best way to get my husband to try bdsm

[hotliz]

how can I get my husband to tie me up and give me a good spanking

 

[Miles Long]

how can I get my husband to tie me up and give me a good spanking

Have you asked him?

 

[Trigger_Warning]

Have you asked him?

The simplest solution is usually the best solution

 

[plesmoreagain]

Oh, just tie him up while he sleeps and see what happens.......

 

[hopingforthebest]

Us men do not take hints well. Tell him in no uncertain terms what you would like, "tie my hands behind my back, put me over your knee and spank my ass until it is bright ass red". That is the type of hint it takes at times.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

^^^ this. Sometimes the subtle hints just go complete over our heads. You have to sometimes tell us exactly what it is you want. Communication it the second rule of marriage, while honesty is the first. Talk to each other. It does work.

 

[shinytem]

Encourage it in bed, tell him you are open to trying new stuff.

 

[twister947]

For many of us, hitting a woman crosses a line. For me to cross that line, my lover would have to be absolutely clear and specific as to her wishes, and I would need constant feedback. Maybe not the scene you want, but there it is.

 

[Kimlikes]

I just asked my husband if he would try it with me , he said yes it was as easy as that

 

[NightL]

Has this just been shifted here to the How To...? I can't believe it got so little attention.

anyway

The things we do for love

I had a partner who requested pain - so not my thing - but I was in love. I had no joy in administrating (on direction) but the grins in return made it worthwhile.

If a spanking is requested - paddle away.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

When you talk to him. Be upfront, honest. Have a talk away from the bedroom. So he gets what you’re saying. Tell him this/ these are what I want to try. Tell him exactly why. A few days after you try it. Assuming you do. Have another talk. Tell what is felt like. What it made you feel physically and mentally. Let him know what did and didn’t work for you. Hell you’re both learning.

 

[DreamingOfMyEx]

Find some stories for him to read as part of the foreplay, or in the hopes of getting to the foreplay, or maybe from a "maybe we can think about spicing things up in the bedroom" perspective. Maybe not try to get him to try it right away (after reading various stories about various kinks) - but have a conversation about it another time and mention a few things you'd like to try and ask him what he thinks.

Maybe rate kinks from 1 to 10, with "tie me up and spank me" as an 11. Men may not be good at taking hints, but if he doesn't get that one then we might need to talk about more serious issues.

 

[Britva415]

how can I get my husband to tie me up and give me a good spanking

You haven't explained what the obstacle is. What has got you afraid to dare to just talk about it?

 

[Noor]

I would just ask him, but be prepared if he says no. Some people just can’t tie another up and/or hit them.
I couldn’t do, except to one person that I have underlying anger at, but I wouldn’t because I would probably beat the hell out of him

 

[Cardinal]

Buy a riding crop and give him permission to spank you

 

[Kimlikes]

how can I get my husband to tie me up and give me a good spanking

I just asked my husband

 

[SissySalina]

O, for gosh sake, just give him a paddle with a pink bow tied around it!!

 

[Kimlikes]

O, for gosh sake, just give him a paddle with a pink bow tied around it!!

Oh yess lol

 

[redrearedheifer]

how can I get my husband to tie me up and give me a good spanking

I’ve been outright asking and begging for a decade. My husband isn’t even slightly interested in it …. Then again he thinks sex every 3-4 months is more than sufficient

 

[LoneMilf]

I think some of the advice given here might be a little counter-productive. If you tell your partner exactly what you want them to do, they will feel they're just carrying out orders - which isn't great when you're actually trying to get them to be more assertive...

It's easy for guys on here to suggest just being direct - if they're on here, they're most likely already pretty open to trying out new sexual ideas, so being direct would work well for them. Not everyone is like that.

It's more important that you have a conversation about what kind of excitement you'd like and why. If he understands why you want something, he will be much more motivated and can be an active participant instead of just a pawn.

Of course this requires that you understand your own needs well enough to articulate them beyond the 'I want to be tied up and spanked' - if you aren't quite there yet, Lit is just perfect for that kind of exploration

 

[Fufumberuk]

how can I get my husband to tie me up and give me a good spanking

Invite me over and I can show him how it's done

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

I chatted with Hubby. I ended up having to guide him through a lot. The night I got him to take to me with a crop killed his interest. It wasn't the actual night, it was seeing me flinch every time I sat down over the next few days and knowing he caused that. He couldn't take it. No matter how many times I said I enjoyed it, it didn't matter. It's just not his thing.

 

[Older_Pervert]

I’ve been outright asking and begging for a decade. My husband isn’t even slightly interested in it …. Then again he thinks sex every 3-4 months is more than sufficient

Oh dear! Time to take a risk I think…….

 

[emme8]

Or she needs to find someone else to spank her.

definitely talk to him straight up. I NEED more sex and I really want to try this. If you are happy with the rest of the relationship you tell him that too. Stroke the ego a bit. But ask for what you need.
Find out what he needs /wants. And hopefully it will be to watch you get fucked hard by a bull so you are both happy.

 

[redrearedheifer]

Oh dear! Time to take a risk I think…….

He likes to share and watch