Birth control?

[PennLady]

Well yeah, I mean they gotta eat right?

Exactly. waste not, want not and all that.

 

[Dragonlipz]

Pills or condoms???

Condoms or pills? What's a boy to do? I took a pill once and didn't need a condom...but there was a condom that was a pill.....Bare is best but look out for the rest.........

 

[3113]

I don't want lessons in safe sex from my erotica.

I hardly think "He gloved up" is equal to a pamphlet on safe sex or a long-assed lecture on the consequences of not wearing a condom.

And I want my erotic to indicate how the characters think, not just how they fuck. Hence, those of my characters who think use condoms. But then, I tend to write stories for those who want to read actual stories, not merely jack-off scenes. Your milage and preference when it comes to what you want to read may vary.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I wrote an M/M story that hinged on one of the characters asking the other to do him bareback-- they'd been together two years, and been careful the whole time and it was safe for them and the question unleashed this flood of TRUE LOVE FEELINGS and I gave up on the story in disgust.

*blink blink*

 

[Cruel2BKind]

To answer the OP, I do mostly GM stuff, and mostly in sci-fi fantasy settings. For instance, in the future there is an incredibly expensive and painful series of shots that you can take to become immune from the most dangerous STDs, and it's given to the genetically engineered prostitutes (which make up the members of my future-distopia stories)

And in the past, there are no condoms. (that weren't made of sheepskin, and even those wouldn't be used between men)

With my modern stories, it differs. One series takes place in the seventies before the big AID's scare, so the two men bareback (although I put a disclaimer in the story explaining why they went bareback, and how much I do endorse condoms) In another, they never actually have anal sex, and in my upcoming nude day submission, they do use condoms.

As for my two straight stories...

One is in a fantasy setting and she fucks an infertile demon.

The other is in a historical setting and the man pulls out.

BC is never too much of an issue in historical pieces. It definitely DID happen, but when it did, it could be pretty horrifying. And VERY unsexy.

http://www.cracked.com/article_16039_historys-10-most-terrifying-contraceptives.html

 

[Boxlicker101]

I think I only have one story where the woman was on the pill, and that was about teenage lovers in the Sixties. In non-human stories, I never bother with condoms.

Otherwise, I make it a point for the (top) man to wear a condom for anal or vaginal sex. I don't usually bother for oral sex. Sometimes the woman or gay man puts it on for him, and sometimes he does it himself, but I always emphasize safe sex.

There's another point about wearing condoms too. Sometimes a woman likes to have her pussy eaten right after fucking, and cream pies make me a bit squicky, whether it's the guys own cum or another man's. This is not logical, because bisexuals often eat a pussy and suck a cock, swallowing the man's cum, but that's just the way I feel.

BTW, I have one fetish story about a man named "The Vampire." You can probably figure how he got that name. I've written about women in their menses, and that was no problem, because the guy just fucked her ass.

 

[mcguinness]

I hardly think "He gloved up" is equal to a pamphlet on safe sex or a long-assed lecture on the consequences of not wearing a condom.

And I want my erotic to indicate how the characters think, not just how they fuck. Hence, those of my characters who think use condoms. But then, I tend to write stories for those who want to read actual stories, not merely jack-off scenes. Your milage and preference when it comes to what you want to read may vary.

Is the implication here that because I don't particularly relish mentions of birth control in my erotica, I therefore only enjoy jack-off stories featuring unthinking characters? Because if that's your assumption, it's incorrect.

I'm sure I could make a bunch of defensive, uncharitable generalizations about your preferences, too, but I won't.

 

[oggbashan]

I mention dandruff in one of my stories.

That mention had positive feedback.

 

[scorallover]

I think of art as an escape, and erotica is an art, just as any creative writing is. Each writer will choose to approach their subject differently, and there is no right or wrong way. To be honest I have never even thought about my character's using a condom.

 

[topace]

I'm reading a series by Cronusthetitan about a ring that can overcome birth control and get a fertile woman pregnant. The man doesn't use a condom and I've found it to be pretty damn hot so far.

Personally, I don't mind a story where there's birth control mentioned (as long as it's quick and not a long discussion in the story - that's a turn-off!) or a condom, but if the condom breaks or is dilebrately (or accidently) torn before it goes on, I find that to be even more sexy cause it introduces the possibility of pregnancy even with a condom!

I love the idea of a possible pregnancy from unprotected sex. Probably that's due cause I expect sex to be between two willing partners, and not rape.

 

[Anomandaris]

TBH, in a modern/present day setting I have no problems with mentioning that a condom was put on. Especially if she puts it on with her mouth *HAWT!*.

In my series, there will be no condoms. My main charachter is a mage who controls conception with magic. And oddly enough, it's come up in a couple of forgotten Realms books, especially Elminster's Daughter, and for mages apparently, the spell is pretty commonplace.

 

[PennLady]

I think for me it's less about unintended pregnancy than it is about STDs. After all, as someone said, you can assume the woman is on the pill or a patch or whatever to prevent pregnancy. But that doesn't prevent STDs. Neither one is particularly erotic. Also, I've read a few stories where one step in the couple's commitment or trust is to not use a condom, which works for me.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

I think for me it's less about unintended pregnancy than it is about STDs. After all, as someone said, you can assume the woman is on the pill or a patch or whatever to prevent pregnancy. But that doesn't prevent STDs. Neither one is particularly erotic. Also, I've read a few stories where one step in the couple's commitment or trust is to not use a condom, which works for me.

Haven't done this quite yet, but it GM stories a good way to show trust and affection between a couple is if they don't have condoms, and they make sure not to have sex.

Sounds a little strange, but it really gives a character positive traits if he insists that they should just fool around until they can find condoms.

I've read a few stories by Robcub32 where the two characters DON'T have a condom but they decide to have sex anyway. I think that he means to show how much the main character trusts his partner, but this has always been my only pet peeve with that author. Unsafe sex, especially with a 'trust' issue involved, is very unsexy for me. There are just so many RL situations where somebody lies about if they've been tested, or if they are on birth control.

The only time that modern characters in GM should bareback (IMHO) is when they are longtime partners who are monogamous, loving, and tested.

 

[sr71plt]

Well, yes, in the real GM world, knowingly moving toward the situation of doing bareback symbolizes trust, a declaration of having kept clean, and a commitment to a monogymous relationship (when it isn't an entirely different, nonconsent or domination control, story entirely). A true GM reader will see and recognize the symbolism. Someone writing who isn't GM will confuse the real GM reader by writing in the attitude you do. So, you're actually writing GM for other women readers. (Which, yes, is usually the case with GM and is fine--it just isn't really in the gay world.)

I use protected sex when and as it supports deeper meanings in the story. I don't get clinical with it (unless it's a medical fantasy), because this is porn, and nothing bad happens to a character in a story that hasn't been written into the plot. If it serves the plot that a character has acquired an STD, I'll write it that way. It's all about the story and, since this is erotica, the erotic atmosphere for the characters/readers I'm targeting.

For instance, I'm writing in the difference between using skin and latex condoms in a 1920s novella I'm now writing to exhibit the difference between the wealth/position of the characters in the story (an American diplomat and a Russian count--whose classes used skin then) and sex scene they find themselves in (a sleezy hotel room in Constantinople--where the encounter was a surprise to both and only latex is available from the desk clerk). It's used to illustrate the difference between the world they came from and the world they are in. If I didn't want to use it this way, I wouldn't have mentioned the use of condoms either way.

In the last chapter of the novella, I'll have them come back together in a declaration of commitment--and that will be the only other time I'll mention protection in the novella. They won't use it, signifying a monogymous and happy ending forever more for them. I won't end the novella with "they lived happily ever after." The reader who is true GM will recognize they did by the barebacking (which, of course, will be the best sex they've had with anyone to date).

I don't employ condoms in a literary piece just to cater to the one-dimensional squeamish/clinical, nontargeted reader. I don't (knowingly) throw anything into a story that doesn't have a direct purpose in the story. So, if you read one of my stories, and I've employed comment on protection/lack of protection, look for what it symbolizes. Otherwise, the characters took care of that themselves offstage--just like they cleaned themselves up and brushed their teeth before--or in anticipation--or fortuitously--before engaging in sex.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Since some have thrown out questions about other aspects featured in stories (anal sex, double penetration, bisexual, just to name a few), how does the majority feel about birth control being mentioned?

I'd gotten a few negative comments on a couple of my older stories from a few years ago, so I wondering what other writers thought about the mention of birth control pills or the use of condoms.

If my characters are not married or in a committed relationship with one another, then there is usually a brief mention of birth control. In most cases, I default to the simple expedient of the woman using the pill. I don't like to use condoms in stories, but sometimes I will use the lack of a condom as a segue into an anal or oral climax. I have also used post-menopausal women in some stories, so birth control was not an issue.

I have used condoms in situations where condoms are de rigueur, such as amongst swingers.

 

[RodenAddison]

I mentioned that the woman in one of my stories was on the pill. She was a virgin.

http://www.literotica.com/s/the-evil-sock-fairy-strikes

It was more a comment on her degree of desperation.