Bisexual girls...why is it that...

[grad_school_girl]

None of us ever seem to date other girls?

I've hooked up with numerous girls (too few, actually),but I've never felt the need or desire to "date" another girl. Neither have most girls I've hooked up with. It seems that boobs and pussy are a-ok within the confines of a hookup (particularly if a guy is there), but if it starts seeming like a relationship, I clamp down. I was recently in a very emotional friends with benefits situation with a stunningly cute, much younger girl, and when it appeared that she wanted more (ie, a traditional girlfriend-girlfriend) situation, I locked up. I just had no interest, despite how cute she was, how great of a personality she had (and how very great she was in bed) in taking it farther. Eating a girl for hours a night? Great fun. Going on a date? Oh noes!

And I'm not alone, either. It seems that getting naked with a girl is cool as long as its disconnected from any emotional connection. Is this right? Are bi girls who don't date girls just a product of a patriarchal sex regime in which we hook up with girls for the ultimate pleasure of guys who know we're out there even if the sados are never in the same room as us. Ie, is this foisted on us?

Any insight from my bi girls on here? Curious to see if you fiends on literotica had any opinions before i e-mail dan savage.

 

[femforfem4fun]

hi I think I know what you mean Im 42 and am very attracted to 20-25 fems and some part of that is not wanting to get close emotionally

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[vk5]

Take responsibility for your actions.

No one is forcing you to hump and dump other girls.

You are free to do whatever you want but the catch is that no one is responsible for what you do but yourself.

vk5

 

[BlowTheseDice]

I would say that that's probably pretty common for guys to. That bisexual isn't the word to describe it, but perhaps hetero-flexible. Straight (love opposite gender), but flexible in who you receive pleasure from.

 

[kellygurl]

hmmm ... in my case i have a few friends (with benefits) and we do lots together .. girl girl stuff like shopping, movies, going to clubs, hanging out for the evening (either as 2 girls, or with one or 2 others) .. when it comes to the "benefits" part ... we also get naked together (one on one). Its all fun, and we dont seem to feel pressure to become exclusive .. i guess cuz we also have boyfriends ?

 

[ashleighuk]

I do date a girl but we sometimes pretend to just be friends, it's just easier. some people don't like it and some guys think we would want to have a 3sum.

 

[kellygurl]

hi gorgeous

 

[Harmony_1985]

I do date a girl but we sometimes pretend to just be friends, it's just easier. some people don't like it and some guys think we would want to have a 3sum.

I had a load of guys from college suddenly take interest when I put up on my Facebook that I was Bi. They all wanted to know if I'd done a girl, and I was like "ok leave me alone plz, I don't know you".

 

[ashleighuk]

why do guys have a thing about wanting to know about 2 girls, I wudnt want 2 know about 2 guys

 

[janeyl]

why do guys have a thing about wanting to know about 2 girls, I wudnt want 2 know about 2 guys

Probably because they've been fed the constant fantasy by porn of the constantly available and sexually insatiable woman-which is why so much girl-girl porn inevitably ends up with a guy joining in, is full of women who clearly aren't turned on by each other and who do that horrible snakey tongue "kissing" thing

I do however love watching and participating with 2 guys-my partner is bi too and seeing the pleasure he gets from being fucked either by me or another guy is such a turn on for me

it takes all sorts to make the world go around and what lit has taught me these last few months is that everybody is an individual with their own kinks and turn ons and none of us do ourselves any favours by getting tangled up in labels and their limitations

to answer the OP-I am exactly the same-and at the risk of labelling myself now-and I will probably open myself up to arguement about the use of these particular terms-I consider myself bisexual and not bi-amorous......as in I have sex with women in some circumstances but do not consider relationships with them on an amorous level

I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else-it just makes sense to me

Jane x

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I think it varies, and it's down to individual inclination. I've bisexual, at least historically. I've met and slept with a few bisexual women who were only really interested in the sex, and not a relationship. And I've known or dated others, who were definitely romantically inclined to other women, too. I went out with one girl for about six months - we were both bisexual, and we fell in love with each other...although admittedly it didn't work out long term. And nowdays, I have a serious girlfriend, and we've been in a romance for two years now.

 

[John Doe]

Dating = fucking.

 

[honor_b]

I'm attracted to other girls, but I don't think I've ever been in love with another girl. To be honest, I don't think I ever will either - I dunno, really though. I kind of assumed I'm just going through a sort of bi phase - I imagine (and hope) that ten years from now I'll be happily married to some rugby playing fella in a big farmhouse, with no girls on the side


However, a male friend of mine seems to be the opposite - he's a quite homophobic in the sense that guy-on-guy sex pretty much repulses him (I think it's hot! - and he keeps his homophobia to himself, he doesn't dislike homosexuals, just doesn't like the thought of of the sex - I don't know where I stand on that) but he also says he could never love a girl like he loves his best mates. He says the bond between men can be stronger than the bond between a man and a woman.... but again - je ne sais pas!

 

[Ropergirl]

I have "dated" other girls to the extent people knew we were a couple. Its been awhile since I have done that and now I tend to go with the friends with benefits thing as well. Mostly because of where I live same sex relationships are not looked upon with favor. I think that is probably the biggest reason for bisexual women to avoid being known as a couple. If one were only into women they don't worry what other people thinks as much.

 

[ShyLana]

Flirty

I like the idea of pretending to just be friends with a girl. Go for a walk, galleries, coffee, then tell how much I want to eat her pussy. Just like that. Trying to relax now - too much stress with the election news.

One time I gave this adorable girl at work a light smack on her pretty little ass; I could have gotten in so much trouble. She was taking aback. I was just kidding around. I would have loved to have pushed her into a closet and kissed and fucked for hours. Never did.

 

[Ropergirl]

I like the idea of pretending to just be friends with a girl. Go for a walk, galleries, coffee, then tell how much I want to eat her pussy. Just like that. Trying to relax now - too much stress with the election news.

One time I gave this adorable girl at work a light smack on her pretty little ass; I could have gotten in so much trouble. She was taking aback. I was just kidding around. I would have loved to have pushed her into a closet and kissed and fucked for hours. Never did.

And how did you come up with a nickname that included shy? lol

Seriously You sound like alot of fun

 

[ShyLana]

shy

in public. if i ever get to travel again, would love to myself and go to a lez bar, and let myself get seduced. Or tease another femme. Not shy in bed.

 

[Ropergirl]

in public. if i ever get to travel again, would love to myself and go to a lez bar, and let myself get seduced. Or tease another femme. Not shy in bed.

OK I can understand that. I too have never worked up the courage to go to a lez bar, but would love to. At home I have to keep my preferences a bit of a secret

 

[ShyLana]

A regular thing

with another married woman in my neighborhood. we met on craigslist, but when we realized our kids went to the same school, and she taught my kid as a substitute teacher, it could too weird. We'd run together, hike. Always the sexual tension after our one and only EXTREMELY hot encounter. It would have been nice if she was just a little less close and teacher thing was too uncomfortable. I see her with her family and husband, and still get wet.....

 

[PatchIsMe]

i would love to find a girl to date and have lots of fun sex with... i dont want a fly by night...i want some one that we can try out different things and really learn how to fire each other off... something about knowing each other just appeals to me

 

[VeronicaSexie]

i would love to find a girl to date and have lots of fun sex with... i dont want a fly by night...i want some one that we can try out different things and really learn how to fire each other off... something about knowing each other just appeals to me

I second that! As someone above posted, it is really not cool to be a gay couple where I live, but hey two lipstick type lesbians or bi girls together shopping, eating out and hanging out is perfectly acceptable of course and no one would ever suspect to give us dirty looks. Unless we sat out in public smooching and etc! I think it would be thrilling to know that when we get home we will enjoy each other so much more!!!

I want a relationship with a woman for the first time. A real one. I am looking until I find one. I was drunk the other night and kissed a girl on the cheek, she looked at me like I was crazy and moved away from me. People here are so damn uptight. I have found though, that once you get their attention, they will come back to you!!!

I may be bi right now, but if I find the right woman, not sure how much I will have to do with men. They always, always hurt me.

 

[Around_the_bend]

I like the idea of pretending to just be friends with a girl. Go for a walk, galleries, coffee, then tell how much I want to eat her pussy. Just like that. Trying to relax now - too much stress with the election news.

One time I gave this adorable girl at work a light smack on her pretty little ass; I could have gotten in so much trouble. She was taking aback. I was just kidding around. I would have loved to have pushed her into a closet and kissed and fucked for hours. Never did.

Yea lol ....my wife would love to meet a girl like you

She has been seriously thinking about finding a constant girlfriend so she can feel comfortable and have fun.

Peace,

AtB

 

[CheekyGiRL07]

Yeah, it is really hard to find a "bi" friend. I think my best friend is amazing looking and she is bi, but I don't know really what to do....it's just kind of odd. At least being bi as a women is more "accepted" than vice versa; however, I hate men who think being bi is "hot". Please, leave me alone.

 

[Ropergirl]

Yeah, it is really hard to find a "bi" friend. I think my best friend is amazing looking and she is bi, but I don't know really what to do....it's just kind of odd. At least being bi as a women is more "accepted" than vice versa; however, I hate men who think being bi is "hot". Please, leave me alone.

I know what you mean cheeky. Guys who make a huge deal about a girl being bi are generally just hoping to get involved in a 3some.

 

[HotheadKali]

My general problem is that I have no idea how to approach girls.

Given that I'm used to the heterocentric view of everything, I am familiar with the general template that one can choose to use in picking up a guy. If I ask a guy out for coffee with the right insinuations, generally it's understood that I'm "asking him out"--especially if it repeats. Now granted, I deviate from that like hell; I tend to go for people that pose an intellectual and physical challenge for me, and I have little to no interest in flowers or candy or shmoopy shit.

But I guess my point is, it's expected. People are assumed to be heterosexual until proven otherwise. If I start hitting on a guy (or vice versa) it's not considered weird. Even if the guy is gay and I've made a mistake, it's seen as a perfectly harmless mistake by most.

If I hit on a girl (and by "hit on", I don't mean anything creepy--something as subtle as asking her out for coffee or smiling flirtatiously) suddenly I feel like I'm being looked at funny. It's not expected as much for a girl to ask out another girl, so I feel like if I don't plainly state exactly what my intentions are from the get-go, we're not on the same page. And I hate the feeling that I might be jumping to conclusions with someone while they have no idea what's going on.

At the same time, I like the idea of letting a relationship go where it wants without too many pre-conceived notions of what it should be. With women, I feel like I have to set out what I want it to be from the beginning to give the straight girls a way out.

So really? I just feel suffocated by expectations.

A long answer, but the most honest one I could put together in one sitting.