bicurious and don't know what to do

[sexyindianawyer]

I'd like to experience some action with another woman, but am not sure how to do this. What I do know is that I am willing to do anything but lick another woman's pussy. More than anything, I want to experience a kiss with another woman. My trouble is meeting someone I trust and someone I won't (and don't want to) become emotionally attached to. I just want to experience the physical pleasure.

I'm also part of a religion and culture which looks down on this sort of thing. I know I want to be with a man ultimately, but want to feel a naked woman.

Any help, advice or suggestions is greatly appreicated.

sexyindianawyer

 

[WhisperHaven]

What do you mean by emotionally attached? Do you mean you don't want to be friends, or that you're afraid of falling in love with a woman because you are afraid of what others may think of your choices?

Sounds to me like your best bet would be to get drunk at a party, kiss a girl, maybe grope her naked body, then later you can blame it on the alcohol and go back to your closet where it's nice and safe.

 

[sexyindianawyer]

I'm not concerned about enjoying being with a woman, as I'm sure I will enjoy it. In the simplest sense, I just want to find out what it's like to be with a woman. I know ultimately, I want to be with a man (I love the feel of a penis), but it's the curiosity of being with a woman. I never got it out of my system in college, and am now looking to fill a curiosity.

Going to a party and groping a woman won't cut it either. I'm not a heavy drinker.

As for emotions, I kind of want a one night stand.

 

[conntom2002]

u sound like the female version of me ! as for finding the situation...its hard...i got lucky it found me

 

[conntom2002]

u sound like the female version of me ! as for finding the situation...its hard...i got lucky it found me

 

[sexyindianawyer]

how did you find it? or it find you? i'm getting really horny these days thinking about it and just want to know how to at least begin my search.

 

[Etoile]

I am so biting my tongue. http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/look-away.gif

 

[sexyindianawyer]

don't bite your tongue. be honest, even if it's harsh. maybe i need to snap into reality and haven't done it yet. i'ma big girl and can handle it. i'm open to most everything.

 

[Etoile]

Okay, you asked for it.

To me you're coming across as fake. I think you're making this up. It sounds to me like this isn't for real. I mean, come on. You're "willing to do anything but lick another woman's pussy"? Why the hell not? It sounds to me like you're making this up in order to laugh at those of us who respond in a helpful manner.

If I'm wrong, fine. I can handle that too. And maybe I'll never know if you're for real or not, which is fine.

 

[sexyindianawyer]

This is all new to me. I can understand your senitments and I respect that. All I can say is that I know I want to see how it feels, but am scared, as well. It took me awhile to be able to go down on a guy.

I'm not a fake. I'm trying to get a advice from women who are there or are in the same boat as me. The reason for the one night stand is also fear. Uncertainty causes fear.

 

[Etoile]

See, that's all I needed to hear. I'm glad you understand why I was initially leery - it's just that around here (the GLBT board) we are susceptible to people faking gay posts for their own amusement, so I'm always kind of "on guard" for that in the back of my mind.

I wish I had more to help you with, but I've never been in that situation. I do wish you luck, though, and I will keep checking in on this thread to see how you're doing.

 

[shescurious]

Honestly, I can relate to you on some levels. When I first became aware of my attraction to women I felt the same way. The thought of feeling a womans naked body and kissing their soft lips turned me on beyond anything. But I also did say I didn't really think I could eat pussy. I was wrong.

The only advice I can give is be open and honest with the woman you decide to be with. She needs to know how you feel and that you only plan on using her for an experiment.

 

[sexyindianawyer]

Thanks for believing me and not viewing me as a fake.

As for being honest with the women, I plan on doing nothinb but be honest. I have no intentions of hurting anyone in the process. My problem at this point is finding someone who can help me, i.e., the woman willing to play with me. I decided I would not seek the help of others, until I knew what exactly I wanted. I know, and if anyone out can help, please.

I'm not interested in men seeking amusement from this. If you write me posed as a women, well, let's just say payback's a bitch.

Any women out there who can help or give me some advice, please write.

 

[WhisperHaven]

Well I have to apologize because my initial response was entirely sarcastic, even though you don't seem to have caught the bite of it.

Look for a PM from me.

 

[janisjoplin197888]

curious?

Here's a thought...If you can't exactly go out in your area and try to meet a lady, why not post an ad here in the personals? That way you can get all the basics worked out in the event you do decide to meet someone. I posted an ad here, and met a girl. Turned out more things happened that what I expected to. (became emotionally attached) But it's great, she's a real sweetheart w/ a big heart. Neither one of us thought that things woould happen the way they did. We still see eachother. I've come to know her family and all pretty well. Anyways enuff of that, my point for you to post an ad here is mainly so you can get the "details" worked out in the event that you meet someone. GL hope it works out for you.

 

[Mixed emotions]

confussed

Hello, I am new to this board and I was hoping for some advise or just someone to listen to me ramble out my emotions.....lol

I am 39,not bad looking, marriade, three children -so whats my problem...

I am attracted to women also, I was raised that this was wrong, but I fantasize about them and I even kissed a women before...I really enjoyed it....How do I tell my husband this without him becomming insecure? my parents would disown me and I think my children would be ok with it. I raised them to be open minded.

I like men but I also like to look and dream of women. Am I crazy?

I am so confussed with my emotions...

thank you for listening..

 

[brinkeedinkee]

Re: confussed

Hello, I am new to this board and I was hoping for some advise or just someone to listen to me ramble out my emotions.....lol

I am 39,not bad looking, marriade, three children -so whats my problem...

I am attracted to women also, I was raised that this was wrong, but I fantasize about them and I even kissed a women before...I really enjoyed it....How do I tell my husband this without him becomming insecure? my parents would disown me and I think my children would be ok with it. I raised them to be open minded.

I like men but I also like to look and dream of women. Am I crazy?

I am so confussed with my emotions...

thank you for listening..

instincts. follow them. make mistakes. learn from them. be happy with what you have, and always look for more. not better, more.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

I'd like to experience some action with another woman, but am not sure how to do this. What I do know is that I am willing to do anything but lick another woman's pussy. More than anything, I want to experience a kiss with another woman. My trouble is meeting someone I trust and someone I won't (and don't want to) become emotionally attached to. I just want to experience the physical pleasure.
I'm also part of a religion and culture which looks down on this sort of thing. I know I want to be with a man ultimately, but want to feel a naked woman.
Any help, advice or suggestions is greatly appreicated.
sexyindianawyer

When I started reading this thread, I swear I was having a flashback to when I was bi-curious. 10 years later I am in the best and most loving relationship with a special, beautiful, and wonderful lady. An existential love better than anything a man could offer (which is not much but dick, my opinion, please no one take offense). You are just a bit nieve, like I was at one time.

I was affraid of what my family would think if they new I was curious about woman (raised in a religious home). As for religion(let me guess, Mormon) (I had the same hang up at the time I was deciding to satisfy my curiosity), christians are not suppose to look down upon anyone. It is not there place to jugde and if they are doing so they are sinning. God (no longer believe in him myself) has given us the right to choose our own path in life. Make our own minds up and decide what is right for us. He loves us no matter what we do, christ died for are sins and all is forgiven if you have been saved and accept him as your savior. Do not use religion as an excuse not to full-fill your happiness in life. God would not want that, he wants you to be happy. He forgives if that is what you are worried about.

First honey to trust someone you have to have some kind of attachment (A bond, as of affection or loyalty; fond regard). Be it acquaintances, friends, one night stands or lovers. When you share yourself intamatly with someone you create a bond, therefore an attachment.

As far as going down on a woman, I felt the same way, untill it was put to me this way. First off do you give head? If so, believe me when I tell you a woman taste, smells, and is much more erotic to go down on than a dick. Plus you do not have something being rammed down your throat. The pleasure you can bring a woman when you are pleasing her is so incredible, that you should want to bring her the satisfaction she brings you. It is fear of the unknown that you are experiencing here. Face your fears.

I know ultimately, I want to be with a man (I love the feel of a penis)

As to this comment. Untill you experience being with a woman you can not be sure you only want men. Thought that once too, how wrong I was to try and make myself believe this. Sounds like religion talk again. Honey there are dildos, strap ons, penis shaped bullets and whole lot more you can enjoy with a lady if you want dick. Plus these toys have great benifts. Stay hard, some feel like the real thing, no clean up from them(except your own, and your companion can clean that up so much fun, and can not get STDs from them.

Well hope this small novel helps you some.

Just be true to yourself and do not care what others think. make yourself happy, because till you find that right person for you out there, you are all that matters (not in a self-centered or selfish way).

The Ex

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Re: confussed

Hello, I am new to this board and I was hoping for some advise or just someone to listen to me ramble out my emotions.....lol

I am 39,not bad looking, marriade, three children -so whats my problem...

I am attracted to women also, I was raised that this was wrong, but I fantasize about them and I even kissed a women before...I really enjoyed it....How do I tell my husband this without him becomming insecure? my parents would disown me and I think my children would be ok with it. I raised them to be open minded.

I like men but I also like to look and dream of women. Am I crazy?

I am so confussed with my emotions...

thank you for listening..

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Re: confussed

Hello, I am new to this board and I was hoping for some advise or just someone to listen to me ramble out my emotions.....lol
I am 39,not bad looking, marriade, three children -so whats my problem...
I am attracted to women also, I was raised that this was wrong, but I fantasize about them and I even kissed a women before...I really enjoyed it....How do I tell my husband this without him becomming insecure? my parents would disown me and I think my children would be ok with it. I raised them to be open minded.
I like men but I also like to look and dream of women. Am I crazy?
I am so confussed with my emotions...
thank you for listening..

I hope the above post from me helps you also.

 

[Dumpling]

Re: Re: confussed

I hope the above post from me helps you also.

I dont think theres is anything wrong with this Luv. just be carefull
that you dont get hooked to much for what ever your looking for <---from ling

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Re: Re: Re: confussed

I dont think theres is anything wrong with this Luv. just be carefull
that you dont get hooked to much for what ever your looking for <---from ling

You have lost me Ling. I have what I was looking for. I am totally hooked on Pollyjean. Wsas trying to help the other ladies out looking for advice. By the way nice to meet you.

 

[Dumpling]

Re: Re: Re: Re: confussed

You have lost me Ling. I have what I was looking for. I am totally hooked on Pollyjean. Wsas trying to help the other ladies out looking for advice. By the way nice to meet you.

So why to you keep asking Sweetie, indecsions ? GO FOR IT
Nobody can make up your Mind for you ENJOY hun from ling

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: confussed

So why to you keep asking Sweetie, indecsions ? GO FOR IT
Nobody can make up your Mind for you ENJOY hun from ling

Either I am just being really blond today or you have me completly lost. Who is Sweetie? I have been out of the closet for a lot of years and am in a very monogymous relationship with Pollyjean. I defenitly know that I am the only one that can make my own mind up, and sure the hell do not care what others think... I stated I use to feel the way sexy does but got over that a long time ago. Only I can be true to my feelings and that is all that matters, my happiness and the happiness I bring Pollyjean.
Read my tribute to her Ling and you will see I most definatly have what I want and nothing anybody says or does is ever going to change that. And just because I am a major flirt on the board does not mean my feelings and love are not true for PJ.

 

[Dumpling]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: confussed

Either I am just being really blond today or you have me completly lost. Who is Sweetie? I have been out of the closet for a lot of years and am in a very monogymous relationship with Pollyjean. I defenitly know that I am the only one that can make my own mind up, and sure the hell do not care what others think... I stated I use to feel the way sexy does but got over that a long time ago. Only I can be true to my feelings and that is all that matters, my happiness and the happiness I bring Pollyjean.
Read my tribute to her Ling and you will see I most definatly have what I want and nothing anybody says or does is ever going to change that. And just because I am a major flirt on the board does not mean my feelings and love are not true for PJ.

Iam sorry if you got me all wrong and I apolegize, for even being so stupid to post anything on there at all .If youwant me to erase it please feel free to pm me. I will gladly disapear from here .
ling