Bi curious and could use some help from women

[Jessicamarie1983]

My husband and I have talked about including a woman in our sex life but we’ve never taken the step to include a woman. I guess our only hang up is me. I wonder if once we do start things up I’ll get grossed out and we’ll have wasted her time. I could absolutely see getting turned on by kissing her and feeling her body but I just don’t know that I could go down on her. I don’t even like my husband to kiss me after he has gone down on me. Would you say the bi possibility is probably not likely because of that or should I explore. And if I’m going to explore how should I start? How did you start? Thank you in advance to anyone who can help me with this!

 

[tonyreid]

finding the right woman

I think you should use an advert on here or other site and explain it just like you did on here . Explain your fears and your concerns , Trust me there will be plenty of woman who would be up for it or may even feel the same nervousness as you do . My wife and I never pressure people and alwyas just go with the flow as long as everyone is happy ! Good luck and have fun

 

[FL30]

My husband and I have talked about including a woman in our sex life but we’ve never taken the step to include a woman. I guess our only hang up is me. I wonder if once we do start things up I’ll get grossed out and we’ll have wasted her time. I could absolutely see getting turned on by kissing her and feeling her body but I just don’t know that I could go down on her. I don’t even like my husband to kiss me after he has gone down on me. Would you say the bi possibility is probably not likely because of that or should I explore. And if I’m going to explore how should I start? How did you start? Thank you in advance to anyone who can help me with this!

Just be yourself and don't get pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. If you do find another women to bring into your sexual relationship, then you need to set the ground rules.

Let her and your husband know, UP FRONT, that you'll only do what you feel comfortable with and if you don't want to do something then you WON'T. Doesn't mean that you won't do it in the future, just not right now.

Don't let him/her pressure you into dong something that you don't want to do, it could lead to resentment.

 

[Jessicamarie1983]

Thank you

Both of your responses were very helpful! Thank you so much for writing!

 

[chame1eon]

It's hard to find a women who's both single and wouldn't feel like a sex toy if all you want to do is add a women. It's not that they don't exist it's just very rare and they can afford to be choosy.

Could be easier to find couples on swinger sites but they tend to want to swap...

 

[Jessicamarie1983]

That’s a good point. You are so helpful Chame1eon! Thank you so much!