BJ Etiquette

[BlowTheseDice]

When you are nearing ejaculation during a blowjob. Do the girls want to hear that your about to cum, if so what words or any other signals? Or can you tell by yourself? With my last girlfriend, she told me to "tell her when" So how about it, what's the etiquette?

 

[Kissophile]

Etiquette is all about consideration for the other person. Thus, it seems to me, what's appropriate will vary from partner to partner. Ask and you shall receive is the right approach, I think.

 

[nycphoto]

How

I personally like when a woman swallows my load while creating suction. I consider that a proper blow job. In my years I have had women let in dribble in thier mouth and other complety suck me dry. Then there have been those women that want you to warn them when you are coumming so that they can finish you off with thier hand or so that that they can avoide swallowing.
I would have to say to let the situation evolve by itself, she will let you know what likes or dislikes about performing a BJ.

 

[My Own Way]

Personally, I have no problem swallowing at all....enjoy it immensely in fact...but I still want to know when he's cumming. That way I'm not surprised when it hits me in the back of the throat and plus...hearing him breath out "I'm cumming" is such a turn on for me...

 

[sweetgirl666]

Let me see. Etiquette

1. Unless prior agreed: She is giving you a blowjob. Means she does the work, you do not push your cock down the throat

2. Also, do not pull her hair and direct her head (unless prior agreed), she is doing the work

3. It is polite to tell her when you are close to cuming

4. Return the favour to her

5. Be Clean. You cant smell it, but when your nose is in someones pubic hair...well, its gross at times. Same goes for your cock.

6. Show her you appreciate what she is doing. I love to give BJs, but then, I like it as my guys love it. If he looks as if I am drilling a root canal....I wont do it again (and then had him ask me why I never did it again to boot...)

Uh,
7. Shave or be at least trim. Not having constantly hair in your mouth makes it way more enjoyable for a women and really ups your chance of getting a bj.

 

[SkyyAngel]

Let me see. Etiquette

1. Unless prior agreed: She is giving you a blowjob. Means she does the work, you do not push your cock down the throat

2. Also, do not pull her hair and direct her head (unless prior agreed), she is doing the work

3. It is polite to tell her when you are close to cuming

4. Return the favour to her

5. Be Clean. You cant smell it, but when your nose is in someones pubic hair...well, its gross at times. Same goes for your cock.

6. Show her you appreciate what she is doing. I love to give BJs, but then, I like it as my guys love it. If he looks as if I am drilling a root canal....I wont do it again (and then had him ask me why I never did it again to boot...)

Uh,
7. Shave or be at least trim. Not having constantly hair in your mouth makes it way more enjoyable for a women and really ups your chance of getting a bj.

Very good rules....you should write a book.

 

[SweetErika]

Personally, I have no problem swallowing at all....enjoy it immensely in fact...but I still want to know when he's cumming. That way I'm not surprised when it hits me in the back of the throat and plus...hearing him breath out "I'm cumming" is such a turn on for me...

I agree. I don't know why, but ever since I had my tonsils removed a few years ago, being hit in the back of my throat has been a problem. I'm happy to let him cum in my mouth, but I need warning so I can reposition slightly.

 

[SkyyAngel]

Me personally, I've gotten so in sync with him that I can tell when he's about to. He doesn't need to say it but the signs are sexy nonetheless.

 

[sweetgirl666]

Ah, no! this is knowledge that is to be shared between girlfriends on a quiet evening...with a trial object close by ;

Very good rules....you should write a book.

 

[SkyyAngel]

Ah, no! this is knowledge that is to be shared between girlfriends on a quiet evening...with a trial object close by ;

True but since it's rules kinda more for the guys...they should have access to it.

We'll just swap the other secrets of BJs.

 

[SexyChele]

I agree with Skyyangel. Maybe it's just because I've been with my man long enough or I just know him too well, but I know when he is close to cumming - his whole body just screams it! He doesn't have to say a word. In this case, him saying anything is just pointless and makes me look up at him with this, "So tell me something I don't know" look.

Now, if I was giving a blowjob to some I never have before, then it's different. Still, one can usually tell when a man is about to cum. It would be nice to know, but not necessary.

However, if you are with a woman who has a problem with a man cumming in her mouth, then you might want to let her know so she can switch to her hand. It's the only considerate thing to do.

 

[SkyyAngel]

him saying anything is just pointless and makes me look up at him with this, "So tell me something I don't know" look.

Exactly!! It's *almost* a mood-breaker if it wasn't for the hot juices flooding my mouth!

 

[BlowTheseDice]

Good replies so far. So as for the 'warning' it's just, "I'm cumming" and such along those lines. Can always count on Lit for advice.

 

[Lynxie]

Personally, I prefer some sort of warning. My husband just has to grab my hair or shoulder a certain way, and I know it's about to happen - but when we were first dating, it definitely helped for him to tell me he was about to cum. Here are a few things you can do to put your mind at ease:

1. Ask your girl what she prefers - some women like it to be a surprise, others prefer to prepare.

2. If you haven't asked her and find yourself in the middle of a blowjob, err on the side of safety and give her a warning. Something like "I'm cumming!" or "I'm gonna cum!" would work nicelyl

3. If you don't know if your partner prefers to swallow or spit, try saying something like "I'm gonna cum, where do you want it?" and see what she does. Leave her options open for her - she'll appreciate you giving her control over the situation.

 

[WarmVanilla]

Ah, if only he had...

After eight years of marriage, and being curious for the longest time, I swallowed for the first time last night. I thought he would have warned me, but no chance. At least I could tell from physical signals that he was close. It just would have been nice to hear that I was having that kind of effect on him.

The only reason I let him off the hook afterwards was that he told me that the whole thing just blew his mind. That and he did make it up to me very well afterwards.

 

[Lynxie]

Ah, if only he had...

After eight years of marriage, and being curious for the longest time, I swallowed for the first time last night. I thought he would have warned me, but no chance. At least I could tell from physical signals that he was close. It just would have been nice to hear that I was having that kind of effect on him.

The only reason I let him off the hook afterwards was that he told me that the whole thing just blew his mind. That and he did make it up to me very well afterwards.

WV brings up an excellent point - if you receive a blowjob, make sure you're thankful for it! This applies particularly if you forget to double check with your mate about spitting/swallowing, or forget to give any kind of warning (if she's the type to want it). Praise her skills and make sure you return the favor by going down on her (or him, as the case may be). If you boost her ego and give her a mind-blowing orgasm, you're practically guaranteed a repeat performance

 

[VSE]

Unless it's been made clear before hand that a warning isn't necessary I would always consider it common courtesy to inform a partner that I'm about to come.

 

[Honeysucklevine]

All good points! If my guy says, "mmmm, would love to see you rub it in.", I will. If he wants me to swallow, I don't mind as long as he smells fresh down there since your sense of smell is directly linked to your taste. Therefore, keep a ziplock bag of wet wipes in your car if you can't get to a bathroom to freshen up. I guarantee you, if you stink, it won't be a good BJ even if your partner loves you and you may not get another for a long time!
Oh, and shave. Nuff said on the topic of smell.

Secondly, eat a diet rich in fruits like pineapple and don't forget to add your veggies and nuts/seeds. Avoid asparagas and red meat. Etiquette = making sure your "stuff" tastes good.

Finally, and I got this from the Charlotte character on SEX IN THE CITY, keep a box of tissues on the bedside table, car and bathroom. If that makes you feel "weird" then at least keep a towel around. Sometimes, we just might change our minds about that "facial or pearl necklace"! (Don't mean to be crude, just giving the facts. )

 

[JoseIsWild]

The only time she really knows I'm about to cum is when I force her head up against me really hard.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

all of those are very good points, and everyone know's it common courtesy to inform a woman when your gonna cum

 

[nortonsavage]

The only time she really knows I'm about to cum is when I force her head up against me really hard.

I may be wrong, but it seems like that's the kind of thing most of these ladies would like to avoid....

 

[SweetErika]

I may be wrong, but it seems like that's the kind of thing most of these ladies would like to avoid....

Nope, you're absolutely right. Forcing outside of very specific situations is never good.

 

[Blastasbird]

I love to hear him go "oh god your gonna make me cum" and then he shoots his load straight down the back of my throat.

mmmmm mmmmm mmmmm

 

[Guest]

Let me see. Etiquette

1. Unless prior agreed: She is giving you a blowjob. Means she does the work, you do not push your cock down the throat

2. Also, do not pull her hair and direct her head (unless prior agreed), she is doing the work

3. It is polite to tell her when you are close to cuming

4. Return the favour to her

5. Be Clean. You cant smell it, but when your nose is in someones pubic hair...well, its gross at times. Same goes for your cock.

6. Show her you appreciate what she is doing. I love to give BJs, but then, I like it as my guys love it. If he looks as if I am drilling a root canal....I wont do it again (and then had him ask me why I never did it again to boot...)

Uh,
7. Shave or be at least trim. Not having constantly hair in your mouth makes it way more enjoyable for a women and really ups your chance of getting a bj.

All of the above are great tips! A simple...."Im about to cum....would you like me to cum in your mouth?" is a plus and is greatly appreciated.

As for the hair pulling and the directing...that can be a little fun hahaha....