Bigfoot, Aliens aaaand Top Drop?

[twysted73]

I know, amazing group of things heard of but never seen or actually captured on tape.
But yes, believe it or not, we miss you too.
And how could we not? The attentiveness, the submission, the responsability and control over another's will and happiness. Having them at your beck and call when there's time made for it.

I want this open. But I don't want just the subs coming out to express their thoughts. No no no.

Crack that glower and drop the iron curtain a moment you Dominants.
I want to know what your thoughts are here. What it does, how it effects you, how slowly or quickly does it hit you?

And.....most importantly.........how do you deal? I have a vested interest at the moment.

Hold.....hold...and GO

 

[YourCaptor]

ehhh... what is it?

Depression?

Bad mood?

Fainting?

Total frustration wondering if she will ever learn

 

[twysted73]

I know I'm making light of this. But that's because it's real at the moment.
The thread's been up for under 24 and it's being avoided like the plague.
Either it's too sensative a subject or.....i have no idea.

Depression.
Sense of emptiness, loss, you know the deal.
Not easy to admit. It's more like a weakness and I know others feel it.
They just don't want to talk about it. Like abuse in the family.
It's there...just not talked about.

 

[Netzach]

The same way we tell them to. Movies, music, massage, meditation, building your model trains, a cocktail (just one) and a stupid song, whatever puts a smile on your face.

Go listen to the track "Hey Pocky-A-Way" by the Meters and I defy any human to feel bad with that brass line.

 

[catalina_francisco]

The thread's been up for under 24 and it's being avoided like the plague.
Either it's too sensative a subject or.....i hate no idea.

Don't sweat, it is probably a combination of fewer PYL types here and that there was a thread recently on it, and there have been a couple of discussions before that...and that it is the weekend and a lot of people are likely busy.

Catalina

 

[intothewoods]

Part of why I didn't post is that I don't think there's anything magical about Top Drop. It's just an ordinary emotional drop after a whole lot of buildup. Same with sub drop, only that seems to sometimes include the drop after endorphine highs.

BDSM tends to lend itself to lots of emotional highs and lows, for a variety of reasons, but in essence, what you feel is the same as that crash after finals, or after a big presentation at work. Same deal.

Take care of yourself, treat yourself to something nice, go see a funny movie, hang out with friends, etc.

 

[TeachMeSir]

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[SweetGigi]

Yeah, what SS says. Simmer brother D.

You are a strong like bull sorta boy and you don't need to feel guilty for this intensity of feelings. I'll have a certain German come in here in a bit (he's packing the kitchen up as we speak while I come off a cleaning solvent high) and give you what ever advice he has.

In the mean time, bradda, give her a call and tell her how much you love her and I promise it will all be ok soon.

 

[Her_Corruptor]

I really don't know your story or the circumstances surrounding the separation from your property, however I can assure you that if you make yourself busy and are in constant contact with her/him you will be just fine. I know I will endure a certain amount of drop, is that what you called it, when I leave for CA, but I also know even though miles separate us she is mine, I am hers and we are connected in ways that no one can tear asunder. We are just a plane trip away. And if it gets too much for us to be apart so much she will move to San Fransico to be with me 24/7.

I can imagine it is hard, yes, this separation. But you need to ground yourself in knowing that it is not permanent. Well, it is only as permanent as you make it.

 

[twysted73]

'preciate the input.

Not easy admitting any of this.
My MO is to take it off into the woods like a sick animal and fix it myself.

~ Slainte`.

 

[TeachMeSir]

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[YourCaptor]

I will join you all... ... just because I like to drink.

As for advice, take it as is, then bend it to your will. Usually works.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I know, amazing group of things heard of but never seen or actually captured on tape.
But yes, believe it or not, we miss you too.
And how could we not? The attentiveness, the submission, the responsability and control over another's will and happiness. Having them at your beck and call when there's time made for it.

I want this open. But I don't want just the subs coming out to express their thoughts. No no no.

Crack that glower and drop the iron curtain a moment you Dominants.
I want to know what your thoughts are here. What it does, how it effects you, how slowly or quickly does it hit you?

And.....most importantly.........how do you deal? I have a vested interest at the moment.

Hold.....hold...and GO

I asked Sir if he experiences the feelings of what us Subs call Sub Drop/ Or missing or PYL.. he says I never like to leave your side but I know soon enough we will be together again... WE chose this road when we decided to go into a LDR, He says he doesnt think he experiences half as much as us subs do but he does miss me when we are apart or after a particularly long visit.... So Twysted, I know what your feeling and I can only imagine cause your sub is one hell of a girl... and I think even if I never met her Id miss her....

I think you're coping perectly.

I liken drop to coming home from a holiday. You just spent a week in the sun with the surf and sand, sleeping in, making love, drinking cocktails with little umberellas in them. You had no cares or responsibilities. Ate when you wanted to, experienced different things, connected on a level you don't get to when "life" gets in the way. And sure, there is rush that come from BDSM.

Then all of a sudden you are back in the real world. Bags to unpack, bills to pay, a schedule to keep, responsibilities to others and in this case that someone you shared your time with a long way away.

Sure, you are recharged from your mini-break, ready to face life again, but somtimes you just wish yoou could have stayed where you were. But that's not life. After too long a break you start to miss your schedule. It's not that you've had enough of the holiday, but you miss yoru friends at home, miss your purpose in life. And it's the same with BDSM. Sure, some can live in a 24/7 relationship. Or can be in a D/S relationship that also included friendship & partnership. But you can't "play" 24/7. The personas are just too intense to maintain.

So, look at the photos, talk to anyone who will listen, cherish it all, and drag it out as best you can. Just like you have been.

This couldnt have been said better TMS... I know exactly what this feels like.. I know this last trip I felt as if we were on vacation and we had such a good time and now is the time to go back to work and work tword our next visit.. Which thankfully should only be about a month away again.. Ive been so blessed this year with travel for work and travel for my group... Soooooo TMS you rock! cause you worded it so eloquently and beautifully... You are so loved TMS! you really are...