Bisexual Dilemna

[Samuelx]

I am trying to get my life back together.


My girlfriend Wendy got arrested for assault and battery on a minor. I am requested to show up in court in about a week or so as a witness. I dont know what I should do. Wendy is the girl I loved. She was the first woman I confessed my secret to ( I am a bisexual man) and also, the first one to spark in me the desire to marry and have children. All that went down since she started becoming angry and lashing out at people. Her hitting a child was the last straw.


I still hang out with John. John is a tall, handsome
guy whom I used to be friends back in high school. He is openly Gay and recently came out to his family and friends. He has a steady job as a paralegal and also goes to school to become an accountant.
John looks really good. He's 6'1, weighs 200 pounds and has black hair, dark gray eyes and light
brown skin. He's half black and half Latin. He is
great. He's also got a wonderful personality.


He gives me help and advice through this difficult time. I am so grateful for him. We've been going to the gym together lately. I'm 6'2 and weigh 250
pounds. My skin is jet-black. I want to slim down.
I enjoy spending time with John. He's so comfortable with himself. I didn't think that a man of color could be gay and still respected for who he is. His baby mama (lady he has a kid with but is not married to) respects him and so does his child.
John remains a PLATONIC friend to me.


I have introduced John to my family. For some reason, I omitted that he was gay. I don't know why. They didn't ask, though. My family knows that
Wendy has gone psycho and that we split. They know about my court date to testify. I have already
met the DA. They don't know that I am bisexual, though. I feel so bad for what happened with Wendy. She was amazing. Just such a great woman.

5'11. 160 pounds. Short black hair. Dark eyes. Light
brown skin. Athletic and sexy body. Killer thighs. Great smile. Outgoing personality. Amazing butt !


I don't want to testify against her. If I don't show up in court, she walks free. She has emailed me and said that she apologizes. She also says she wants me to do the right thing. She says she loves me and always will. She doesn't care whether she
ends up in jail or not but doesn't want me to hate her in my heart. I am moved by this but don't know what to think.

Is this a ploy ?


I feel quite confused right now.

 

[Pocahontas_25]

dilemma

you may want to be careful with her b/c she may start lashing at you.find a nice way to see if she can get some counselling. however she struck a child so ... you do what you feel is necessary. i would testify against her and offer to help her with her anger if she would allow me to do so. good friends are hard to find and ppl that you can care about even harder.

 

[Angel]

I'm just wondering what everyone's physical stats had to do with this story.

It makes you sound interested in the guy. If you want him, tell him.

p.s. re: Wendy. she assaulted someone. do the right thing and then move on.

 

[robbie_boy1]

I'm just wondering what everyone's physical stats had to do with this story.

It makes you sound interested in the guy. If you want him, tell him.

p.s. re: Wendy. she assaulted someone. do the right thing and then move on.

I was wondering the same thing. I have children and I am dead set against child abuse. I also grew up in a family where my parents had to have a heavy hand. Not knowing why the child got slapped is an interesting non part of the story?? If it was abuse, tell it like it is..if it is the tail wagging the dog.....that is another story. I thank my parents today but hated it when I knew more than they did

Good luck....oh, do you do buns of steel? just kidding.........situations such as the one you are in are difficult. Her lawyer is going to mention your being bi if he can get away with it as well and it can help insulate the client. Making it look like it was your fault it all happened. You may want legal advise yourself....... sucks I know...better days ahead.

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[SweetErika]

Pull yourself together, Samuel. The woman is being prosecuted for hitting a child, and you need to do the right, responsible thing by testifying about what you saw. You're not testifying against her, you're just telling the truth. This is all a result of her actions, and perhaps by doing the right thing, you'll also put her in a position to get the help she needs. This is about a child being hurt by an adult...would you want someone who hit your child to go free and not get help because a witness was to confused over his or her social life to testify?

Of course her email is a ploy. She's already proved herself to be an abusive, manipulative person who is likely ill, and what does she really have to lose by trying to talk you out of being a witness? Rise above her tactics and move on with your life. I'm not a lawyer, but your sexuality is irrelevant to her defense, and her attorney can not use it against you without being at risk for contempt of court. If you're at all concerned, ask the prosecutor, and he will reassure you that it will not be breached. Even if it could be brought up, it's not a defense for you not to testify.

Good luck.

 

[Etoile]

Yes, it is a ploy. Your sexuality, hers, your new friend's...all irrelevant. The issue is with her actions against a child. Do what is right in the eyes of the law - do not let your personal feelings for her come into it.

 

[kbate]

All the detail about your friend is unimportant to the question. If you like this guy, sleep with him, marry him, do whatever you want.

You should go to court and testify. She may not be convicted even with your testimony.

 

[SevenShields]

She hit a child. Regardless of what she tells you people that do that once are going to do it again. She's a dangerous woman and needs help, even if it comes from prison counseling.

Don't bail on testifying! If she hurts another child, which she will, you won't be able to live knowing you did nothing to try and abate the possibility of it happening.

 

[Samuelx]

I had a very interesting chat with my family.



I told them about my girlfriend Wendy. We had a falling out recently. She hit a kid and also threatened to expose my bisexuality to the world if I didn't return to her. That q uickly ended our relationship. She just got two days in jail plus probation as a result of her assault on the kid. The judge was adamant on that. She is also gonna have to go to a Batterer Intervention 's program. Apparently, the state is beginning to notice violent females do exist.


As for me, I walked scot-free. I got myself a new job as a carpenter's
assistant. I get paid $ 10 per hour and I work all the time. Pretty soon
I am gonna get my Associate's Degree in Computer Science. I plan on
getting my Bachelor's someday. I have started hanging out with John
more and more. John is a gay man whom I knew in high school. He
used to play basketball. I played soccer. He's cool. He is a couple of years
older than me. He is working full-time as car salesman and he owns
his own Autobody shop. He is openly gay. He has a kid with a
woman he used to date. They don't live together. He has visitation rights which he uses. He's on good terms with his baby mama, as they say in the
black community.


John has been there for me when I went through my recent mess.
Wendy betrayed me. I should have seen it coming but I didn't. I
am still reeling from it. John has been quite helpful. I like being
around him. We aren't intimate with each other. We are just good
friends. He's handsome, though. Buff and macho-looking. Just like
me. Lately, we've been hanging out a lot. We go to the gym.
We go to the movies. He introduced me to his child and his baby
mama. Life is okay for him. He's so sure and comfortable with
himself. He's respected for what he does. He's the boss at work,
after all.


I feel like a chapter of my life is ending. I am still an MRA (Men's Rights
Activist) and I still fight for Father's Rights and all that. I still work for
SAFE and the DAHM or Domestic Abuse Helpline For Men. I have taken a break
from it, though. I hope I make it through my upcoming exams. I
think I might be falling for John. That's thrilling and scary. I don't like
the word 'gay'. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I still find women
attractive even though they scare me a bit since Wendy's betrayal.
I only want to hang around John now.


I will let you know the rest as it progresses.

 

[Etoile]

Kudos to you for talking to your parents about this, and for recognizing that it's time to make changes.

I think I might be falling for John. That's thrilling and scary. I don't like the word 'gay'. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I still find women attractive even though they scare me a bit since Wendy's betrayal. I only want to hang around John now.

I think this is a perfectly normal reaction. Being scared of women right now doesn't mean you're gay, or even bisexual, unless you feel that you are or might be. You don't need to rush to define yourself now, or clarify what you're looking for now. Take some time, take a step back. Take solace with those who comfort you.

 

[Never]

Hi. My name is Never. I'm a short, insane lesbian with a dyed blue Mohawk. I work at automotive supply shop on East Harlington with my boss, Jake. Jake is a 6 foot, five inch Italian man with wavy black hair. He's been working in the store now for three years and has an 8 inch cock on his 165 pound body. He wears these boot that he got at the Walmart on Rampart, or Wally Mart as they say in the Italian community. The boots are brown and leather. His dog, Dynamo, chewed them up. Dynamo is a 13-year-old Black Lab mix.

I'm really happy everything worked out for you.

 

[kbate]

Hi. My name is Never. I'm a short, insane lesbian with a dyed blue Mohawk. I work at automotive supply shop on East Harlington with my boss, Jake. Jake is a 6 foot, five inch Italian man with wavy black hair. He's been working in the store now for three years and has an 8 inch cock on his 165 pound body. He wears these boot that he got at the Walmart on Rampart, or Wally Mart as they say in the Italian community. The boots are brown and leather. His dog, Dynamo, chewed them up. Dynamo is a 13-year-old Black Lab mix.

I'm really happy everything worked out for you.

Never,

Please, he is excited and confused (in as much as the difficulties of being in love with a car salesman in a declining market may affect the average income level of his household, not to mention the long term possibilities of foreign hybrids and more fuel efficient (42mpg average) vehicles taking a portion of the market share) so it is understandable when he posts with ever so slightly more detail than is necessary to get the point (that his abusive ex-girlfriend was slapped on the wrist in court for her transgression against a minor, and he feels better now that he did his civic duty and is rid of the girl, even though the relationship with John is still a bit on the rocks and his parents are most understanding about something or other).

So, be nice.

kb.

 

[Stefani]

So, be nice.

kb.

Actually I thought she was quite nice. She said she was glad everything worked out for him. Nice little bit of satire, without being vicious.

 

[Etoile]

Hi. My name is Never. I'm a short, insane lesbian with a dyed blue Mohawk. I work at automotive supply shop on East Harlington with my boss, Jake. Jake is a 6 foot, five inch Italian man with wavy black hair. He's been working in the store now for three years and has an 8 inch cock on his 165 pound body. He wears these boot that he got at the Walmart on Rampart, or Wally Mart as they say in the Italian community. The boots are brown and leather. His dog, Dynamo, chewed them up. Dynamo is a 13-year-old Black Lab mix.

THE SCARY PART IS IT'S ALL TRUE

except for the part about the blue mohawk, it's actually pink.

 

[Johnny Rockets]

I'm just wondering what everyone's physical stats had to do with this story.

I dunno, but they sound impressive. I wonder how big his dick is...

 

[John Doe]

She's a skanky ho. Let her fry.

 

[Johnny Rockets]

She's a skanky ho. Let her fry.

That's let hoes FLY.

 

[Raimondin]

Incredible story. Sounds like it's time to move on.
Regardless, there is no condoning crimminal behavior, period.