didn't mind, that would help.

 

[infinity706]

Well, it might just not be the kind of stimulation you need. Experimenting can certainly be fun, but don't put too much pressure on it. If you can't get off, just enjoy anyway and get off doing whatever it is that does work.

 

[twisteroo]

Try holding onto her head and facefuck her, I mean only if she is willing, and try not to jam it down her throat unless she's into that. Having a chick barf on your crank might not be as erotic as it sounds.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

If you masturbate a lot, ease off a bit as it can desensitise you. Her mouth is not going to be as stimulating as your clenched fist.

 

[coastal-boy]

stop worrying about it and enjoy it. Does it really matter if your cum? If she enjoys giving and you enjoy receiving...just lay back and let go.

 

[tenchikoi]

stop worrying about it and enjoy it. Does it really matter if your cum? If she enjoys giving and you enjoy receiving...just lay back and let go.

I agree with this totally. My friend and I, when we're being intimate it's not always about reaching orgasm for either of us. We just enjoy being together and pleasuring each other. He loves the way I give him head and has told me that I'm the only woman he's ever known that's been able to make him orgasm from oral sex. It's flattering to me, but I know he's telling the truth because the results don't lie. Just enjoy each other, don't focus on the outcome.

 

[StrG81]

I agree with this totally. My friend and I, when we're being intimate it's not always about reaching orgasm for either of us. We just enjoy being together and pleasuring each other. He loves the way I give him head and has told me that I'm the only woman he's ever known that's been able to make him orgasm from oral sex. It's flattering to me, but I know he's telling the truth because the results don't lie. Just enjoy each other, don't focus on the outcome.

Not worrying about it. I do lay back and enjoy it. It would just be nice to cum at least one time.

 

[ivantheterrible]

i have the same problem, except i can cum but it takes a loooong time. you have to have a woman who REALLY likes to give blowjobs, and doesn't mind taking her time. encourage her with dirty talk. it might keep her interested in it long enough. that's just a guess on my part. no one's ever got me to pop by blowjob.

 

[Vivi1975]

I have some experience I can share in this area! I earned the nickname blowfish when I was in high school. I LOVE TO SUCK DICK. What can I say...

Have her grip the base if your cock but NOT with her whole hand, only with her thumb and index finger (shaped as a tight O). She can suck your cock and move her fingers up & down with the same rythm. The effect on you is just a tight lip grip. You won't even know her hand is there.

With her other hand, have her tug on your balls and/or put her finger on or UP your ass. Have you tried prostate massage? If not, you should.

If it needs to be said, there is also a need for a little bit of a real handjob while performing a bj. But I never really remove my mouth. I keep my lips wet, and in a puckered kiss on the tip of his dick at all times.

Ok...I'll tell you what. Let me go sharpen my skills and I'll get back to you with some more pointers....

 

[angle1984]

My wife is GREAT at giving blow jobs but for some reason I never get to the point where I can cum. From what I've heard of her previous exploits she's had lots of cock in her mouth and never had any problem with the guys cumming. Anyone got some serious advice on how I can get to that point? I can't name anything she's doing wrong but I've never come close (every pun intended).

Have you ever been able to cum from a blow job? With other girls?

 

[ovrec]

Use your own experience to guide her

Well I noticed for me to cum at all the following are needed:
1. Into it Mentally (which may involve some mental fantasy)
2. Feel Safe (or fake it mentally with an even stronger mental fantasy)
3. Some form of physical stimulation (depending upon how mentally into it this can be just a tiny bit or a lot)

When receiving oral you may want to think about how you masturbate and train your partner. Someone mentioned tugging on the balls. For me that is immensely pleasurable. Light tickling of them too. When I masturbate I tried all sorts of different things there and over time I found what works best and what doesn't. Then I coach my partner based on those things. For me I taught her how to lightly tickle my balls. For you it may vary. Also do you like your cock just barely touched, do you like it firmly touched, do you like a mixture of the two? These are all things to think about. Also the inner thighs, and area between balls and butt are all very sensitive.

It's just like when trying to give your woman an orgasm. Assuming she masturbates (and admits it...) she can tell you how best to stimulate her in order to drive her wild. Not that you still shouldn't experiment on each other anyway... But coaching each other can give a great starting point.

 

[subwannabe]

I too believe you are just so used to the tightness of other methods such as yourself, handjobs, vaginal sex, etc that you just aren't getting enough stimulation to make you cum. The solution is training yourself to not use tighter methods as already mentioned. Part of the problem too is that you are way to used to you controlling when you orgasm. With blow jobs the woman has almost total control over when you cum and there isn't much you yourself can do to help the situation along while it is happening. Have her tease you mercilessly for several days by light touch of your cock, no hard gripping. Have her drive you so crazy wanting to cum that when she gets her mouth around you it will be the tightest thing you have experienced in quite a while. With most all of my orgasms I employ my mind to achieve final results by thinking something extremely horny that pushes me over the edge. For me it is often about having to eat my own cum afterward but it can be anything.

 

[tandoor]

My wife is GREAT at giving blow jobs but for some reason I never get to the point where I can cum. From what I've heard of her previous exploits she's had lots of cock in her mouth and never had any problem with the guys cumming. Anyone got some serious advice on how I can get to that point? I can't name anything she's doing wrong but I've never come close (every pun intended).

I have trouble cumming from blowjobs too. Very few women have been able to, my wife can not. Vaginal always works though.

 

[shykittyme]

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[oxphocker]

Yeah, jumping on the "doesn't get off on BJs often" boat... It probably stems from jerking off so much by myself that I know exactly what I like and most girls can't keep up with that speed for a long enough time. I also have the issue that I like seeing women cum and getting a BJ seems so different to that. My ex got on a kick of wanting to get me off no matter what. So when we were up at her lakehouse we went off into the woods until we found a tree that had fallen across the path. She sat down on it and I got her off on manual stimulation and then I stood there while she sucked on me. After about 15 mins or so I finally managed to get off.

You just have to find the right circumstances that work for you.

 

[rthnck]

Long BJ, count me in!

Personally I am never in a rush when it comes to BJ's. My partner can keep me quivering for as long as she wants. My orgasm is entirely in her hands (or mouth) and she knows just what buttons to push.

It takes two to tango here. You have to be willing to tell your partner what feels good and she has to be willing to go with that instead of what she thinks will feel good. Just because it's in a porn clip doesn't mean all guys like a particular technique or position.

As much I like to say that men are pretty simple sexual creatures, we have our own quirks about what gets us off.

 

[twisteroo]

Have here pinch your nipples. Hey, you never know.

 

[sterculius]

If your wife is into it, taking a more active role might help. Try holding her head gently as you lovingly fuck her mouth. my wife enjoys it like this.