big question for the bi females out there.

[Humandildo4u]

ok i am wondering what peoples thoughts are on a people that have more then one full time lover.


what i mean here is like 1 guy and 2 girls living together as a perminit "couple".

i personally feel that if you are bi and have enough love for 2 people then it is ok if no one else in that group of 3 minds.


this is the kind of situation i want to be in , in my life. i feel there is nothign wrong with this and i know some will say i am a pig for it but why not i mean wouldnt it be better to have 2 people fully inlove with you then just one?

 

[Humandildo4u]

ok no comment about this or was this something i shouldnt of brought up here?

 

[CreamyButtercup]

It would never work. Have you not read the case studies on this. The only thing the women would need you for is to clean and cook for them and maybe wash their feet on occasions. They would end up making you a house bitch and you would hate them in the end for it.

 

[Betticus]

That's a good point but he might just love that arrangement.

 

[John Doe]

It would never work. Have you not read the case studies on this. The only thing the women would need you for is to clean and cook for them and maybe wash their feet on occasions. They would end up making you a house bitch and you would hate them in the end for it.

I didn't know this had actually been studied in depth. Do you have any links?

 

[Humandildo4u]

well i kinda look at it this way anything could happen in any sort of a relationship.


i could very easily find 1 woman and live with her for life and be the more of a stay at home guy. besides this is not always bad if the female can make more money then the man and the man will stay home and clean.


and yes i have nothing agianst cleaning .......just not getting in a maids outfit lol

 

[John Doe]

That's a good point but he might just love that arrangement.

Also a good point, considering the user name.

I get the impression though that he wants love to be involved as well. One of the important things in any relationship of course is communication, but particularly so with more than two people.

An agreement primarily based on sex or an arrangement of convenience is okay as long as all parties are clear on that. Otherwise someone is likely to get hurt or at least disappointed.

 

[Humandildo4u]

i could see that as well. but then agian isnt that what all relationships have the chance of doing? and yes i was meaning in love as well not just a one night affair or something that happens at different times with different people. i am meaning a full long term live in thign with 2 women and 1 guy.




oh and the user name was made up as a joke but then i kinda forgot what my other name was so im stuck with this one for now till i make a new one.

 

[CreamyButtercup]

I didn't know this had actually been studied in depth. Do you have any links?

I am Mormon. All the study I needed. I will try and come up with some links though at another time. Tired and ready for bed.

 

[SweetDommes]

It would never work. Have you not read the case studies on this. The only thing the women would need you for is to clean and cook for them and maybe wash their feet on occasions. They would end up making you a house bitch and you would hate them in the end for it.

I have to disagree with this - my girlfriend and I live this with our boy ... and we are bringing in a second boy.... some people enjoy being "a house bitch".

 

[Betticus]

I have to disagree with this - my girlfriend and I live this with our boy ... and we are bringing in a second boy.... some people enjoy being "a house bitch".

That's why I said that he might like it.

 

[SweetDommes]

I know Betticus ... just giving some personal info ... it can work, it has worked for others, and it will work for people in the future.

However, as a side note that I didn't think of when I posted before because I was 1/2 asleep...

humandildo - if that is what you are seeking, and that is all you are seeking and you exclude all other options, you probably aren't going to find it. The fact that Holly and I were looking for submissive males to live with us is pretty unusual. Most f/f couples who want a submissive want femsubs ... in fact, I've noticed that the number of single Dommes wanting males seems to be outnumbered by those wanting females. It's a matter of statistics and the odds jump from difficult to nearly impossible. And also keep in mind that if you do find a f/f couple who likes you and wants you to move in with them, they are likely to have more than just you living with them (like with us ... we have two boys living with us... or we will really soon). Set-ups like this are rare, and if you are expecting to be an "only boy" it's going to rule out another 3/4 of the ones who might be what you are looking for. Even if you are an "only boy" for them, they may ask you to be bi as well ... and how do you feel about that? These are all things that you need to think about and remember as you are looking. I'm sure there are others, but I'm still a bit sleepy *yawns*.

Miss Karen

 

[Betticus]

I agree, the odds are astronomically against this kind of thing working out. Especially for a long term relationship. I do think that it's possible to be in love with more than one person but for everyone to feel the same about the others? That is a tough call.

Now, you girls are different since you are a couple with subs. There isn't the kind of three way total mutual love that this guy was intimating that he wants. You have more options. Not that I know anything about your personal life, just thinking of it from the perspective of a dom.

I can see a m/f/f three way working if the male is the Dominant and the two fems are subs. It would still be tough to make it work for the long term.

 

[SweetDommes]

Now, you girls are different since you are a couple with subs. There isn't the kind of three way total mutual love that this guy was intimating that he wants.

Actually, that is exactly what it is (except that it's 4 people, and tj & rob are just friends ... they will probably remain such). Holly and I love each other completely, we both love both of our boys just as much, and they love us as well.

 

[rakastuja]

I have heard such 'threesome relationships' exists. However I have serious doubts how well they work in long run. Its hard to find two persons that fit together for long relationship, how hard it is then to find a third one who fits with those two other persons?

I wouldnt go on judging though. It may have unequality, pitfalls or such but as long as its ok with all people involved, there's nothing wrong.

I dont think I could myself handle all possible jealousy and such that may arouse in that kind of relationship...

 

[SweetDommes]

Making it work takes a certain mindset, definately ... and not everyone can do it. The big thing is that it takes a LOT of communication (which we admittedly have trouble with sometimes, mostly due to the fact that one of us works evenings, one of us works nights, and the other two both work days - don't always have time when we are awake at the same time).

 

[Betticus]

Actually, that is exactly what it is (except that it's 4 people, and tj & rob are just friends ... they will probably remain such). Holly and I love each other completely, we both love both of our boys just as much, and they love us as well.

Well, I had that one all wrong. Sorry for the assumption.

 

[SweetDommes]

Well, I had that one all wrong. Sorry for the assumption.

Hey, you don't know until you ask/are told ... but that is what we have always advertised that we want, simply by virtue of the fact that we want them to live with us, and we want it to be permanent. To live with someone for the rest of your/their lives ... you have to at least be friends with them.

 

[mystic_maiden32]

my husbband and I had another man living with us. It worked out fine. He knew his limitations, there were ocassions when he would sleep in our bed all night after the fun, other times he didn't. You just have to set down guidelines.

 

[aarons_goddess2003]

ok i am wondering what peoples thoughts are on a people that have more then one full time lover.


what i mean here is like 1 guy and 2 girls living together as a perminit "couple".

i personally feel that if you are bi and have enough love for 2 people then it is ok if no one else in that group of 3 minds.


this is the kind of situation i want to be in , in my life. i feel there is nothign wrong with this and i know some will say i am a pig for it but why not i mean wouldnt it be better to have 2 people fully inlove with you then just one?

I dont see anything wrong with it...personally I could never do it, I mean I wouldnt mind having a GF with benifits, but I dont think me or aaron could handle loving another person at the same time...I think jelousy can play a big issue here if you dont spend enough time with one or the other. But I have heard of people who are in these kinds of relationships enjoying every minute of it and they love each person equally. I just think it depends on your own personal mind, I mean could you handle it mentally? like not getting enough attention as you'd like or feelings changing once your lover starts loving someone else, even tho you do too. I dont know I could probably go on and on, but sometimes I dont make sense when I type at 8:15 in the morning

 

[Etoile]

Google for "polyamory" and you will find that there is a whole damn lot of information out there about exactly this.