Bisexual double-standards.. Am I insane?

[Endlessly]

Okay, as I think most everyone here who knows me knows, I'm bi-curious.. Probably I can safely call myself bisexual. Lately, a whole bunch of issues have been brought up by my new aspect of sexuality, and I just wanted to throw them at you people.

1. I seem to be the only female I know aroused by two guys making out. I know men love seeing two chicks go at it, and I'll admit I wasn't too fond of the idea of two guys until my NMBSO (non-monogamous barely-significant other) made out with a rather hot male friend of his.. I kid you not when I say I almost came in my pants.

2. No offense to any of the female-oriented women of the BB in the following. I love bodies, male and female. Emotionally, I want nothing to do with women-- I could never see having an emotional, committed relationship with one. Contraversely, I NEED an emotional, committed relationship with a man in order to get physical, otherwise I don't feel safe.

I'd never 'just' have sex with a man, but sex is all I'd want from a woman, because I love the female form.

3. When talking with my (bi, male) NMBSO, he told me that it was bad of me to have such a blatant double-standard-- that if I don't believe in having sex before commitment that doing it with a chick would be outside of that as well, unless in a threesome with a committed male partner. He asked me if I'd be mad if we got married and he told me he had an affair, but it 'didn't count' because the other person was also male.. And a woman would make me see red, but I wouldn't mind if it were a guy. He thinks that's nuts.

What do you people think?

 

[Expertise]

Merely MHO

I think you would find that your view/take is quite common.

Yes it is a double standard but hey your human its allowed.

In my limited (unfortunately) experience with bisexual females their relationships with males are both sexual and emotional whereas there relationships with females are sexual/friendship based.

Like you I would have zero problem with my partner being with an aother woman whereas I would have a huge problem with her being with another man.

If for no other reason than the fact that I see/ interpret the other man more as a threat/rival than the woman who I can view as a daliance/friend etc.

So if we're wrong at least we aren't alone. This possibly explains why both male and female homosexuals want nothing to do with bi-sexuals in many cases.

 

[Nobody Special]

Endlessly,

It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.. it is what you think and how you feel.. if it feel right and you feel right and they feel right about it.. then go for it.. but if it doesn't then don't.. it is all on how you feel about the situation.. and it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks cause they are not you...

I know you are asking for another opinion from every one here and I'm for it.. but I want you to think about it and make sure that it is what you want and who you want it with.. or it may not be the way that you think it should..

Abhout the Double standard stuff... I think that he is the one with that prob.. Your asking questions and he is not truely listening but speculating on what you are saying and maybe even being threatend from what you are feeling.. to where it is OK for him to have these kinds of relationships but that you can't.. so Maybe it is he that has the Double standard and not you..

E

 

[Guru]

 

[KillerMuffin]

It's a three legged pain in the ass is what it is. I have the same, shall we say, enjoyment of seeing to men going at it. I've seen and been involved with the full enchilada, however. I'm not too sure if you have. It's an experience I'll not only never forget but never fails to get me excited.

When most men ask me what's my fantasy, I prevaricate. The truth is out there, but they don't want to hear it. Too insecure in their masculinity to try new things, I imagine.

 

[Pyper]

Yeah, me too...

I'm not bi at all, but for some strange reason I find gay men hot. I like to read erotic stories about gay men too. Am I really a gay man on the inside? Ahhh!

No, really, you're not alone. I don't understand why guys get to have their lesbian fantasies, but we can't think about or mention our fantasies of two guys together. Maybe this is why I have problems with straight men...I am more attracted to gay men. What a pickle.

 

[Jade]

I love you little sister!

 

[Endlessly]

Jade sweetie, I'm gonna be embarrassed if that wasn't to me. *giggles and heaps affection upon you*

Killer: See, this is what happened.

I was down south visiting my NMBSO before Christmas, and we got invited to a little party a female friend of his was having. After a huge margarita, a medium daquiri, and another huge orange blossom (vodka and orange sherbet.. mostly vodka) everyone but me was pretty well buzzed-- 99% of the time, alcohol doesn't affect me. So there are three chicks and a roomful of guys, and I'm snuggled up contentedly on my NMBSO's closest buddy down there when the guys bring up watching two chicks go at it.

Our hostess brings up the idea of two guys going at it.

Deal was made. I'd hook up with the hostess for an audience, and to the same extent my NMBSO would hook up with my snugglebuddy. Both him and his friend were exquisitely hot, so I wasn't complaining, even though the chick wasn't my type.

Not much happened with me and the hostess (until many hours and shots of Everclear later that night, then alot happened, but that's another story), but Jesus did my NMBSO and his friend ravish eachother! Standing up, ripping shirts off, pelvic grinding, all that good stuff. My knees LITERALLY gave out. Alas, the two of them only perform for an audience.. My NMBSO's friend is too shy and not male-oriented enough to do anything without a female reason. Or vodka.

My snugglebuddy's highly physically attracted to me, so we were toying with the idea of a threesome, then I jumped back on the morality bandwagon, and all my extra-curricular activities went byebye. *sigh*

[Edited by Endlessly on 02-06-2001 at 11:21 PM]

 

[Jade]

Are you still up? Just curious... I have a test in about 6 hours... I am NOT ready for it and it is going to kick my friggin' ass (I don't normally talk this way... but hopefully you remember that... *sigh*... long night.. ugh)...

How are your classes this semester?

 

[Guru]

 

[Andra_Jenny]

We all have our own sexuality which we must live with. It looks like a gentle insanity at best. If you have money, I believe you may refer to yourself as eccentric. Go forth and explore and life to the fullest. It is such a short trip.

 

[Lil-Brandi]

All I can say...

Is read my bio!!!

I say, to each there own! Different minds think different ways, and noone has the right to judge anyone else for feelings they might have!

 

[Ambrosious]

I am one of the few guys I have ever met that does NOT like two girls at once. I feel that if my wife wants to eat pussy, I can't play anymore. It would be like bringing a football to a tennis match.

 

[Endlessly]

Jade sweetie, don't worry, I won't tell anyone you used such naughty words.

As far as how my classes are going.. I wouldn't really know, lately I've been lucky to motivate myself to attend one class a week, thanks to various stressors and a mental breakdown a couple weeks ago.. They still haven't given me back my scizzors, silverware, and other assorted sharp and pointy objects. Been sleeping through my meetings with the psychologist, but the woman's a quack.

Drop me an E-mail sometime!


Okay, sorry about that, back to sex now..

 

[ntp]

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