Big-up Your Best Friend

[NoJo]

My best friend is The Fat Man.

He's fifteen years younger than me, closer in age to my kids than to me.

A few years ago I helped him through a really difficult time when he decided to quit his bullying and overbearing father's business, and become a professional musician.

He was completely ostracised by his disfunctional family for this.

Three years ago he helped me through my laughable mid-life crisis, calling me a cunt when necessary. He's the only guy who knows I write here.

He's hugely overweight. He started putting on weight when his beautiful waif-like French girlfriend dumped him many years ago.

He now weighs around 300 lbs.

He's by far the funniest person I know, and a razor-sharp critic of my serious stories.

He started seeing a woman a few months ago. He hadn't been laid in years before that. I told him his weight would start coming down as soon as he broke his dry spell.

Well, he's getting laid, and he's lost two pounds in three months. But he doesn't give a shit. He's happy. And so am I.

Big-Up to the Fat Man.

 

[SensualCealy]

Joe,
This is one of the nices posts Ive ever read of yours!

It is amazing how you all of a sudden feel good about yourself when someone else feels good about you!

I think subcontiously you start thinking and acting in a better way because you want this uphoria (sp- Im horrible at spelling) to continue.

Many of us that are over weight, dont care, or have enough bagage to put our weight on the back burner as long as we can control other things in our life. Out of all the things that are bad for you, eating is the only disorder you cant quit cold turkey! Well you can but you would be worse off. lol

The more active his new friend is, the more active he will get. And the more she loves him for who he is , not what he is, the better he will do!

All my best to the Big Guy!
C

 

[elsol]

GO BIG GUY!!!

ElSol

 

[Guest]

My best friend is a dick. I just wrote an ode to him, for Valentine's day. I'll be submitting it soon. Eerily, I call the dick "Big Fat One". I love that dick.

Lou

P.S. Big Up to The Fat Man, glad you've got such a great mate, Joe.

 

[English Lady]

Yeah good friends always deserve toasting -Way to go The Fat Man!

 

[NoJo]

Just wanted to add that women have always found The Fat Man sexy, because of his generosity, sense of humour and charm. The only problem he had was that he was afraid of being laughed at when they saw him naked. Glad he got over it.

 

[rimmy]

good for him. fat guys need lovin' too

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

Everyone needs friends, real friends, like that, who are there when you need them and for whom you can be there when they need you.

Better still when they're moral symbols as well.

Cherish 'im, while you got 'im Joe.

And good on 'im to find someone not caught up on the vain trappings of superficial societal value systems and is willing to love the person instead of their temporary body structure.

 

[NoJo]

Mind you, I wouldn't like to be underneath the guy...


...scrub that, I need to think about it some more....

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Big ups to Carson, my best friend of seventeen years. Holy cow, we've been friends so long, I can't remember what my life was like without him in it. We've been through some shit, together and separately. No matter what we went through, we were never alone. His constant love and support is unequaled in my life.

 

[BlackShanglan]

Well done for the Fat Man. And brilliant work, Joe. By the time I was done reading your post, I wished I could meet him.

Shanglan

 

[impressive]

Yay for Joe's pal. I love the empowerment.

Big-up for my bestest buddy who -- from over 150 miles away -- still manages to catch me in her loving arms when I fall (and I pay her back by tying her to a tree in my latest tale). But seriously, a toast to all the wonderful best friends in our lives!

 

[shereads]

Big up. That's like props and high fives?

 

[shereads]

My best friend needs a better friend. She lost her daughter to suicide last year without warning or explanation, hours after laughing together on the phone. No sleeping pills for this girl; no it was brutal, bloody and guaranteed to give nightmares to the people who witnessed it and the ones who are left to imagine what it must have been like. Despite my best intentions, I've been too cowardly to provide the support she needs. I've never witnessed such grief. Beyond words, beyond friendship, beyond understanding. Just picking up the phone, coming in contact with her guilt and bewilderment, feels like putting my hand in fire. So we drift apart. And god forgive me, I feel relieved.

Edited to add: I know it's why I'm here so much. I can make friends whose support comes from the real world. I can turn you off and walk away, as you can from me. I've cut myself off from most people in r/l since Nina's death. I used to think you couldn't have too much love in your life, even when its inevitable end is loss. I'm not so sure anymore.

 

[impressive]

My best friend needs a better friend. She lost her daughter to suicide last year without warning or explanation, hours after laughing together on the phone. No sleeping pills for this girl; no it was brutal, bloody and guaranteed to give nightmares to the people who witnessed it and the ones who are left to imagine what it must have been like. Despite my best intentions, I've been too cowardly to provide the support she needs. I've never witnessed such grief. Beyond words, beyond friendship, beyond understanding. Just picking up the phone, coming in contact with her guilt and bewilderment, feels like putting my hand in fire. So we drift apart. And god forgive me, I feel relieved.

Edited to add: I know it's why I'm here so much. I can make friends whose support comes from the real world. I can turn you off and walk away, as you can from me. I've cut myself off from most people in r/l since Nina's death. I used to think you couldn't have too much love in your life, even when its inevitable end is loss. I'm not so sure anymore.

Fuck, this is heart breaking!

 

[BlackShanglan]

Could you go as far as mailing her the post, shereads?

It might help.

It's easier for people to understand pain and even fear than to feel that they've been abandoned - especially for her, in a time of terrible need.

I know I'm not telling you anything you don't know. But do think on it. It might help you as well.

Shanglan

 

[Guest]

Fuck, this is heart breaking!

Yes, incredibly.

Sher, I hope you aren't beating yourself up. I completely understand what you said in your edit, btw.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

My best friend needs a better friend. She lost her daughter to suicide last year without warning or explanation, hours after laughing together on the phone. No sleeping pills for this girl; no it was brutal, bloody and guaranteed to give nightmares to the people who witnessed it and the ones who are left to imagine what it must have been like. Despite my best intentions, I've been too cowardly to provide the support she needs. I've never witnessed such grief. Beyond words, beyond friendship, beyond understanding. Just picking up the phone, coming in contact with her guilt and bewilderment, feels like putting my hand in fire. So we drift apart. And god forgive me, I feel relieved.

She doesn't need a better friend. (I honestly doubt there's a better friend to be had.) She needs you to grieve with her, together or apart, and know that she's not the only one that saw a much bigger picture that day and every day following.



~~~

Gonna toss in a Big-Up of my own for Shereads, who's been there for me many times over the last year. Helping me see the little things for what they really were and helping me laugh my ass off at the big things and know that they too would pass.



~lucky

 

[gotwood49]

She doesn't need a better friend. (I honestly doubt there's a better friend to be had.) She needs you to grieve with her, together or apart, and know that she's not the only one that saw a much bigger picture that day and every day following.




~lucky

Very nicely put, lucky. I was just considering what I could possibly say to sher to put her mind at ease when I refreshed, and saw your post. That's the best thing about this thread...you people are so giving to each other. You really care.

God, I wish I had more time to get better aquainted with you guys, rather than just dashing in and reading some of your posts, and then having to throw out a line or two and then dash back out again. Someday...

This is a good thread. Keep it up. There a number of you that I'd like to big-up, but I don't have enough personal history with you to be so bold. I can only thank those that were there for me when I needed friends. You know who you are.


Woody

 

[carsonshepherd]

Big ups to Carson, my best friend of seventeen years. Holy cow, we've been friends so long, I can't remember what my life was like without him in it. We've been through some shit, together and separately. No matter what we went through, we were never alone. His constant love and support is unequaled in my life.

*sniff*

Was thinking about it today. No one else knows me so well... no lover, no family member, NOBODY. I'm glad of you...

 

[OhMissScarlett]

*sniff*

Was thinking about it today. No one else knows me so well... no lover, no family member, NOBODY. I'm glad of you...

I promised myself I wouldn't be all weepy today. I'm glad of you too, Mr.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

My best friend

Died a year ago next month. She supported me, carried me, loved me unconditionally and without her I have felt lost and adrift on a sea of despair. She was my mother, partner in crime and boss.

It seems to me that not everyone is blessed with friendships like those mentioned in this thread so for those of you that are...cherish the people you have in your lives, you never know when they will be gone.

 

[doormouse]

*hugs* to shereads.

Just going to add, what a great thread.

 

[carsonshepherd]

Re: My best friend

Died a year ago next month. She supported me, carried me, loved me unconditionally and without her I have felt lost and adrift on a sea of despair. She was my mother, partner in crime and boss.

It seems to me that not everyone is blessed with friendships like those mentioned in this thread so for those of you that are...cherish the people you have in your lives, you never know when they will be gone.

Try to, every day.... so sorry for your loss. Friends love without reservation, and distance and death mean nothing.