Birth Control +/- Condoms...

[sexychik69]

Maybe this should go to the "How To" forum, but I know a lot more people here, so I'm gonna ask my question and hope for advice from the people I trust more.

Most of you know that my sweetie is visiting in March... well, he wants me to be on birth control, which is fine (as long as I don't gain back my 10 pounds I've already lost! lol) but the problem is that he still wants to wear a condom while we have sex.

I know birth control isn't 100%, neither is a condom because there can be tears, it can slip off, etc. He's wanting to be EXTRA careful, and use a condom AND me be on birth control pills at the same time, which is responsible, I know.

But he's told me that the main reason is because he's so scared, since he was younger it's been drilled into his head "NEVER without a condom, NEVER without birth control or you'll 100% have a kid!!!!!" basically, which isn't what I want at all, I'm WAY too young for that at this point in my life.

The thing is that I really would like to experience him even just ONCE without a condom, I want him to feel it and I want to feel it as well... I know that most women can't even tell the difference (I honestly can't really), but it's just the fact that he won't even come near my pussy without one on. He won't rub his cock on my pussy lips, he won't let me rub his cum on my lips or ANYWHERE near my pussy, I think he's even nervous about cumming in my ass because it might drip into my pussy. I understand all of these fears, yes, but is there any way that I can (sensitively) reassure him that it would be okay at least just once?

It's more of an emotional thing with me, I really want to experience him in that way because I don't know when I will again after March, and I don't want us to look back and have to say we never FELT each other in the way that a woman and a man is meant to.

Any advice? Anything... I don't know how to talk to him about this.

*Sorry this is so long, but you have no idea how much it means that you read it (((((hugs)))))*

 

[Darla_Darling]

Maybe this should go to the "How To" forum, but I know a lot more people here, so I'm gonna ask my question and hope for advice from the people I trust more.

Most of you know that my sweetie is visiting in March... well, he wants me to be on birth control, which is fine (as long as I don't gain back my 10 pounds I've already lost! lol) but the problem is that he still wants to wear a condom while we have sex.

I know birth control isn't 100%, neither is a condom because there can be tears, it can slip off, etc. He's wanting to be EXTRA careful, and use a condom AND me be on birth control pills at the same time, which is responsible, I know.

But he's told me that the main reason is because he's so scared, since he was younger it's been drilled into his head "NEVER without a condom, NEVER without birth control or you'll 100% have a kid!!!!!" basically, which isn't what I want at all, I'm WAY too young for that at this point in my life.

The thing is that I really would like to experience him even just ONCE without a condom, I want him to feel it and I want to feel it as well... I know that most women can't even tell the difference (I honestly can't really), but it's just the fact that he won't even come near my pussy without one on. He won't rub his cock on my pussy lips, he won't let me rub his cum on my lips or ANYWHERE near my pussy, I think he's even nervous about cumming in my ass because it might drip into my pussy. I understand all of these fears, yes, but is there any way that I can (sensitively) reassure him that it would be okay at least just once?

It's more of an emotional thing with me, I really want to experience him in that way because I don't know when I will again after March, and I don't want us to look back and have to say we never FELT each other in the way that a woman and a man is meant to.

Any advice? Anything... I don't know how to talk to him about this.

*Sorry this is so long, but you have no idea how much it means that you read it (((((hugs)))))*

Well, the fact is, any time you ever have sex there's always going to be some slight degree of risk (of disease and/or pregnancy), just like every time you get into a car there's a chance you could have an accident and be seriously injured or die.

The modern contraceptive pill is so effective that the chances of failure are extremely negligible. As long as you follow the instructions to the letter, take it the same time every day, and be extremely careful about not taking any other drugs or herbal remedies that might have a negative affect on its efficacy, you should be perfectly safe from pregnancy. If you have both had recent STD tests that have come up clean and you have been consistently taking the pill for at least two weeks, I don't see why it should be a problem.

I suppose what the real issue is here is that you are having a communication problem with your boyfriend. I think you should definitely bring this up before you have sex with him.

 

[sexychik69]

Well, the fact is, any time you ever have sex there's always going to be some slight degree of risk (of disease and/or pregnancy), just like every time you get into a car there's a chance you could have an accident and be seriously injured or die.

The modern contraceptive pill is so effective that the chances of failure are extremely negligible. As long as you follow the instructions to the letter, take it the same time every day, and be extremely careful about not taking any other drugs or herbal remedies that might have a negative affect on its efficacy, you should be perfectly safe from pregnancy. If you have both had recent STD tests that have come up clean and you have been consistently taking the pill for at least two weeks, I don't see why it should be a problem.

I suppose what the real issue is here is that you are having a communication problem with your boyfriend. I think you should definitely bring this up before you have sex with him.

Thank you so much for your post... that really helped me knowing that at least one person can think like I do.

Copied this thread to the "How To" forum and I sincerely regret it, everyone there is too busy defending him for even wanting to use a condom when that's not the help I asked for... if you're not going to help the problem I said that I had then don't post at all. Thankfully I can just blame it on being a forum where no one knows me and they're just going with their instincts about me, rather than just calling them insensitive assholes.

Again, thank you for your post... it helped me realize that I'm not insane at wanting to share myself with my boyfriend.

 

[Glorified_G]

I agree it seems like a communication issue, you should definitely tell your guy how you feel. If it is still something that freaks him out maybe you guys can compromise and start without a condom on, and put it on part way through or just before he finishes.

 

[sexychik69]

I agree it seems like a communication issue, you should definitely tell your guy how you feel. If it is still something that freaks him out maybe you guys can compromise and start without a condom on, and put it on part way through or just before he finishes.

I like the idea of that... that way he can still be inside me for a little while... maybe something like he could fuck me for a few minutes without one on, then I can suck on him, then before he goes back inside we can put a condom on.

Great idea, thank you, I'll run that by him.

 

[tash87]

just thought id scare your boyfriend a bit more lol but im 19 and at 17 i fell pregnant, the irony is i was on contrecption and we used condoms, talk bout unlucky but the only 100% way not to get pregnant is not to have sex