Bi questions if you please

[Cardinal]

I am married to a pretty straight woman.
I had a bi/gay experience while in high school with a friend that went on for a few years on and off.
Still, sometimes when I masterbate I think about it and him. Also, I have a bit of a panty fetish, as in I like to wear them.
I have recently tasted my own cum a few times and I want to play with my wifes pussy after we have sex and would love to go down on her after sex, but I'm pretty sure she would say 'no.'

Anyway to my question. Does my recent fantasy and activity mean that I am bi or am I just your average middle aged husband who doesn't get enough sex?
Thank you for your help!

 

[DarkAurora]

You are probably bi but it shouldn't have any effect on your relationsip with your wife. As for going down your wife, why would she say no? She's missing out a very pleasurable experience if she does say no! I can not see why for the life of me why someone would turn down oral sex from thier partner.

 

[CJontherocks]

Does my recent fantasy and activity mean that I am bi or am I just your average middle aged husband who doesn't get enough sex?
Thank you for your help!

I don't know, Cardinal.

What I mean is, that's for you to decide. If you had an intimate experience with another male, I believe that doesn't necessarily make you bisexual. If you fantasize about sex with other males, I don't believe that makes you bisexual either. It might just mean you had a sexual experience with another man, and you liked it, and you look upon it favorably and use it in your fantasies.

What makes you bisexual (and I use that term instead of gay because you haven't given any indication that you are not sexually attracted to women) is what you decide to do with whatever it is you're feeling. You decide whether you're bisexual, not us. We can stand around all day and say, "Man, that dude is as bi as they come." But we don't really know. To me, sexuality is a matter of personal choice.

Having said that I also feel compelled to admit, if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, then it's probably a duck. If you fuck a bunch of men because you like to fuck men, and still fuck women because you like to fuck women, then you're bisexual, even if you don't wish to admit it. But to fantasize about being with a man because you've been with a man before... that might just be a little sexual exploration.

I ate bats once (survival school). They tasted pretty good. I probably wouldn't eat them again, but I can imagine if I was hungry enough, I would. I'm not a bat-eater.

On the other hand, I've had sex with men before. I enjoyed it. If I meet a man tomorow and I'm attracted to him, I'll have sex with him. In fact, I'm looking forward to meeting a man I can have sex with. I'm bisexual.

Do you see the distinction?

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

It's ok to have fantasies, everyone does. Personally I would say introduce your wife to the idea playfully. Get her thinking about it. You never know you may find something out about her that she may have been afraid to tell you because she thought you were the one that was a bit uptight.

If she is ok with the thoughts then kick it up a notch as they say

 

[Volz]

As for going down your wife, why would she say no? She's missing out a very pleasurable experience if she does say no! I can not see why for the life of me why someone would turn down oral sex from thier partner.

Because we women are self-conscious about it anyway, let alone after sex when it feels 'dirty' down there.


Just make sure to tell her how much you will enjoy it and that you want to do it for her.