Best practices for MMF :)

[curious_hubby]

I fantasize about an MMF with my wife, me, and an attractive man who isn't afraid to touch me even if he isn't bisexual. What are the best things we could do together, besides taking turns with my beautiful wife?

I get quite breathless whenever I think about us naked, say in the kitchen, standing behind her while she leans back into me and takes our young friend. With my right hand, I offer him her breasts, while with my left hand I reach up between her legs to her cunt and scissor his penis between my fingers. When she is about to come I reach down to her clit, feeling everything--his penis, her cunt, their hot breath... This entire time my penis rises to touch her legs, his legs, her cunt, his penis, all wet, hot, and sticky...

Damn.

What would you do? If we should move this thread to another forum, I hope someone will let me know.

 

[SexyChele]

Whew! Things just got a little warm for me here! *LOL*

Well, let's think - you could the following:

1. Young friend fucks wife
2. You fuck wife
3. Some one fucks wife, while the other gets a oral sex
4. Double penetration
5. You stroke the young man off
6. He strokes you off
7. You and the young man stroke each other off
8. Your wife gives both of you a blowjob, while you both play with her
9. Wife blows you
10. Wife blows young friend

And, of course, the ultimate:
11. Both men sucking each other off
12. You fucking young man
13. Young man fucking you

Yes, I know those last three are what most consider extreme, but who knows? In the heat of the moment anything can happen!

 

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[Native Alien]

i would suggest that you make sure not to spring this as a surprize on her without understanding the full consequences could be.

if this is a fantasy of hers then i would suggest a discussion on actually doing setting it up well before hand.

emerald has a very valid point with both of her suggestions.

 

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[ApplesMcgee]

score!

Valid points must be a bonus.

How much are they worth ?

Also, who's keeping score?

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[Guest]

Re: score!

 

[Native Alien]

i consider them very valid points in that i have known several couples whose marriages didn't stand up to a threesome of any mix.

 

[curious_hubby]

Question

Emerald_eyed is totally right, of course. It would never be a surprise (Just imagine: "Guess what I have for you honey tonight--no not flowers, a ring, or chocolates. Nope--a man!! Wait, I can explain...") And it would be dangerous to the relationship, though I don't know *how* dangerous; it would depend on all three, I guess.

So she gets points from me too...

However, I would love to know any real stories of people who did this and what happened. The internet is such a fund of anectdotal evidence ("I know someone who..."), that I am always wondering...

I bet couples fall into 4 categories:

1. Experiment a few times, stop, stay together.

2. Experiment a lot for a littel while, stop, stay together with some trouble.

3. Have a little fun every regularly but not often, stay together

4. Just screw up and get divorced

And, ..., I do like the fantasy, even if that is all it ever is. Wow... Penises, a vagina, skin, hot breath, fingers, tongues, (pant, pant). I imagine us just not saying anything at all for 2 hours...

So, any feedback would be welcome...

 

[TallOne]

I guess we fall into category number 3. We do the swingers thing on occasion, but maybe just 3-4 times/year. And never with the same people twice, no matter how good it was.
The relationship is strong as ever.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

That's neat.

It's interesting that you choose not to have it with the same couple again. Are the other couples aware or your agreement beforehand? If not, that could make them feel as though they pushed you away.

However, I can see some merits to only going at it with a couple on one occasion. It's also good to see that it has made your relationship stronger. I think the same will happen for me and my gf if we ever get into the lifestyle. It's something we have both had a fantasy or two about.

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[mutilato]

another option.

What about couples who experiment often, stay together easily and have a great time.

my wife and i have never had a problem with the threesome (or more) issue. It's just fun and we always leave together. We get along great and we love to do whatever turns the other one on, regardless of how severe it might me.

I was initiated into the idea of open relationships when I was much younger by a couple of my friends whose relationships were very strong and very open. They always had this secret together and the same attitude my wife and i have. There's certainly no way she's leaving me and I know for absolutely sure that there's no way i'm leaving her. That would just be misery.

 

[badbabysitter]

Thank you mutilato

I'm also involved in a rather open relationship and we've been known to share out bed quite often. my lover is a very heterosexual male who doesnt mind seeing me with another man, and/or sharing me with him.

My personal belief is that this new person may get to play with my body but my heart belongs to my man.

After all he's the one i'll always come back to and cuddle with in the night.

 

[ExtacyCouple]

We probably fall into #3 and would probably get into it more if time permitted. We talk about it regularly but it only really happens every so often. Before anything ever happened I did not ever think I would be interested in a MMF threesome but that all changed after my first one. I found it to be very exciting to see my wife with another man.

Although we injoy this very much I could see that if you were not totally secure in your relationship or have any hint of jealousy it would be a total disaster. I think the biggest thing is just opening your mind and realizing that just because your wife or husband has had physical contact with another person does not mean that they love you any less. They will probably love you more because it is a total display of trust. But the truth is way to many people get cought up in their insecurities to ever make it work.

Hey badbabysitter, I have kids could you babysit for me?

 

[mutilato]

Oh no.

don't you understand? She's a BAD babysitter.

I think that may mean she eats all your chips and then forgets to brush the kids' teeth.

 

[ExtacyCouple]

I have a feeling I could look past that.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

that's important..

I don't think you can even try something like that if your relationship isn't already secure. Using that to secure your relationship would definitely be a mistake.

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[curious_hubby]

Hmm, lots to think about...

Like I say, I don't think we will do this soon or without lots of thought and discussion. It is more a fantasy for me which we joke about or allude to every once in a while.

One of my questions is whether most folks' playmates are friends or people they meet just for sex?

Enjoy

 

[mutilato]

either

You can play with friends or just sexual playmates. Most of the time, if the sex is halfway decent and you get along with them well, you will probably want to continue. Most of the things that make for a great friend, make for a great sex partner anyway.

Look for people who:

1. respect the crap out of other people's relationships. Never have a fling with soemone who has a s/o but won't include or tell them. they won't respect your relationship either.

2. Respect and understand that people want different things. If you are not the cup of tea of couple number two, and your s/o digs them, how prepared are you to let your s/o play.


Make sure you and anyone you play with will:

3. come up with every rule you may think you need to have and then err on the side of caution.

4. Stop any sort of sex play immediately and finally, happily and with no recriminations or regrets if one person involved loses interest. This makes everybody else, including your s/o feel comfy about their involvement. Joke about it, have fun with it, turn the attention away. If your s/o feels like you are out to be on their side, it will grease the wheels further.

5. intersperse lots of love type play into your unique relationship with your own s/o. make sure that your s/o knows that it is their involvement that makes it hot and that the two of you together can still do anything you want.

6. Never, ever, ever use anything your s/o did in a group play situation in a fight, ever, ever. It's a game, not part of an argument. If your s/o fucked three people at a party with you the night before and you are in a fight today, that will not be part of the fight.

7. do not compare performances. It's unnecessary.


If you and your s/o are a couple who can go to the library and have fun together, you can probably swing and have fun together. group scenes are a way to have fun if you already are fun. If you need something to make you fun, this is not the thing.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

excellent!

Those are a really nice set of rules. Makes perfect sense. This shouldbe posted somewhere on lit for people to follow

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