Big-breasted women

[StrongMaster7]

Full disclosure: Yes, this is a transparent attempt on the part of a 49 year old married guy to corrrespond or chat with some women in a way that feeds into his fetish.

But it is also an attempt by a multi-story published author here on Literotica to get inside the mind of the ladies that fascinate me so. I am hoping that any women ( I know what men think.) with thoughts on the matter would respond on this thread or my sending me a message.

What are your thoughts on having big breasts (or not having them)? How do you feel about the attention they/you get? How conscious are you of them when you go out? Do you use them to get favorable treatment in social situations? (not overtly, but by allowing a glimpse, etc.) How much a part of your sexual history and current sex life are your breasts? How do you feel about smaller breasts? Do you wish your breasts were different?

As you can see, this is something I have given a good deal of thought to. Read my stories and feedback. It really pleased me that some ladies, even some lesbians complimented my stories about breastfeeding. It seems that women are taught to be less than proud of being big breasted. There is a fair bit of shame about the attention they attract. But, on the other hand, there are millions of breast augmentations done each year.

So, any ladies who want to get into this subject please chime in!

 

[BedtimeStories77]

...it is also an attempt by a multi-story published author here on Literotica to get inside the mind of the ladies that fascinate me so...

So, you write stories on this site about large breasted women?

What are your thoughts on having big breasts (or not having them)?

I am a 38C and don't like 'em. I love small breasts on other women and wish mine were smaller.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Yes, I do write about busty women. I find all body-types exciting, depending on the mind inside. But, I have always been drawn to busty women and I think others are too.

May I ask why you don't like having larger breasts? Is it a practical matter? Is it a question of unwanted attention? What about wanted attention?

And what attracts you to smaller breasted women? Is it an athletic, fitness thing?

I have imagined a female character who uses her big bustline to attract the men she wants, to get favors, to snub and humiliate her foes. But I would like to reflect feelings that real women might have. I know that may seem a stretch but search on my authorname and read the stories.

 

[emap]

Large breasts are hard on your back, you will always be getting catcalls leers and whistles. Which are nice when you are feeling ugly or unwanted any other time are mostly an annoyance.

Big breasts get you waited on quickly, or slowly if say you are in a fast food place and everybody stops to stare. Going shopping a basic rule of thumb is the larger your breasts the more you wear so you can actually shop, jackets and sweaters are very handy for this.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I hear you. Your practical observations are noted. It is ironic that the rude sexual stares act to inhibit the women at whom they are directed. So the rude guys just insure that most women will grow up so self-conscious and are less available to them.

You have highlighted the negative aspects of having big breasts. Are there any positives? Aren't they useful for attracting the men you DO want? Being noticed isn't always negative, is it?

And so many women want to be bigger. Pay to be bigger at some risk. Yet, so many big-breasted ladies wish they were smaller. So what is the ideal size?

(We could have a parallel discussion about penis size.)

 

[ketalia]

Okay, so I reread this before hitting post and I'm afraid it sounds ranty. But I don't mean it to. I'm not angry or bitter or upset at anyone. But I've thought about the Great Breast Obsession a lot. And this what I think...

(We could have a parallel discussion about penis size.)

I don't think we could, actually, because penis size isn't as obvious as breast size is.

I have large breasts and would get them smaller if I could afford it. When I had insurance they wouldn't pay for a reduction until I could demonstrate that I was at least 60 percent disabled by them. So I either had to demonstrate sufficient breast related emotional distress (via depression or whatever) or wait until the spinal arthritis between my shoulder blades is almost completely debilitating. I've heard that it's not so bad now, that it's nearly as easy to get an reduction covered by insurance as it is to get an enhancement.

Which brings me to yet another weird medical double standard re breastages. It's easier to get implants than a reduction covered by insurances. As a society, we have a huge weird fixation with the female breast. It's almost like breasts are necessary for a woman to function. I've heard small breasted woment lament their perceived invisibility and one of the first things asked from a breast cancer survivor is when they're going to get them "fixed". And that sucks as bad as my back pain does after a long day at work in my "most supportive" bra.

You mention above that it's the rude behavior of boors that makes large breasts unavailable to the general public and ask if there's any upside to using your breasts to attract attention. There isn't for me because well, it's like this. I am more than a life support system for my DDs. If the first thing a man notices about me are my breasts, then I'm not interested in him. I get the feeling sometimes with some of these guys, if they could take my breasts home without me and just dive right in, they would. That's not attractive to me. I mean, yes, my breasts are a big part of me, but that is merely physical. I am more than my DDs.

Which is why I don't use them to get things. Give me decent service because I am a human being, not because I have DDs. Help me out with a flat tire because it's the decent thing to do, not because I have DDs. Talk to me, not my boobs. Seriously, if I were able to use my breasts to get a man to notice me otherwise do what I want, I would think less of him. And of myself.

On the other side, I like breasts too! I like them all sizes, all shapes. So I can see where the attraction lies. But I don't have any body part on a man or woman that is so important to me. You could have the nicest, fattest cock in the world and if you were a jerk (generic you, not the OP or anyone in specific) then your bodacious cock is irrelevent. Same things with breasts. You could have the most beautiful, softest, silkiest breasts in the world with the best nipples ever. If you're a real bitch, it just dries my pussy right up.

Strong, I did take a few moments to scan some of your stories and for the most part, I did like the ones I saw. I like that you're able to revere The Breast without being horrible about it. You seem to respect them as well as lust over them.

 

[coquettish]

Mine are big, dd-e depending on the bra. I have a love hate relationship with them. I love that I don't have to accessorise too much with necklaces and the like. I love (mostly) the attention, I love watching guys turn into dribbling idiots over them (the power! MUHAHAHAHA). I love getting stuff (drinks etc) with relativley little effort. It's almost too easy sometimes!

I hate shopping for clothes, because things fit everywhere except my boobs. I hate that people forget that breast size does not always correlate with intelligence. I hate feeling like a hussy if I wear something fitted, without wanting to project the hussy image - I just don't want to wear a circus tent which "shelfs out" from my boobs. Breastfeeding in public was hard, it was hard to do discreetly because of their size.

I am probably 60% love, 40% hate. PM if you want something more specific.

 

[emap]

More or less what Ketalia said, unless you are only looking for sex having large breasts makes life harder. They are good for getting tips as a waitress, wear a tight shirt unbutton the top three four buttons and almost spill out and you are making 300 a night in tips.

Course there is a downside to that as well, you go home with a sore ass from the pinches, a general distaste of men from the comments you get and what other things their hands did. Of course you gotta act like you enjoy an overweight balding grease monkey pawing at your breasts and drooling on you, but good lord I don't know how I managed to stay interested in men.

Granted the one I have now makes the whole thing worth it, but having dreams of shooting all of the men who grope you because you have big breasts in a bar is a bad thingy.

Now of course I did also use my breasts to get attention, when I wanted a dick in me. There really isn't another use for them without getting pregnant first. I mean seriously look around, the sluts are almost always women with smaller breasts. Not all of them of course but generally speaking the larger the breasts the more attention she is showered in and the less she wants.

Dolly Parton aside of course, her passion is music though and you have to want people staring at you, why she wears what she does. Though if you notice, her off stage attire is more along the lines of hiding what she has than showing it off.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I appreciate the comments above. Again, I appreciate the practical aspects that make the reality of having big breasts less fun. And yes, penis size isn't nearly as obvious when in public. The posters on this thread like sane women who are not sex-obsessed.

But i am left with this weird contradiction. Women with big breasts don't like them and women with small breasts want big ones. And many men like to see big ones, but don't treat women with respect.

I would like to hear about how (or if) women use their big breasts to their advantage. Are there any women with men who adore their big boobs? Are there any women who really love having big boobs in spite of the practical problems.

 

[emap]

I like having them when he is ravishing me.

Otherwise they don't really make flirting easier, I mean I can flirt with a mechanic and get a discount or something extra done, but a women with small breasts can do the same thing.

I think that's what you are missing, women period can flirt and get things done for cheaper or free, her breast size has no actual relation to it, large breasts just mean it is sometimes faster to flirt to a desired occurance. I could say it's easier for a large breasted woman to flirt a married man into doing something but even married men are flirted to doing something for a woman, just easier if she has different breasts than the wife.

There isn't really a positive bonus to having large breasts, large breasted women get the same breast perks as any woman, someone with breasts can play with their hair and show a little cleavage and get things done for cheap or free. The size of said breasts don't matter until you start talking about catcalls and whistles. Not to mention general opinion in an office of her intelligence and reason for being hired. Course that one isn't just in office buildings, though I was teased about it more than damn you hussy screwing the boss and getting hired.

 

[StrongMaster7]

emap, I appreciate what you are saying. I hear two different things. Maybe I'm hearing what I want to hear.

One, all women use sex to their advantage to some extent. But while you say larger breasts are not a particular advantage, my experience has taught me that men zero in on big breasts (at first) and will accord more "favors" to these gals. In time, men being sex-driven, they will find something to zero in on about the other gals.

Two, you love having big breasts when your lover is ravishing you. Excellent! Hot! I am a breast obsessed guy and I love big and small boobs. There is more that can be done with larger breasts. More surface, more mass, more sensation. I would love to hear more about this!!!

A random thought. In every strip club I have been to, the girls with the big breasts get the most attention and the most tips. But they also have amazing defense shields. I think they get more of the unwanted, clumsy and rude attention too. Although, when I have had the chance to talk to these glas they are often very warm and kind.

 

[emap]

Strip clubs are a different environment than basic everyday life, just like a porn movie the larger the breasts the more attention and money is thrown at her. Not because she enjoys the sex more or dances better, because she has big boobs. Guys are incredibly visual so when just looking the bigger the breasts the better.

When you start talking to them they focus on you and you can flirt flaunt the fact you have breasts and bam he's putty in your hands. Most guys can't be looking at anything besides who is talking to them.

As for the open and friendly part, did you not notice I said the same thing about dealing with the disgusting men drooling on me and groping me? YOu act like you enjoy it and like them to get the tips, you also go into the back and puke your guts out. Stripping and waitressing are basically the same deal just one has alot less on at the time. You have to accept and look happy at whatever is done to you so you cna get the almighty tip, unless it's different strippers are paid shit if at all, it all hinges on the tip. Don't you ever wonder why basically all strippers have big breasts? They save up and get a boob job if they are not born with them.

There is no question that most of the time waitresses and strippers are disgusted with their customers, would much rather be shooting themselves or the customers. They just hide it behind a fake smile and laughs, little playing with the hair, jostling of the chest and bam you got dinner for tonight.

Here's something to think about, something like 95% of strippers are bisexual or full bore lesbian, there is a reason for that and most of it isn't with her. Course the percentage fluctuates and may not be that high to begin with, but I can understand it.

 

[StrongMaster7]

emap, I do not dispute a word of what you say.

 

[banes27]

My fiancee has natural 38DD boobs and when she goes bra shopping she hates them and the people making the bras, especially if she specifically wants one that looks nice. I've gone around with her and I have to agree with her that the majority of places that sell bras stop selling nice looking bras after a certain size, usually D-DD and instead start selling purely structural bras.

Obviously at a certain size a structural bra is very very important otherwise what's the point, but they seem to neglect decoration and colour beyond DD bras. There are, of course, certain companies which make more aesthetically pleasing non-sexually-orientated bras but they're few and far between.

I'd also like to say something along the line of fake boobs as well, following that note. I remind my fiancee sometimes that she should feel kind of lucky in that she was born with the potential for boobs which some people through some insecurity would end up paying for, possibly as emap said as the result of the relative lack of attention they get from their natural boobs, which then makes me feel a bit sorry for my fiancee. It is hard sometimes walking around with large boobs when you're single because of all the unwantd attention.

It seems then that big-breasted have been dealt an unfortunate hand in our society. They're neglected in the bra department and can develop back problems and then they have to put up with unwanted male attention and then get a bad reputation because of the women with fake big boobs walking around sleeping with everyone which makes a lot of people think big-breasted women, natural or otherwise, will love all that male attention. And the downside of that is that big-breasted women become nothing more than a sexual target for some men who will never even attempt to get to know them.

I do personally think big-breasted women should always be proud of what they were naturally born with, but in today's world it does seem very hard to do that.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Banes, you make a lot of sense.

Well, I am rethinking my approach to my big breast story. I can see the omni-present nature of some of the negative aspects to being busty. On the other hand, if there is a relationship between two characters that matures into a physical one, then the fact that the woman has big breasts and that sexplay involves them it could be treated a little more realistically than the "big breast as sexual lure/weapon" approach I had started with.

Can anybody possibly be following this?

I'd still like to hear from other women about what they think.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

May I ask why you don't like having larger breasts? Is it a practical matter? Is it a question of unwanted attention? What about wanted attention?

And what attracts you to smaller breasted women? Is it an athletic, fitness thing?

I think they are unattractive. Mine are by no means "very" large at a C cup but I don't like them. (And sure as hell do not like the watermelons hanging on some women's chests.)

To me, A and B cups are very beautiful. I love their shape, look, and feel.

 

[emap]

Oh gee thanks I have those watermelons you know.

Well OK I don't I'm D's but still.

I disagree alot of the breast size looking good or not is determined by how tall and large she is. I mean DD's on a petite little waif woman isn't all that cute, that's like big time male fantasy category, DD's on a woman who is say 6'2" and not petite on the other hand would look pretty good. Serena Williams for instance, she has large breasts but the rest of her make them look perfect.

Now if your talking porn stars, most of them are oversized, though the japanese porn stars almost all look to be 16. They aren't of course I've looked, most are mid 20's and I'm all sorts of jealous.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Well, obviously it's a matter of taste, but I think that the relative attractiveness (or just not looking funny) of big breasts on a woman is as much a matter of body shape as body size. It's also very much influenced by clothing choices and posture. I dated a gal in college who had very large breasts. But she wore baggy sweatshirts and sweaters that disguised her bustline. A number of guys who had seen of many times were stunned to see her a more revealing dress.

Conversely, I remember a girl from high school who known for her boobs, who really just sat up straight all the time and walked upright without slouching. I think she enjoyed (some of) the attention. But she wasn't all that busty really.


As much as I like the look of a busty porn star, I prefer the natural look to the inflated nosecone look. Not that anyone asked.

 

[Firebrain]

I like my breasts, although I liked them more before I had my daughter, when my nipples were a little smaller. I'm lucky that they are still very high and round and they give me a lot of shape in clothes.

I'm not particularly conscious of them, but then I'm curvaceous as it is - a UK 16 - so I suppose they fit in with the rest of my body. If they were stuck on a teeny body I imagine they'd be a little more troublesome.

 

[CheshireChat]

I've been lucky enough (?) to be on both sides of the line - not that mine have ever been especially huge, but I was an early bloomer back in Year Seven and received far more attention from guys than I wanted (not all of them schoolboys either, which might have been easier). I was delighted by this for all of two weeks, then was driven further and further into a shell I only started coming out of when the rest of my body (and most of the other girls in my year) caught up with me!

Now I feel much more comfortable with my body and while yes, some of that was doubtless 'just' teen insecurities, I think that had Mr Perfect been drawn by my breasts when they were (relatively speaking) large, it would have been harder to distinguish him from the boys I was coming to hate.

 

[StrongMaster7]

more great responses.

Cheshirecate, I think you nailed it for me. How is a big-busted gal who stands up tall and doesn't seek to hide herself in baggy clothes supposed to tell the great guy who happens to totally go for busty gals from the prepator grope-artists who never glance up at the woman's face?

 

[CheshireChat]

more great responses.

Cheshirecate, I think you nailed it for me. How is a big-busted gal who stands up tall and doesn't seek to hide herself in baggy clothes supposed to tell the great guy who happens to totally go for busty gals from the prepator grope-artists who never glance up at the woman's face?

Maybe it's easier to tell for older more experienced women but for me I found it impossible (if indeed there was such a great guy among the disgusting letchs I thought plagued me then).

He'd have probably had to start by pretending not to notice them and only later let on how much he liked them. Of course that's starting a relationship based on dishonesty which opens up a whole nother can of worms...

 

[StrongMaster7]

Cheshirecat, in college I dated two girls who were very busty. And I did as you suggest. I became friends with them and then we became intimate. I was always very reluctant to express in words how much I was into their boobs. I was into them as people also. I could not hide my actions when we were intimate.

Only after a couple of months with one of them was I able to blurt out, in the heat of the moment, how incredible I thought her body was and how much her tits turned me on.

Maybe I was dishonest. I never really told them that their figures originally attracted me. I'm not sure how big a deal that is.

 

[CheshireChat]

I'm very glad it worked out then

I guess as long as they/we don't think a guy is only after us for our breasts - that they like other parts of us at least as much - then there's no harm in a little white omission so that we give good guys (like yourself) a fair chance

...though yes, now I'm back in proportion I'm not sure that I count.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Thinking about it, it was really a case of me being too inhibited to talk about my fetish with someone I cared about for fear of being rejected.

You know that is actually a good kernel of an idea for a story that revolves around the different attitudes of a couple toward her big bust. As they go from initial attraction to emotional relationship to whatever, their attitudes could evolve. And of course I could include tons of gratuitous sex centering on big breasts.

Any other thoughts from anyone on this?