Bisexual ?

[shortstroke]

I have a problem and hope someone can give me some advise. I am 64 years old and married to a wonderful woman for 30+ years. My problem is I am quite certain I am either bisexual or, at least, bisexual curious and, if my wife ever found out, my marriage would end.
I'm retired so I have plenty of free time during the day and the freedom to travel short distances. How do I go about meeting other men in my age group that have the same feelings/desires/problems?
All of the web sites I have accessed are for men who are much younger and, quite frankly, I do not want a younger man.
Any advise?

 

[bisexplicit]

My advice would be do NOT go and do something secretly behind your wifes back. Watch gay porn, fantasize, whatever...but I don't think that this is something worth ruining your marriage over.

 

[Stefani]

My advice would be do NOT go and do something secretly behind your wifes back. Watch gay porn, fantasize, whatever...but I don't think that this is something worth ruining your marriage over.

Good advice. A sexual fling is not worth losing your wife. Maybe your best bet is just to discuss your feelings with people here. Get it out of your system that way.

Also, be aware that if you go out and just hook up with some guy to explore your sexuality you're leaving yourself open to all sorts of sexual diseases. Imagine bringing herpes home to your wife, and maybe that will cool your desire.

 

[Rubyb]

Great advice already. Some things to consider...

Are you seeking a friend for discussion or play?

You mention that you don't want a younger man, this implies that you're thinking more of play than just "talking" about and exploring your feelings.

There is a difference between looking at new cars and taking them out for a test drive.

I suggest you keep your travels online and you'll be surprised how many like minded folks are out there, many older than you might think.

To your success!

 

[Little Bird]

It is not the same if one is bisexual or if one wants to cheat his wife!

 

[Ricwilly]

I'd just keep it in fantasy land if I was you. Sounds like you have a lot invested in your relationship so I'd have to ask myself if I'm willing to lose it at this stage of the game. My answer would be no.

 

[jaxcreampie69]

Bathhouse

I too am married and don’t want to get caught. I found out the best way to have anonymous sex with guys is to go to a Bathhouse. Wifey will never know, and if you use a condom, the chances of catching any diseases are almost nil.

 

[Elmer Keith]

Wow, tough situation. My wife doesn't know. I have a friend from Connecticut who I get together with on occasion. But we only "git r done" with each other or our wives. Strangers can get spooky. I hate STD's.

 

[shortstroke]

bisexual?

I too am married and don’t want to get caught. I found out the best way to have anonymous sex with guys is to go to a Bathhouse. Wifey will never know, and if you use a condom, the chances of catching any diseases are almost nil.

I have a friend who goes to the bath houses; he can afford the cost, I could but could not explain the expendeture. Also, my friend says that the guys at the bath houses are all on the young side.