BIL too often? recommendation request

[NewFrontier]

Wife's brother (57 year old) lives in an apartment 6 hours away in a small town. He does not have a GF and maintains a nomadic lifestyle visiting friends in other cities staying several days before returning home. Just board I guess.
He started coming to visit us every 4-5 weeks when passing though staying several days each time. I am fine with a couple of times a year, but not monthly or even quarterly. I mentioned this to the wife last time he stayed over (two weeks ago) and of course it turned into an argument. Yesterday I was informed (with dates) he will be back in a few weeks. How do I politely close our bed-and-breakfast and stop the routine visits?

 

[_Rapier_]

How much do you hate your BIL vs. How much do you love your wife? Are his visits detrimental to your home or do you just resent his lifestyle?

 

[NewFrontier]

I do not hate him at all, just a bit annoying. I love my wife and want to accommodate. Some of her other family members and siblings come to stay with us as well. Six or seven times this year already, usually 2 days at a time. I see a pattern beginning with BIL and want to stop it before it becomes the routine.

 

[Noor]

I do not hate him at all, just a bit annoying. I love my wife and want to accommodate. Some of her other family members and siblings come to stay with us as well. Six or seven times this year already, usually 2 days at a time. I see a pattern beginning with BIL and want to stop it before it becomes the routine.

Are you going to try to stop all other relatives doing the same thing?
What does your wife say?
Unfortunately people don’t just marry a person, you marry their family
You say you want to accommodate her, but really you don’t.
I’m assuming the house is hers too.
at 6-7 times this year, it’s already routine. When my brothers show up that often it is because there is something wrong, either with them and they haven’t gotten around to telling anyone or they suspect something is wrong with my living situation and they are being protective/over protective.
If it’s just that you don’t like being around him, take up fishing, camping, ice fishing and be elsewhere.

 

[patient1]

I'd be glad you got advanced notice. Quarterly doesn't seem unreasonable to me.

 

[FL30]

Ask Dear Abbey she might have a better answer

 

[ZfrkS62]

Maybe time a weekend fishing trip to coincide with his visit. Leave her alone with her brother long enough and they'll get in a fight.