Birthday Threesome.....

[Mountain Man]

My wife has promised me a Threesome...FMF... for my birthday in May...She is the one that has brought up the idea...and i am more than willing...

The problem is...she wants to pick the other woman...which i have no problem with....But she doesn't know how to go about finding someone...

How did those of you who have had a threesom go about finding the third person?

If and when it happens, I will gladly write a story that describes the experience.....

 

[SexyChele]

Well, the first thing would be to see if she has a friend who might be interested. But that can run into some major complications. For something like this, she probably wants some one you may or may not ever see again.

There are a number of online personals that are free that she can place ads at. A couple are www.adultfriendfinder.com (some say they don't have luck here, but I've met a couple of women here), and www.sexyads.com. There are others as well. I think one of the most difficult things to find is another woman to join a couple. I've been asked numerous times, and have always declined. But who knows? Your wife might get lucky.

She should expect that if she does meet a woman on line, she will probably want to get to know your wife, maybe even be with her one on one once or twice to see that everything "clicks". This would mean you would not be involved in anyway. Think you can deal with that? Most husbands/boyfriends can't. They usually want to at least "watch" - which most women know is impossible. Then, the other woman may want to meet you, see if things are okay there - that means meeting, no "action".

If you wife has been with another woman before, she will know how things work. Women to women usually go much slower than men to women. If your wife has never been with another woman before, I would strongly suggest she meet some one and be with her one on one first. That way the 2 women can discuss what the boundaries are, and just how far things will go.

You see, most men think they will have equal say in a FFM. In reality, it is the women who are in control and call the shots. The women set the boundaries and determine what will happen and what will not.

I wish you luck and a very happy birthday!

 

[Wave_Rider]

An Added Suggestion

Well, the first thing would be to see if she has a friend who might be interested. But that can run into some major complications. For something like this, she probably wants some one you may or may not ever see again.

There are a number of online personals that are free that she can place ads at. A couple are www.adultfriendfinder.com (some say they don't have luck here, but I've met a couple of women here), and www.sexyads.com. There are others as well. I think one of the most difficult things to find is another woman to join a couple. I've been asked numerous times, and have always declined. But who knows? Your wife might get lucky.

She should expect that if she does meet a woman on line, she will probably want to get to know your wife, maybe even be with her one on one once or twice to see that everything "clicks". This would mean you would not be involved in anyway. Think you can deal with that? Most husbands/boyfriends can't. They usually want to at least "watch" - which most women know is impossible. Then, the other woman may want to meet you, see if things are okay there - that means meeting, no "action".

If you wife has been with another woman before, she will know how things work. Women to women usually go much slower than men to women. If your wife has never been with another woman before, I would strongly suggest she meet some one and be with her one on one first. That way the 2 women can discuss what the boundaries are, and just how far things will go.

You see, most men think they will have equal say in a FFM. In reality, it is the women who are in control and call the shots. The women set the boundaries and determine what will happen and what will not.

I wish you luck and a very happy birthday!

Your advice is right one........however one added point.......There is one emotion that some "threesomes" experience.....and one to be protected against.........

Any form of JEALOUSY........it can flatten the whole experience...

Like any other aspect of a relationship......COMMUNICATION....and TRUST are key foundations....

Happy Birthday and enjoy......the experience

 

[SexyChele]

Re: An Added Suggestion

Your advice is right one........however one added point.......There is one emotion that some "threesomes" experience.....and one to be protected against.........

Any form of JEALOUSY........it can flatten the whole experience...

Like any other aspect of a relationship......COMMUNICATION....and TRUST are key foundations....

EXACTLY! MM, if your wife has never had a threesome before, all three of you will need to sit down and work out boundaries. This sounds akward and boring, but trust me, there are many stories of women jumping into 3somes with their husbands/boyfriends, only to discover they get very jealous when he starts to show any physical intimacy with another woman.

Yes, it is all great in fantasy. And the idea of driving your man crazy sometimes has more to do with having him watch 2 women together. It can get very uncomfortable and a little nasty if jealousy, even a little bit, rears its head.

Jealousy is not a necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes, it just can't be controlled as easily as we think. But it is important to keep it in mind. That is why, in my opinion, it is better for the 2 women to be together alone first. They build up a trust together, and a form of communicating with one another that doesn't involve words. Just a look from another woman can tell me if she feels I'm getting too close to an uncomfortable boundary for her, and I will back off. (Much to the surprise of a man - who doesn't know how in the world we are communicating!)

Thank you, Wave Rider, for reminding me of that!

 

[VelvetPants]

My wife has promised me a Threesome...FMF... for my birthday in May...She is the one that has brought up the idea...and i am more than willing...

First let me say that I'm very happy for you and extremely jealous (in a nice friendly way), and I'll do anything I can to help you bring it to reality.

The problem is...she wants to pick the other woman...which i have no problem with....But she doesn't know how to go about finding someone...

How did those of you who have had a threesom go about finding the third person?

I don't have a success story to tell you, but i've come close. If my wife was into it, I would consider this group a very valuable resource:
http://www.club-prive.com/about.html

They are based in Toronto (I think!?), but they probably have relationships with clubs in other cities. Maybe they can direct you to one, or maybe you can find one such club on your own.

The bi-girl-who-wants-to-have-a-threesome-with-a-couple is a rarer bird than most people realize, and the most sought-after. The swinging-couple-including-bi-wife might be more common?

Good luck,

-Velvet

 

[StarXChyld]

Resources

Mountain Man, may you have a very happy and sexy birthday. You're wife obviously loves you very much to give you such a gift.

Might I suggest http://alt.matchmaker.com/ You can get a trial membership there to see if you like it before signing up.

My husband and I have used the site to find woman that were interested in joining a couple. And contrary to what others have written here, I strongly suggest that you both meet with the person together the first time. The chemistry has to be there for all parties involved or it will not work. I'd also suggest setting up a dinner or lunch to meet with the lady first. No sex. Just talk. See how you all relate to each other. It also takes a little pressure off the X-tra lady, she won't feel like she's only being used for sexual purposes.

Another plus. . .you get to find out who she is. Is she a flake? Is she really only interested in being with your wife and not you? Is she some psycho that will come into your lives and never be willing to leave? Nasty things to think about, I know, but unless you meet first and act later, you could pay dearly.

Our first experience happened with a girlfriend of mine. It was the best and I still think about it all the time. Unfortunately, the friendship ended when she fell in love with my husband.

Lots to think about. . .Good Luck!